Fondue Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 How old are you? What kind of girl/boy is this? I go for quirky/nerdy girls. My first dates are always 21+ arcade bars. Stick to beer only, and definitely not too much. Only enough for a very light buzz to get friendlier. Play two player games, kick her butt, laugh a lot, highfive all the time. Feel her out, see if you can put your arm on her back for a sec, hold her hand for a sec after a highfive. Laugh, laugh, laugh. Walk her back to her train/bus/car/etc. afterwards. Take the long route. Hold her hand. If you get that far, consider it a success.
ThomasD Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 What to do on the first date? First date objectives: Get over as much nervousness as possible, help your date get over as much nervousness as possible, and see how far you get toward becoming acquainted with each other as people. The rest is just minor details . . . .
fishtaco Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Back in my single days, I usually date women that are either complete strangers or barely acquaintences... I try to stick to the rule where you don't **** in your own back yard. So I usually walk in not knowing what to expect. Under these circumstances, the best thing to do is: - A public place where you can bail out early if needed - A place where you are NOT paying a bunch of money for her, be it cover charge/food, whatever - A place where you're not distracted by stuff (like movies), and you can really sit down and talk, and see what she brings to the table The goal of this first date is to check things out and setup a real date, should things work out. I perfer coffee shop. You could bail out any time. It doesn't have to last long, anywhere from 30 minutes to however long you want (had one instance we ended up spending the whole day together). You pay for her coffee, that's it. And there's nothing else to do but to socially interact with each other. So that's when you throw conversation at her and see how she responds. And if things work out well, maybe during the course of the conversation you can figure out where would be a good next date (common interest). You don't even have to make a decision right there, you can always just set up a time tentatively and call her back once you decide where to go. It's very low-key and flexible. If this is not fancy enough for her, then you've just dodged a bullet. Someone you know, like if you try to romance a friend, then sure, you can skip this step, because you already have this information. Then just pick something ideally both of you would enjoy.
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