KansasChica Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 So, my ex and I dated for about 4 months and he broke it off. I immediately went no contact for two months, when he reached back out and told me that he missed me a lot and didn't realize what he had until it was gone. I told him that the trust was gone, but was receptive to us talking again. I've been trying to take it slowly, but he wants to jump right back where we left off... I just feel like something is off and I'm having a really difficult time trusting him. I still feel like we have a connection and I really like him, but I just find myself being insecure and hyper-paranoid about this whole situation. Even the tone of his texts sometimes .... I don't want to be this way and I've never been in this situation before- possibly getting back with an ex. Any advice?
iouaname Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 You can't have a relationship if there's no trust. Not that it is your fault for not trusting him, but being insecure about it is going to eventually create a self-fulfilling prophecy in which you'll push him away. You already know that you can survive without this man, so don't let the 'worst case scenario' cause so much anxiety for you. If you're just not happy, though, then you should really reconsider why you are in this relationship... 1
hinatticus Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 You need to talk to him about. When my gf came back she didnt trust me for a while. She eventually regained the list trust though.
LostInTheWild Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 He rushed YOUR feelings. Trust me -- I've been there. You will be miserable for a long time, maybe even be miserable long enough to lose the relationship again (not that it would mean it was your fault, you just kind of become numb and give up after a while). You could try counseling, but still, the fact that he rushed you means something was wrong with his situation and he needed an "out." That "out" was you (at least it was in my experience). I wouldn't say fly off the handle and dump him, but be aware -- without trust and proper communication you will be in a world of hurt the second time.
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