ActionJ623 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 It's been awhile since i've visited this website (since January in fact ), and i've kept loyal NC since then (No text, calls, etc. etc.). A couple months ago I decided to unblock the ex because it felt like I was harboring some bitterness, so I unblocked and kept moving. No messages or friend request (many of you will probably comment on that decision lol). So it's been about 8 months of NC and i'm thinking to myself "Wow I haven't thought about "her" in awhile I think i'm actually moving on." That statement must have triggered the gods of unfortunate events to attack because the next day I get a fb friend request (haha who needs fb anymore?). Anyway I accepted because I didn't want her to think I hated her and still had feelings for her (which to be fair I kinda do), and thus give her the high ground but the sucky part was she sent no side message. No "Hey just thought we could be friends and talk." (which would save a lot of trouble and cut the BS'ing out). And the thing was apparently she is in a new relationship. I am tempted to make contact to find out wtf is going on. Why do exs do this though, and especially when they are in a new relationship? Ego boost? Backup plans? Thanks for the ideas,support, and advice.
random_guy Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I think that they think that you're a fresh slate again.
flitzanu Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 she dumped you it sounds like. that means she is totally fine being your friend because she moved on long ago. you unblocking her means that she coulda thought you were "over it" now too (which you're not - hence this post), and being over her she can friend req you and see your page and see what you are up to. 3
iouaname Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 It might just be a "water under the bridge" kind of situation where she wants to make nice and is hoping that being Facebook friends means that there are no hard feelings. I would just leave it be, because if that were the situation then she would send you a message eventually. Or, it could be an ego thing. She's in a new relationship and she wants to see how you are moving on in comparison. If that's the case, don't reach out and don't acknowledge any of it. You don't want to let her know that you care. I hate the games, but at this point, it's best to just leave it. She may send a message soon, she might not. Either way, you do better for yourself by not being the one to initiate contact.
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