love1336x Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 (edited) I recently added my ex best friend on Facebook. To be honest I wanting somebody to tell my ex.. that I moved on, and I know his friend is the perfect target to tell that information. I know everyone gonna tell me, "By adding this man you HAVE NOT MOVED ON" Ugh. if you are gonna bash me or whatever type of non-sense go away! I understand that you are a perfect human being with no jealous, no person has ever dumped you for another... the best type of revenge is living your life. Which I have done! but it's nice to break N.C without actually doing soo.. ANYWAYS back to the friend... He's been really sweet, and flirting with me... I am confused. Because isn't their a man code not go after a woman who is an ex of your best friend? I like him to be honest. I think he's cute, and does have good head on his shoulder... BUT if it's a trick... I am afraid. He didn't have to add me on facebook, but he did. He didn't have to say hello, and ask how I am doing, along with other nice stuff... What's your opinion? You think he's just being nice, or maybe wants to trick me? Men don't usually plot evil crap like this, but never know! Oh wow, just realize I put my post under coping.. this needs to more of... dating? Ugh. Edited August 22, 2013 by love1336x Cuz I put it under the wrong fourm.
Author love1336x Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 Ehhh, don't go there girl :bunny: Have you?
Knoxpwns Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 (edited) I recently added my ex best friend on Facebook. To be honest I wanting somebody to tell my ex.. that I moved on, and I know his friend is the perfect target to tell that information. I know everyone gonna tell me, "By adding this man you HAVE NOT MOVED ON" Ugh. if you are gonna bash me or whatever type of non-sense go away! I understand that you are a perfect human being with no jealous, no person has ever dumped you for another... the best type of revenge is living your life. Which I have done! but it's nice to break N.C without actually doing soo.. ANYWAYS back to the friend... He's been really sweet, and flirting with me... I am confused. Because isn't their a man code not go after a woman who is an ex of your best friend? I like him to be honest. I think he's cute, and does have good head on his shoulder... BUT if it's a trick... I am afraid. He didn't have to add me on facebook, but he did. He didn't have to say hello, and ask how I am doing, along with other nice stuff... What's your opinion? You think he's just being nice, or maybe wants to trick me? Men don't usually plot evil crap like this, but never know! Oh wow, just realize I put my post under coping.. this needs to more of... dating? Ugh. the man code depends on a lot of factors, including but not limited to; - Your relationship with both your ex and his friend during the relationship - the way your relationship with your ex ended (usually, the nastier, the less likely he should be interested) - how much of a real friend he really is to your ex - time passed since your breakup Honestly, I have had feelings for friends partners before. What did I do? Nuked them from orbit, and started treating them like "one of the guys" One of my super close, best friends forever, been hanging out with him since we were teens, friends? I would never touch one of his ex's in a million years. You can be the greatest person in the world, but I would never do something to lose one of my friends. You might drop my goofy ass in a month, or a year. when would I lose my friend if I avoided you? probably never. If he was like an OK guy that I don't mind chilling with, and I was interested in you, I might talk to you, but it would be many months after the breakup.. like, half a year or more. simply because I'm not super good friends with him, but I wouldn't talk to you until a lot of time has passed simply out of respect for him. would I plot against you with him? Honestly, I would probably ask to stay out of it, but if they really pressed, I wouldn't have that hard of a time plotting against you. this would ONLY happen if they were a super close friend, so my interest in you would be 0 anyways, in this situation. Edited August 22, 2013 by Knoxpwns
LostInTheWild Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Meh, I did that stupid stuff when I was a teenager. I bought myself a 9 year heartache. Wish I could flush that who scenario down the toilet. I might be a different person today.
Yookie Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I know everyone gonna tell me, "By adding this man you HAVE NOT MOVED ON" Ugh. if you are gonna bash me or whatever type of non-sense go away! Oh ok so you only want us to tell you what you want to hear? No problem... You're ex is going so be soooo jealous he will wet himself and his buddy will totally dump his friendship to be with you because you're the hottest chick on FB and then you two will make beautiful babies together and live happily ever after!
BradJacobs Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Oh ok so you only want us to tell you what you want to hear? No problem... You're ex is going so be soooo jealous he will wet himself and his buddy will totally dump his friendship to be with you because you're the hottest chick on FB and then you two will make beautiful babies together and live happily ever after! Someone beat me to making this post. OP, since you aren't over your ex how is it going to go if his friend expects the three of you to hang out? Or are you going to try to turn this friend against your ex?
gaius Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Don't listen to anyone who spews nonsense about the bro code. It doesn't exist. Any guy with a normal amount of testosterone will have sex with his friends girl given the chance. He'll do it just to get one over on his friend even if he's not that attracted to you. It's what men do. Do whatever you want to do. It's like if any other guy was chasing you. Maybe he's serious or maybe he's just trying to get laid. It probably has a much higher probability for drama though since he's your ex's friend.
Knoxpwns Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Don't listen to anyone who spews nonsense about the bro code. It doesn't exist. Any guy with a normal amount of testosterone will have sex with his friends girl given the chance. He'll do it just to get one over on his friend even if he's not that attracted to you. It's what men do. Do whatever you want to do. It's like if any other guy was chasing you. Maybe he's serious or maybe he's just trying to get laid. It probably has a much higher probability for drama though since he's your ex's friend. You're either a really biased woman or a really ****ty man.
