snappycg1996 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Me and her had a horrible breakup and we went no contact after that. I called her a week after our breakup, and she said hello and I said hey and she hung up. I texted her saying that I was really sorry for how we ended the relationship and I wish it would have been different. I didn't get any reply. She wanted to break up because she was unsure about her feelings, we hadn't seen each other in over a month, she never called/texted and we fought, and she "missed being single". Granted, I was insecure and stupid in some ways and that may have caused some of that. :c Fast forward a month and a half after our breakup, we're back in school now. She looks down and depressed all the time. She just looks down and draws/writes stuff and never looks up. When I'm around her she looks down or just stares there and is really really quiet. Her best friend don't sit with her anymore at lunch and she sits alone, and seems really down. One girl sometimes sits with her at lunch. I feel really bad for her. After she gets on the bus, she puts in her earbuds straight away and listens to music, she barely talks anymore in school. She just seems out of it and depressed, and sad. Basically when we broke up she told me to go die basically, and to lose her number, and she started talking to other guys immediately. So that's why we aren't on speaking terms, she did all this and just treated me horribly. In one of my classes today, she was tickling another guy/poking him and I was talking to my friend and they were behind my friend, so I could see them. I think she did that to show off. She talks to two other guys alot too when I'm around. But other than that, she is always alone and sad/depressed. Why is she so sad and depressed? I still love her with all my heart, and even though it hurts, I can't even talk to her. When I called her after our breakup she was complaining about how I was bothering her with one call. Do you think maybe she thinks that she wishes she would have worked on our relationship and is just trying to show off now? Do you think she's alone/depressed because of me? Even her best friend and her don't talk much anymore. She just listens to music and is just by herself. She was SO SO happy after we broke up, saying she was glad she was done with me, and how she is now single and yay this and yay that. I'm acting like I never even dated her in school, I'm not upset, I'm my normal self. Although inside, I'm really still hurting. She's the kind of person that pride would stop her from talking to me, since she already has the upper hand because she hung up on me and didn't text me back after I sent her a long apology text. I have a feeling she might date a guy just to get back at me for some reason. I just wanna know what you guys think about this, why is she so depressed/alone? Is it regrets? Me? Is her flirting with guys in front of me a sign of this? I truly do love her still. Everyone told us how perfect we was together, we was the best couple when we was dating, talked on the phone 24/7, literally, always texted each other, her parents loved me and never loved any of her past boyfriends. I took her to prom and did so much with/for her. She did break up with me though. DX But she looks so solemn and sad and she sits by herself and don't talk to anyone anymore. Thank you (: First forum post, so I'm sorry if this is in the wrong spot, or I did something wrong. D:
Faith13/2 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Me and her had a horrible breakup and we went no contact after that. I called her a week after our breakup, and she said hello and I said hey and she hung up. I texted her saying that I was really sorry for how we ended the relationship and I wish it would have been different. I didn't get any reply. She wanted to break up because she was unsure about her feelings, we hadn't seen each other in over a month, she never called/texted and we fought, and she "missed being single". Granted, I was insecure and stupid in some ways and that may have caused some of that. :c Fast forward a month and a half after our breakup, we're back in school now. She looks down and depressed all the time. She just looks down and draws/writes stuff and never looks up. When I'm around her she looks down or just stares there and is really really quiet. Her best friend don't sit with her anymore at lunch and she sits alone, and seems really down. One girl sometimes sits with her at lunch. I feel really bad for her. After she gets on the bus, she puts in her earbuds straight away and listens to music, she barely talks anymore in school. She just seems out of it and depressed, and sad. Basically when we broke up she told me to go die basically, and to lose her number, and she started talking to other guys immediately. So that's why we aren't on speaking terms, she did all this and just treated me horribly. In one of my classes today, she was tickling another guy/poking him and I was talking to my friend and they were behind my friend, so I could see them. I think she did that to show off. She talks to two other guys alot too when I'm around. But other than that, she is always alone and sad/depressed. Why is she so sad and depressed? I still love her with all my heart, and even though it hurts, I can't even talk to her. When I called her after our breakup she was complaining about how I was bothering her with one call. Do you think maybe she thinks that she wishes she would have worked on our relationship and is just trying to show off now? Do you think she's alone/depressed because of me? Even her best friend and her don't talk much anymore. She just listens to music and is just by herself. She was SO SO happy after we broke up, saying she was glad she was done with me, and how she is now single and yay this and yay that. I'm acting like I never even dated her in school, I'm not upset, I'm my normal self. Although inside, I'm really still hurting. She's the kind of person that pride would stop her from talking to me, since she already has the upper hand because she hung up on me and didn't text me back after I sent her a long apology text. I have a feeling she might date a guy just to get back at me for some reason. I just wanna know what you guys think about this, why is she so depressed/alone? Is it regrets? Me? Is her flirting with guys in front of me a sign of this? I truly do love her still. Everyone told us how perfect we was together, we was the best couple when we was dating, talked on the phone 24/7, literally, always texted each other, her parents loved me and never loved any of her past boyfriends. I took her to prom and did so much with/for her. She did break up with me though. DX But she looks so solemn and sad and she sits by herself and don't talk to anyone anymore. Thank you (: First forum post, so I'm sorry if this is in the wrong spot, or I did something wrong. D: I think there is more going on with this girl other then the break up. It may have hurt her, but she had the chance to reconcile with you. I know you want to help her since you care for her so much, but if she's not allowing you to there's not much you can do. She's made it clear that she doesn't want you to call and speak to her. How long has it been since you've spoken to her now? If it's been sometime maybe you could just go up to her and say something along the lines of "I know you said you don't want to speak to me, but regardless of what happened between us you can always talk to me." She may get mad or angry, but you made a last and final attempt. Honestly I think you should move on though, you can't help someone who doesn't want your help.
Author snappycg1996 Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 (edited) I think there is more going on with this girl other then the break up. It may have hurt her, but she had the chance to reconcile with you. I know you want to help her since you care for her so much, but if she's not allowing you to there's not much you can do. She's made it clear that she doesn't want you to call and speak to her. How long has it been since you've spoken to her now? If it's been sometime maybe you could just go up to her and say something along the lines of "I know you said you don't want to speak to me, but regardless of what happened between us you can always talk to me." She may get mad or angry, but you made a last and final attempt. Honestly I think you should move on though, you can't help someone who doesn't want your help. First of all, thank you for your reply! ^.^ Second, it's been about a month and a half since we broke up. I haven't spoken to her since a week after we brokeup, so it's been a long while since we last spoke. I do really care about her and I want to help her if she's feeling down, but I don't know. It just seems like she can't look up when around me, she's always looking down, and she just seems depressed and alone either way. D; I don't know what to do... :c I agree that she had a chance to talk to me, although it was only a week after we had a nasty breakup. I kinda wish I just knew what was wrong, and why she seems so down. D: Edited August 22, 2013 by snappycg1996 Add details
Simon Phoenix Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 It might have nothing to do with you. Either way, if she wanted your support she'd go after it. But at this point, she doesn't seem to want your support. That's actually a good thing -- she's respecting your feelings and your status as a man and not treating you like an emotional tampon and trying to dump all of her issues on you. It's nice that you feel bad for her, but you trying to get involved might make the situation worse. It could really, really piss her off. So I'd keep your distance.
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