violetsareviolet Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 We've all heard it...we've all said it. Or maybe some of us haven't. I never thought I'd even want to say it again anytime soon...it's a very volatile 3 words. I think many of us say it in pattern to close friends, family, SO's etc... but in most cases you just don't really know its true power, until...well, it actually MEANS something...something you can't even explain. After a very passionate 2 months, I'm having a hard time holding back these escalating feelings that surge through my being...we are absolutely crazy for each other. We started as friends, went on a handful of dates, and everything just fell into place this month. We know and have both said we are meant for each other in this point in time, and we can't get enough. I also realize two months is also not a lot of time...and the L word has the potential to scare people away quite easily. --- I've only mustered the words twice to ex girlfriends; first being the first long term relationship I had wayyyy back in high school, and another time later in my 20's. The second instance was said mostly under obligation; I kinda felt something good but in hindsight, it was said in return as to not make her feel bad. This is not healthy! I took a long break from dating within the past couple years; sick of the mind games women play, their hidden expectations and the general silliness of it all. It gave me time to evaluate myself as a person, my dreams and goals, and relieve any tension I had with exes; how they treated me and vice-versa. Once comfortable with all of this, it truly allowed sails to set on my new course of life...I had no more hesitance to tell people exactly how I felt...whether it be annoyance or praise. She's been out of town for a week and it's been quite a struggle for both of us...we're trying to give each other a nice healthy break...but occasional calls and emails are slipping through the cracks When she gets back on Sunday, we're planning a week long road trip...so anything could happen. I'm a bit nervous as to what might happen if the lighting was just right, the music sounding too good, and/or the wine too tasty. Other folks with more serious partners (past the casual dating stage)...how long would you say it was until one of you dropped the L bomb? Do you wish you waited longer? Said it sooner? --- One thing is for certain. Mortality always lingers. The sun could sneeze on us next week and wipe our little planet out...or one of us could succumb to an accident. I want her to know exactly how I feel with her being a part of my life...but I may have to abide my time for a little longer though, only because I'm having an excellent experience as it is and don't want to be hasty. This is one fact I can't ignore either: I would regret not saying it more than if I did.
UndercoverLover62 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Everyone says it at different times, I've been in a situation where I was in a relationship for a year and still never said it. But one way you could tell this lovely lady that your developing stronger feelings for her is to tell her that you enjoy her company and that she means a lot to you, and your feelings for her are growing stronger. That I find is a way to tell the person that you are definitely thinking about the L word but not actually coming out and saying it. Best of luck to you! 1
Author violetsareviolet Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 But one way you could tell this lovely lady that your developing stronger feelings for her is to tell her that you enjoy her company and that she means a lot to you, and your feelings for her are growing stronger. That I find is a way to tell the person that you are definitely thinking about the L word but not actually coming out and saying it. Best of luck to you! truth! actions also speak louder than words...she already knows exactly what's going on. I've been 100% honest with myself this time and it feels great. it will all sort itself out when and if the universe says "GO, you fool !" thanks! : )
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Too long to read it all, but ill answer the questions. With my man, the first time I said it was during a game of scrabble. I was kicking his butt and we were cracking up and I just... SAID IT. It hadn't been long at all, probably a month or two? All I know is that we both sorta just acted like I didn't say it. Not that I didn't feel it, but I am usually not one to say it unless I know for a fact they feel the same. The real first time we said it was 4 months in, I had been waiting, and waiting, and he finally said it to me one night in bed after we had been bickering. I was at the point where he knew how I felt and if he didn't say it soon, I was willing to move on [i believe you should know whether you love someone after 4 months of spending day in and day out together]. The reason why I hadn't brought it up though was because he showed his love for me constantly. Turns out he had felt that way for a LONG time, but due to a lot of stuff going on [i lost my job, my car, and things were rough] he wanted to wait until we were in a better place. It made sense, especially since I never truly wondered how he felt, he always made me feel loved, just wanted to wait to say it. Either way, I think our story is sorta awesome, not conventional, but its ours and I love it.
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