Ex girlfriend broke up with me and is in a relationship 2 weeks later

[FearingTEN]

Okay i've had enough. I can't take it anymore. I can tell myself to move on, but I always go back to square one. Yes, I know I have made ALOT of threads, but please bear inmind that I not only use this site to seek help but also to vent. So please no negative comments. I would really appreciate it if you could understand. Thank you.

 

Anywase, I guess I should start off by saying that I just lost my first love. And not to sound concieted, but I thought I was doing a pretty good job on being a boyfriend. I ALWAYS thought of her before myself. Everything I did, everything I wore .. was all to attract her. I loved her. No matter how much she got mad at me, I always had unconditional love for her. I NEVER called her names in any way. I always told her I loved her from day one. We were together for two and a half years.

 

A year into our relationship, however, she admitted on having a crush on this other guy. I tried my best to let it go because she told me "Don't worry baby. Sure, I might like him, but I LOVE you. I will never leave you baby". So I tried my best to forget it and continue or relationship.

 

But, she began talking and hanging out with him more & more. This went on to the point of where I got a hold of her phone and saw how she began flirting with him. I broke it off that day, but she begged me to take her back. The break up didnt even last a day. She promised to try her best to stop talking to him. But obviously that did not happen. It continued on, which made me VERY over protective and led to many arguments.

 

These arguments led to HER breaking up with ME. She said things like "We just aren't working out anymore" or " I only love you as a friend". I was devastated.

 

Two weeks after the break up, she began dating that guy. The guy I hated SO much. She began being bitter and cold as I begged and cried for her. This begging and crying lasted for two months when she texted me:

 

"Please leave me alone. STOP. I don't wanna talk to you! Stop calling and texting me.

 

And

 

"I'm in a happy relationship. Also you're irritating so STOP"

 

The last text brought me to tears when she said "im in a happy relationship" as if ours wasn't. She told me many bitter things. She told me to leave her alone, she doesnt love me anymore. Things like that. The harshest things you can think of.

 

I loved this girl to death. And I dont want to sound like a jerk, but this guy is a loser. He doesnt drive, he ALWAYS asks for favors and doesnt have a job. I just wish she could see what I see.

 

Well, that was my story ina nutshell. There was MUCH more that happened in between but thats the pretty basics of my story.

 

Look, I know I have to move on. But I love this girl WAAAAAY too much to accept reality. How can I get her back? Is this guy a rebound? I love her so much so please help me. Anything will help. Two days ago, I started no cntact and its KILLING me. Please help. Thank you.

[FearingTEN]

Please help ?/:

[Philosoraptor]

My previous response still applies:

 

Do you really want to be with someone who could drop and replace you so easily?

 

But I digress, she had been planning on leaving you for awhile for this guy. She had an easier time dumping you as she had a new guy lined up, and jumped to him once things were clear. In her head she is moved on and happy, so you need to do the same. Take care of yourself, gather some self respect; and eventually you'll find someone who values, respects, and treats you as well as you treat them.

 

Stop worrying about what she has going on in her life. Stay NC and take care of yourself.

[flitzanu]

she had this planned out a Loooong time ago. there isn't anything youre gonna do to "win her back", she made the decision to leave you to bang this new guy. she is being very clear that she has moved on and wants you to stop contacting her.

 

the more you try now, the more pissed off she is gonna be. block her and go NC, find a girl that wants to be with YOU.