Kozmo Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 so me and my ex have been fighting and i told her should weather or not i should be with her again or cut her off completely. she said why am i even stressing, that i'm not ready for a relationship, i need to take time to heal. once i work on myself i'll know what i want. she said i'll figure it out...stop forcing answers and rushing! i told her that ppl have been telling me to move on and she got upset and said, "stop being dependant on what other ppl want, what do YOU want!" i told her that she was right. then she said "hope you give yourself some time.. there's no time limit. be patient for yourself so you know you're making the right choices. i respect whatever decision you make. just make sure it was your own decision.'' so if my ex doesn't want to be with me again, why is she making me choose weather or not i should be with her?? is there a part of her that wants me back in the future??
Simon Phoenix Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 so me and my ex have been fighting and i told her should weather or not i should be with her again or cut her off completely. she said why am i even stressing, that i'm not ready for a relationship, i need to take time to heal. once i work on myself i'll know what i want. she said i'll figure it out...stop forcing answers and rushing! i told her that ppl have been telling me to move on and she got upset and said, "stop being dependant on what other ppl want, what do YOU want!" i told her that she was right. then she said "hope you give yourself some time.. there's no time limit. be patient for yourself so you know you're making the right choices. i respect whatever decision you make. just make sure it was your own decision.'' so if my ex doesn't want to be with me again, why is she making me choose weather or not i should be with her?? is there a part of her that wants me back in the future?? She wants you as a backup plan. She has no interest in being with you at this point, but if all of her other options shrivel up and die, then at least she has you. Stop talking to her and pushing this. Leave her alone and work on yourself. You refuse to go NC and you refuse to listen so you keep getting stuck in the muck. Stop contacting her! 1
Author Kozmo Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 She wants you as a backup plan. She has no interest in being with you at this point, but if all of her other options shrivel up and die, then at least she has you. Stop talking to her and pushing this. Leave her alone and work on yourself. You refuse to go NC and you refuse to listen so you keep getting stuck in the muck. Stop contacting her! she told me her goal is not to date and find anyone. if she's alone for the rest of her life, she's fine with it. sucks because a couple of months before that she told me that she hopes i'm the one she grows old with, that i'm going to be the father of her kids.
barky2 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Dude....she told you that you need time to heal. In your other thread I stated the same thing. She wants to back to the guy she fell inlove with...not who you've become. Take the necessary time to do so if you ever want a chance with her. I've told you before and I'll say it again, stop communication with her!! Your digging a damn hole for yourself when u should be working to make yourself better. Barky 2
Simon Phoenix Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 she told me her goal is not to date and find anyone. if she's alone for the rest of her life, she's fine with it. sucks because a couple of months before that she told me that she hopes i'm the one she grows old with, that i'm going to be the father of her kids. So she'd rather be alone than with you then? That's pretty telling. And everything she said before the breakup is null and void. Either way, you really need to get out of your own way. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Dude....she told you that you need time to heal. In your other thread I stated the same thing. She wants to back to the guy she fell inlove with...not who you've become. Take the necessary time to do so if you ever want a chance with her. I've told you before and I'll say it again, stop communication with her!! Your digging a damn hole for yourself when u should be working to make yourself better. Barky Exactly. This guy just keeps shooting himself in the foot because he refuses to listen and back off. 2
Author Kozmo Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 Exactly. This guy just keeps shooting himself in the foot because he refuses to listen and back off. i've been in no contact with her, i'm acting like i don't care anymore.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 i've been in no contact with her, i'm acting like i don't care anymore. You shouldnt "act" like you don't care. You should not care lol. Easier said than done, but since its over, what else is there to do but move forward. 1
Author Kozmo Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 You shouldnt "act" like you don't care. You should not care lol. Easier said than done, but since its over, what else is there to do but move forward. that's hard to do when i still care and love her. it's hard to move on. 1
lovesucks76 Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 that's hard to do when i still care and love her. it's hard to move on. Totally get you man and I'm sorry. I'm hurting too brother. The thing is we need to have some pride for our selves also respect their wishes. She already told you what she wants....let it be.
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