catlady2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I found out my boyfriend of five months had been flirting with a girl he doesn't know personally online. He denied having a g'f to her (she asked him) and he stopped chatting with her last month. When confronted, he said he was sorry and that it was more of a 'fantasy' thing for him; that while he considered meeting up with her at one point, he decided not to act on it and dropped it. Forgivable or dumpable offence? What do you think?
Philosoraptor Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Sounds like he's testing the waters. What makes you believe if he'd flirt and deny your existence online, that he wouldn't do the same out in the world? Completely dumpable. Wouldn't even give it a second thought.
MrTurk Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Go ahead and stay with him…marry him…have kids together…women love playing the submissive role and letting guys throw out every excuse possible to deflect their disrespectful actions.
pureinheart Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I found out my boyfriend of five months had been flirting with a girl he doesn't know personally online. He denied having a g'f to her (she asked him) and he stopped chatting with her last month. When confronted, he said he was sorry and that it was more of a 'fantasy' thing for him; that while he considered meeting up with her at one point, he decided not to act on it and dropped it. Forgivable or dumpable offence? What do you think? Back in the day I would have shined this on- now I would see that he sees me as collateral damage should something better come along. Seriously, he has the real deal in front of him, but chooses a fantasy world...this is really something not to let go IMO.
Betterthanthis13 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Go ahead and stay with him…marry him…have kids together…women love playing the submissive role and letting guys throw out every excuse possible to deflect their disrespectful actions. Do you ever have helpful advice for anyone? Or just rude sarcastic comments?
Betterthanthis13 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I found out my boyfriend of five months had been flirting with a girl he doesn't know personally online. He denied having a g'f to her (she asked him) and he stopped chatting with her last month. When confronted, he said he was sorry and that it was more of a 'fantasy' thing for him; that while he considered meeting up with her at one point, he decided not to act on it and dropped it. Forgivable or dumpable offence? What do you think? Is this the type of behavior you expect from a boyfriend? (I hope not) Would you ever do something like this to someone you wanted to be with? I think you should dump him immediately. Go NC and be strong about it. On the off chance he "comes to his senses" and starts moving mountains to be back in your life- cross that bridge when you come to it. Right now he's just a manipulative jerk. Ask yourself--what is the message you are sending by forgiving this behavior? I'm sorry if I'm being a hardass. If you want to stay with him thats your decision-- just know he is manipulating you. Manipulators are always "sorry". They are "sorry" when it suits them and gets them what they want. (Hint: they aren't really sorry- just sorry they got caught)
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