blazerrr Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 The title says it all. Has anyone actually got her ex gf/bf back from a rebound relationship by using NC or nonchalance? If yes, how long did it took? How long were you together? I know those are pretty silly questions and I'm about give up all my hope and already moving on, but it's interesting to hear such kind of stories.
Philosoraptor Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 You're asking these questions so you have hope to hold onto. People can get back together, but unless both parties mature and grow, they will fall back into the same relationship that they weren't happy enough to stay in before. A rebounder who doesn't take the time to mature is likely to bounce around again even if they rebound back to you. 1
Author blazerrr Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 (edited) You're asking these questions so you have hope to hold onto. People can get back together, but unless both parties mature and grow, they will fall back into the same relationship that they weren't happy enough to stay in before. A rebounder who doesn't take the time to mature is likely to bounce around again even if they rebound back to you. The reason why I ask this is because we broke up 1,5 month ago (we were in LTR), and she basically left me for another guy. Went into rebound right after we broke up. At first month I did all the desperate stuff, beg,angry,hot,cold,flowers etc. Then I told her I'm going NC, cuz I have to meet other people and get over from her otherwise I'm a wreck... and started to implement it. Week went past, she is already asking me for movies - NC 10 days past, she is making me compliments and sending some Youtube "love" videos to me - Still NC 12 days past, she is telling me that it wont probably work out with her new BF - Still NC So basically, she is going deeper and the signals are going stronger, but still not a single REAL action. Maybe she is scared to dump the rebound and she might think that I won't take her back. Maybe she is just holding me on the hook - I don't know yet. Wondering how long can I do this. She is basically telling me that she has feelings, but don't take any serious action. I also told her to not contact me unless you want to reconcile and AFTER that I'll think about it. (I didn't say anything about her rebound) I'm thinking that I'm about to take control and she is about to fall. I'm not answering her calls etc, I have basically cut her off. - I have never done this in the past 4 years with her. Few days ago I saw her in the town (she didn't notice me), but I saw that she had been cried. Edited August 22, 2013 by blazerrr
Nicoleiia Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I got my ex back after NC. It took about a year and by that point I wanted nothing to do with him. Please stay NC for atleast 6 months. All these little messages she's sending you are breadcrumbs. The dumper doesn't like when you turn it around and start ignoring them. If she left you, then let it be. Do not break NC because you WILL regret it. 1
barky2 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I " got my ex back using nc" Oh wait no I didn't, I got her back by focusing on myself , improving, letting go,moving on. I say tomato, u say tomatoe. Barky 2
amtz Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Like others mentioned AT THIS POINT YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT YOU AND NO ONE ELSE, but givin that you want to read a nice "second chance story." Here is my share of the war. Three years ago I got burned bad! It was the first time I lived with someone, we were two lovebirds. We had rough times, but we always worked things around for the best. After 6 or 7 months I came from work and she told me that we needed to talk. The talk was only to come up cold to tell me that she DID NOT LOVED ME NO MORE! I panicked, wept, mourn & begged to work things out and guess what? I only grew her ego and just like that she told me to get a grip and there is more to life.... The following 3 months were hell on earth to say the least.... I spent days, weeks in agony crying not eating nor sleeping reading LS stories all day.. In time I did think of her, but the pain was all gone I just remebered her like I remembered my old car or my kinder garden teacher. I rebuilt my self from ashes and became a true warrior... In fact later on I laughed at myself for spending so much time in pain when she didn't give a rats ass!! GUESS WHAT? 7 or 8 months after being in NC she added me to FB out of the blue. She asked if it bothered me and chit chat for a while (less than 10 minutes) I excused my self and told her that it was nice talking to her that I was going for my nightly 3 mile run which was BS since I had just made it back from a 2 hour leg workout Without looking back I just deleted her from FB and continued with my life without carrying what she made of it! I went on with my life fell in love twice, went on trips, met great people, had so many wild parties over all had blast. 1.5 years after the brake up we crossed each other at a club we both were drunk an eventually got laid next day I woke up and didn't feel a crap for her... We did continue to see each other for like 5 months, during all this time the only thing she mentioned was how stupid she was by letting me go THAT I WAS TRUELY THE LOVE OF HER LIFE! jajajajaja do you think I cared?? HELL NO!! She of course did more than ever, but I just simply saw her as a sex partner pretending to love her.... Eventualy I met someone else which I love with all my soul and that is why I'm here posting again because we broke up 5 days ago So to wrap it up NC is meant to make YOU grow a better person! To get your ideas straight, TO MAN YOU UP! In time you wont give 2 cents for your ex or your ex ex YOU WILL LIVE IN THE PRESENT EMBRACING THE MOMENT NOT THE PAST NOR THE FUTURE. Once you reach that state of mind everything and anything will come to you by itself. You are not alone! Stick to LS it is a holy grial WE ARE ALL TOGETHER IN THE SAME BOAT Will pray for you 3
Coping Vortex Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 The reason why I ask this is because we broke up 1,5 month ago (we were in LTR), and she basically left me for another guy. Went into rebound right after we broke up. At first month I did all the desperate stuff, beg,angry,hot,cold,flowers etc. Then I told her I'm going NC, cuz I have to meet other people and get over from her otherwise I'm a wreck... and started to implement it. Week went past, she is already asking me for movies - NC 10 days past, she is making me compliments and sending some Youtube "love" videos to me - Still NC 12 days past, she is telling me that it wont probably work out with her new BF - Still NC So basically, she is going deeper and the signals are going stronger, but still not a single REAL action. Maybe she is scared to dump the rebound and she might think that I won't take her back. Maybe she is just holding me on the hook - I don't know yet. Wondering how long can I do this. She is basically telling me that she has feelings, but don't take any serious action. I also told her to not contact me unless you want to reconcile and AFTER that I'll think about it. (I didn't say anything about her rebound) I'm thinking that I'm about to take control and she is about to fall. I'm not answering her calls etc, I have basically cut her off. - I have never done this in the past 4 years with her. Few days ago I saw her in the town (she didn't notice me), but I saw that she had been cried. What she is doing is very common. You think she wants you back. She just misses the routine she was used to with you. When they meet someone new its exciting but then they start to miss the routine of the old relationship. However, they rarely come fully back. My ex told me over and over again how she was still in love me I was the one she really wanted to be with, she is not giving up on us blah blah in the end. She never did come back. Everyday she is with him, she gets closer to him and further away from you. I know you what you think is happening. But it really isn't in the end. My ex saw me behind her new Bf's back. Texted me even had sex with me, but never came back.These are just lingering feelings because you have more history with her. Every day she builds history with him you will begin to fade for good. I know you don't want to take what we are saying to heart trust us that have been there. Just remember these are just lingering feelings. Not "in" love feelings. Tread lightly and don't get your hopes up. Do your self a favor and start pulling away as much as you can.If she wants you she knows where to find you.
Dez Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 my sister's ex boyfriend dumped her 2 years ago. she went on to have several relationships. now this month, that ex begged her to come back.. and it worked.
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