lovesucks76 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 My GF and I broke up about 16 days ago. I love her but I initiated the break up because I felt things weren't at the same level. I found myself loving her maybe a bit too much. She took us for granted. I think she likes a good chase so she eventually pulled back. I noticed the change and brought it up to her. We had a fight and she said maybe we should take a break or maybe we should just be friends. I said no way, I can't be friends because I care about you too much so we ended up walking to our cars in silent. So you know I don't hate her and she doesn't hate me but I want someone who's invested into the relationship as much as I am. I also learned a HUGE lesson and decided to work on me instead of focusing on her. So I went on with my life and missing her every single day but made sure not to call her or text her. Today I had surgery(deviated septum) and I'm just here watching TV and relaxing when my phone beeped. I was sure it was one of my friends or a family member checking on me but it was HER. She remembered I had surgery today and said " how was the surgery? Hope it went well and hope you have a speedy recovery" I have NOT responded. Curious, what would you do?
Soat Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Be short and polite but don't respond in a way that generates further texts. "Thanks it went well" 2
Author lovesucks76 Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 Be short and polite but don't respond in a way that generates further texts. "Thanks it went well" That's what I was thinking too. It's so funny, I could have loved to have received that text last week. I was very sad. Today I feel better and more confident about things and then this happens......It really tests my resolve. I will be polite and short but I will also wait a couple hours to respond. That's what she used to do to me...make me wait an hour for a response almost every time. I will double that...I will wait 2 hours! 1
Upward_Onward Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 It's great that you're acting so mature through all this, mate And the approach you've taken is the best one, IMO. It gives you both time to think the situation over "rationally" (well, as much as is possible where love is concerned). In the end, if she truly loves you, she WILL come back. And if she decides she doesn't, then it is better you found out now anyway, rather than later, when either marriage and/or children have come into the frey... Believe me, when THAT happens, you truly learn the upper limits of emotional pain and anguish, and how bad it can be ... but I digress...
Soat Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 That's what I was thinking too. It's so funny, I could have loved to have received that text last week. I was very sad. Today I feel better and more confident about things and then this happens......It really tests my resolve. I will be polite and short but I will also wait a couple hours to respond. That's what she used to do to me...make me wait an hour for a response almost every time. I will double that...I will wait 2 hours! That means you still care if you're planning.... Wtf do you care if she waits or not. Respond or not. Do whatever it takes so its not built up in your head as a big deal 2
Author lovesucks76 Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 That means you still care if you're planning.... Wtf do you care if she waits or not. Respond or not. Do whatever it takes so its not built up in your head as a big dealEasy man, I hear you but I do still care unfortunately. I'm working towards not caring. SO you know, I'm not holding any hopes of getting back together either. Lots would have to change before that happened.
Author lovesucks76 Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 It's great that you're acting so mature through all this, mate And the approach you've taken is the best one, IMO. It gives you both time to think the situation over "rationally" (well, as much as is possible where love is concerned). In the end, if she truly loves you, she WILL come back. And if she decides she doesn't, then it is better you found out now anyway, rather than later, when either marriage and/or children have come into the frey... Believe me, when THAT happens, you truly learn the upper limits of emotional pain and anguish, and how bad it can be ... but I digress... Yes, It's awlays better to figure this stuff out before marriage for sure! She's a great girl and I will always care for her but I don't want to continue the relationship the way it was. I'm also not holding hope to reconcile. We will always care for each other but I can't be with someone who doesn't love me as much as I love her. Not worth it! 2
JDPT Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Don't do it, it has absolutely nothing to do with being polite or mature this is about you and your emotional recovery process. Don't set yourself back or up for failure and save yourself future grief.
Author lovesucks76 Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 Don't do it, it has absolutely nothing to do with being polite or mature this is about you and your emotional recovery process. Don't set yourself back or up for failure and save yourself future grief. Thanks man! I will not respond right away but I feel like I should respond eventually. Like I've said, we broke up but I will see again in 2 weeks when I get back to the class we both take. I don't want it to be uncomfortable. We're adults and I feel better now since I started to focus on me and accepted the fact that we're not a good match. We meet a lot of cool people along the way....she is one of those. Too bad we're not meant to be together. 1
Author lovesucks76 Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 It's great that you're acting so mature through all this, mate And the approach you've taken is the best one, IMO. It gives you both time to think the situation over "rationally" (well, as much as is possible where love is concerned). In the end, if she truly loves you, she WILL come back. And if she decides she doesn't, then it is better you found out now anyway, rather than later, when either marriage and/or children have come into the frey... Believe me, when THAT happens, you truly learn the upper limits of emotional pain and anguish, and how bad it can be ... but I digress... BTW, I'm sorry, it's never easy when kids are involved. Now you've got me curious....what happened?
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