fungivore Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 On Monday, I had to attend a training symposium for a teaching-assistant position I will be undertaking this upcoming semester. (I'm a fourth-year college student, male, age 21.) I attended four training sessions that day, and at the second session I attended, I sat next to a girl that I didn't pay much attention to initially. At one point during the session, we had to introduce ourselves to the person sitting next to us. I told her why I was here and she told me why she was here. Admittedly, I found her quite attractive upon seeing her face and hearing her voice. When the session was over, I began to leave but noticed that she was standing alone, checking her cell phone. I'm usually shy when trying to approach girls but I didn't want to let the opportunity to talk to her slide away. I went back up to her and asked her about her major and sparked off a conversation that involved us talking about our studies and work. There was a lunch break right after this second session, so we walked together there and we each filled a plate full of food. I asked if I could join her for lunch; she said yes. We ate and spoke for about 40 minutes (though I admit, I did do quite a bit of talking about myself -- I tried to avoid awkward silences in the conversation). At the end of the conversation (just before the start of the third session), she stated that she needed to make a phone call. She said she enjoyed the conversation and hoped to see me again on campus. I realized by now that I had a romantic interest in her and I asked if I could have her phone number, in case we ever wanted to get together sometime. She answered yes and gave me her phone number. I sent her a text the next day asking if she wanted to get together before school started. She responded today; she apologized for not responding earlier, claiming she was busy, and stated that she would be going out of town with her boyfriend for a few days soon, but that we could maybe meet sometime on the first week of classes. So, she didn't mention a boyfriend before. I don't know if she is trying to be nice to me, but made up having a boyfriend hoping I would back off, or if she is truthful in her words and honestly wouldn't mind meeting up with me. Either way, I know I can't pursue her romantically right now. If the former case is true, I'll back off, but if the latter case is true, I would like to become her friend, and I honestly don't want to try to pry her away from her boyfriend -- if she has a boyfriend, that's something I respect and wish not to interfere with. Should I just go ahead and assume that the latter case is true?
Woop1337 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 You could be right, that she just made up a bf, to put a stop into what you were trying to do. Then again she might really have a bf, so yeah she's unavailable either way. Delete her number. If you see her at campus, be friendly. But dont spend more than 3 minutes conversing with this girl. She knows your attracted to her, you did ask for her number and a get together. At this point, if anything is going to happen, let her initiate. But dont count on it. But good for you, for even asking for the number. On to the next one. Not all, but some girls, will give out their numbers just to get rid of you. Because they cant say no.
Jbum5 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 It's rather common for girls at your age to have a boyfriend so it's less likely that she's lying to you. Many women who are taken don't necessarily see the need to randomly reveal details of their personal life to strangers who they had one conversation with, so this is likely the case with you.
SJC2008 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 So, she didn't mention a boyfriend before. I don't know if she is trying to be nice to me, but made up having a boyfriend hoping I would back off, or if she is truthful in her words and honestly wouldn't mind meeting up with me. Either way, I know I can't pursue her romantically right now. If the former case is true, I'll back off, but if the latter case is true, I would like to become her friend, and I honestly don't want to try to pry her away from her boyfriend -- if she has a boyfriend, that's something I respect and wish not to interfere with. Should I just go ahead and assume that the latter case is true? Truth or not you have your answer. Don't be her friend and "wait in line" just let it go. Props for approaching and getting her number keep it up!
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