Lolita_Sky Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 1. Claims they are really interested but don't put in real effort to contact you or to see you. 2. When you do reply to their text they some times don't reply until the day after 3. Doesn't show a real interest in your personal life 4. Always texting "wyd" whenever they do text you* 5. They NEVER call you 6.Claims they want to hangout with you but never tries to schedule a date to hangout I'm asking this because I have been approached by a string of guys that have claimed they are interested in me. I give them my number but the amount of effort invested in getting to know me is literally little to none.* One guy I went on a date with seemed sweet but his effort in staying in contact wasn't that great. He always talked about hanging out and spending time together. But I feel if you really like me you'd take out the time to call me up some time to see how I'm doing instead of texting me periodically.When I told him I felt I wouldn't be a good match for him he literally gets on facebook writes a status that he deliberately directed towards me. No he did not say my name but he was talking about me. Saying how nice guys get the ugly end of the stick while j*rks f*ck their trophy girls. I'm like WTF??First of all I'm NO ONE'S trophy girl the simple fact that he referred to me as that offends me and makes me feel as if he just saw me as just that. I was nice to him and was completely open and honest I didn't even waste his time. We went on 1 f*cking date!! I'm tired of being nice to people and getting spat in the face for it . Its not like I used him for a few dates and led him on. No I let him know so he wouldn't waste his time on me. But anyway are these signs that a guy isn't really interested?
sweetkiwi Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 He's not interested. I wouldn't tolerate #1 let alone #1-#100....
Author Lolita_Sky Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 He's not interested. I wouldn't tolerate #1 let alone #1-#100.... Totally agree. That's why I wouldn't give them the time of day...
emva07 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Totally agree. That's why I wouldn't give them the time of day... Agree as well. Not into a relationship with you.Or a committed relationship I should say.
Fondue Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 If I'm not interested in a girl, I wouldn't bother calling/texting. I especially wouldn't tell you that I am interested. And more so, I wouldn't even dream of setting up a hangout. The most I'd do is reply to your texts in a FRIENDLY, but distant way. And if you do schedule a date (if you didn't already know I lack interest), I MIGHT agree to go if it is a cool idea, but I would not give you any sexual attention. I would only treat you like a friend. It would simply be that, just hanging out.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 If I'm not interested in a girl, I wouldn't bother calling/texting. I especially wouldn't tell you that I am interested. And more so, I wouldn't even dream of setting up a hangout. The most I'd do is reply to your texts in a FRIENDLY, but distant way. And if you do schedule a date (if you didn't already know I lack interest), I MIGHT agree to go if it is a cool idea, but I would not give you any sexual attention. I would only treat you like a friend. It would simply be that, just hanging out. They are the ones that periodically initiate contact. I never text/call to initiate contact. They claim they want a relationship with me but yet they lack the effort to back up their words. So I just decided that I'm going to ignore them and just hope they eventually catch the hint that I'm not interested.
Leigh 87 Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I am going to be blunt here, but..... You were not necessarily the trophy girl he was inferring to... I honestly think you could have been either of the "girls" he mentioned in his facebook post. He sounds disgusting, based on the way he spoke about you on facebook for you to SEE. And with dating, if you cannot find guys who adore you and think very highly of you, you gotta look at how you're presenting yourself to the world. If you get treated like that by most guys, then.... Having a good job and being attractive and having good qualities are not enough to attract men; there has so be something about you that makes goods guys interested in you. I have read your other threads and it sounds like you can't find any guy who think your great. There ARE guys out there who would be interested in you, so have a think about why you cannot find them?
Phoe Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 As easy as it is to sort of fall into the habit of giving a guy the benefit of the doubt and trying to find indicators of interest or not interest.... It's almost always easier to assume that if a guy is interested, you will just absolutely 100% know it. If you have to doubt it, you're probably right about that doubt
Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 1, 3, and 6 are huge signs that he's not interested.
aussietigerwolf Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I had a guy do the same thing to me... He had my number and didn't text or call (never gave me his) would very seldom message me on Facebook stating how interested he was and how we should meet up. Yet... Whenever I would say fine, when are you free? That's the last id hear until the next time.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 I am going to be blunt here, but..... You were not necessarily the trophy girl he was inferring to... . I honestly think you could have been either of the "girls" he mentioned in his facebook post. He sounds disgusting, based on the way he spoke about you on facebook for you to SEE. And with dating, if you cannot find guys who adore you and think very highly of you, you gotta look at how you're presenting yourself to the world. If you get treated like that by most guys, then.... Having a good job and being attractive and having good qualities are not enough to attract men; there has so be something about you that makes goods guys interested in you. I have read your other threads and it sounds like you can't find any guy who think your great. There ARE guys out there who would be interested in you, so have a think about why you cannot find them? No he was definitely referring to me as the trophy chick..etc. I stay in shape and exercise regularly. He is fat and very much out of shape. He posted that status moments after our conversation. He was a complete a-hole to me after I was so kind to him about the whole thing. He then lashes out at me on facebook knowing full well I did not deserve that. But its all good. I'm tired of these jerks. I am who I am when they meet me even after things go south. They put on a show and present themself to be something that they're not. Its not like dress a certain way. I hold myself with a lot of respect when people treat me wrong I cut them lose.
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