bougs Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 (edited) my girlfriend is a korean and we've been together more than 1 year but her visa is expired and she needs to go back to korea. when we are together we are really happy but things gone wrong when she's living in korea now. she don't reply to my txt and return my calls. after she got her job she's always busy and always complaining about the job. she said that there's a lot of pressure and stress. i keep calling and texting her. suddenly she decides that it's better if we are just friends because she don't feel guilty at all if she can't return my calls. i admit that i get angry if she didn't reply or return my calls before. i changed for her and accept everything. right now she told that she still like me a lot but she don't know if she still love me because we are far from each other. right now i stop texting and calling her. hoping that one day she might realize that losing me was her biggest mistake. please help.. i dont know what to do.. i dont wanna be friends with her Edited August 22, 2013 by bougs
Soat Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Move on. Unless you're moving to Korea this is over. You're wasting your time.
Philosoraptor Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Cut the contact. She is obviously done with the relationship, and space has made her come to the conclusion that she doesn't love you anymore. Heal up, move on, and you'll find someone else you care about.
Author bougs Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 she wants to continue our communication. she said that we don't know what will happen in the future. she promised me that she will not date anyone. what should i do???
Philosoraptor Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 what should i do??? Not put your life on hold.
Soat Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 she wants to continue our communication. she said that we don't know what will happen in the future. she promised me that she will not date anyone. what should i do??? See my breakup guide http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/418580-my-7-step-guide-breakups
Onward_Upward Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Sorry mate, but unless you can move to Korea, it's probably over... I KNOW that's not what you want to hear, but take it from us "older" folk... In time, you'll heal, and you'll move on completely. Young love is a wonderful, innocent thing... Everyone thinks their "first" true love will last forever. And that there is nothing on earth that can "keep them apart". But real life is a different matter altogether. I'm sure she "loved" you more than "anything" whilst she was in your homeland, and that even as she got on the airplane she swore up and down that she will love you for all eternity... But the reality is that once she got back to Korea, she would have faced family pressure to go out and find work... She'd be contributing to bills, and paying off either her, or her families, debts... She'd also be under pressure to forget about you, and to find a "nice decent Korean boy". And on top of all that, she has YOU crying and complaining that she's not keeping her word, and communicating with you as she had promised. What terrible pressure she must be under! As such, she has taken the "easy" option (as most folks would), and has chosen to remain just friends, with you... because that eases the pressure on her somewhat. My advice, if you can handle it, is to leave it at FB and Phone Messages.... Don't stress if she doesn't respond immediately... Be mature about it, or "move on", as they say I wish you all the best...
Author bougs Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 should i call her and tell her that we should stop communicating with each other? because before i told her that i will contact her anymore and she said that she's hurt. she cries a lot. i did that two times already. she told me to never do that again because she didnt give up on me. she told that why i always such things so easily. she said that she hate it. that's the reason i don't know what to do.. what to do next??
Philosoraptor Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 should i call her and tell her that we should stop communicating with each other? because before i told her that i will contact her anymore and she said that she's hurt. she cries a lot. i did that two times already. she told me to never do that again because she didnt give up on me. she told that why i always such things so easily. she said that she hate it. that's the reason i don't know what to do.. what to do next?? You don't need to contact her to tell her you won't contact her anymore. Just don't contact her anymore, and go out and do things for yourself instead of worrying about what she's doing.
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