Woop1337 Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I recently added my ex best friend on Facebook. To be honest I wanting somebody to tell my ex.. that I moved on, and I know his friend is the perfect target to tell that information. I know everyone gonna tell me, "By adding this man you HAVE NOT MOVED ON" Ugh. if you are gonna bash me or whatever type of non-sense go away! I understand that you are a perfect human being with no jealous, no person has ever dumped you for another... the best type of revenge is living your life. Which I have done! but it's nice to break N.C without actually doing soo.. ANYWAYS back to the friend... He's been really sweet, and flirting with me... I am confused. Because isn't their a man code not go after a woman who is an ex of your best friend? I like him to be honest. I think he's cute, and does have good head on his shoulder... BUT if it's a trick... I am afraid. He didn't have to add me on facebook, but he did. He didn't have to say hello, and ask how I am doing, along with other nice stuff... What's your opinion? You think he's just being nice, or maybe wants to trick me? Men don't usually plot evil crap like this, but never know! Oh wow, just realize I put my post under coping.. this needs to more of... dating? Ugh. Your a woman, Im pretty sure there are other men, pursuing you. So yeah, indulge those guys. Just be receptive to someone else. This guy is best friends with your ex. It's a bad look. You know it. Guy code? Nah, more like, its the the right thing to do.
Author love1336x Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Oh ok so you only want us to tell you what you want to hear? No problem... You're ex is going so be soooo jealous he will wet himself and his buddy will totally dump his friendship to be with you because you're the hottest chick on FB and then you two will make beautiful babies together and live happily ever after! OMG! Really? I am so excited:love::love: Too bad I am not the one coming on to his best friend... All I did was request. He's doing everything himself.
Author love1336x Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Don't listen to anyone who spews nonsense about the bro code. It doesn't exist. Any guy with a normal amount of testosterone will have sex with his friends girl given the chance. He'll do it just to get one over on his friend even if he's not that attracted to you. It's what men do. Do whatever you want to do. It's like if any other guy was chasing you. Maybe he's serious or maybe he's just trying to get laid. It probably has a much higher probability for drama though since he's your ex's friend. Yea, that's why i am shock because men usually avoid drama... not create it. So, I am feeling it's more of a trick to see if he can get me to make me confess, or be bad ex girlfriend and sleep wit him.
Author love1336x Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Someone beat me to making this post. OP, since you aren't over your ex how is it going to go if his friend expects the three of you to hang out? Or are you going to try to turn this friend against your ex? Uh... no? He's a grown man. He's 27 years old... I doubt I can get him to turn against his best friend... Whatever happens happens.
stillafool Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I think the best friend really thinks you always secretly like him and now that you are no longer with your ex it is okay for him to get some. I doubt seriously he is thinking you are in contact with him because of your ex. Afterall, he is your ex,, right. Now you ex will certainly not want to have anything to do with you when he finds out about your contacting his friend. He is also going to think that you always secretly crushed on this friend and now that you are single you are going after him. He will more than likely think you are a skank and is so glad you are his ex. But hey, if you think it will work go for it.
crederer Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Why would you outright tell someone that you've moved on without them asking you? If my ex made a point of letting me know she's moved on when I didn't even care enough to ask, would tell me that she has indeed not moved on. Also, if they're close friends stay away. It's really poor etiquette. If they just hang out from time to time, then it's also kind of poor etiquette but not as bad. If one of my buddies made a move on my ex there'd be some pretty extreme consequences. But I have a feeling you don't really care about that, as long as you have a guy around.
Author love1336x Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 I think the best friend really thinks you always secretly like him and now that you are no longer with your ex it is okay for him to get some. I doubt seriously he is thinking you are in contact with him because of your ex. Afterall, he is your ex,, right. Now you ex will certainly not want to have anything to do with you when he finds out about your contacting his friend. He is also going to think that you always secretly crushed on this friend and now that you are single you are going after him. He will more than likely think you are a skank and is so glad you are his ex. But hey, if you think it will work go for it. O___O I am not chasing him though! When he comment on my photos, I just say, "thanks rob" And don't think I be posting half naked pics on FB. I don't. Lol... I wouldn't say secretly. I think he's hot. But, overall I don't really know him. Only from what my ex have told me. He is a good man.
Author love1336x Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Why would you outright tell someone that you've moved on without them asking you? If my ex made a point of letting me know she's moved on when I didn't even care enough to ask, would tell me that she has indeed not moved on. Also, if they're close friends stay away. It's really poor etiquette. If they just hang out from time to time, then it's also kind of poor etiquette but not as bad. If one of my buddies made a move on my ex there'd be some pretty extreme consequences. But I have a feeling you don't really care about that, as long as you have a guy around. Hmm, do i come off as attention seeker? Sorry, if i do. I am beautiful 23 year old with a lot going on. I just don't need a "guy around" I am not desperate. I am not 50 with no job or anything going for me. So please step off.
Author love1336x Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 I'm a little bitter how our relationship ended. We was together for a year and purpose to me. I said no because too fast, and he went back to his ex who was nothing more than gold digger. So If wanting a his best friend to tell him. "Wow she's been doing great" hurts him then I'm happy. Killed me over it.
stillafool Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 O___O I am not chasing him though! When he comment on my photos, I just say, "thanks rob" And don't think I be posting half naked pics on FB. I don't. Lol... I wouldn't say secretly. I think he's hot. But, overall I don't really know him. Only from what my ex have told me. He is a good man. It's not a matter of you chasing the friend. It's that you invited contact with him that will raise suspicion. I doubt if this friend will even tell your ex about it because he probably wants to bone you and not have his best friend fine out about it. Not that it should be a problem for his friend (your ex) because he already has someone else.
StanMusial Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 OMG! Really? I am so excited:love::love: Too bad I am not the one coming on to his best friend... All I did was request. He's doing everything himself. This is kind of slimy. I think you know what you're doing, just trying an indirect route so you can avoid responsibility for the oncoming shetstorm.
StarsOnFire Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Just as it's a game to you, it's probably a game for him too. Have fun with that.
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