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so i had a talk with my ex. she revealed that if we got back together it wouldn't be fair because she couldn't give me her all right now. she said this "I really need to be free right now. My heart isn't in it anymore. I don't want to be in a relationship anymore or any time soon because I'm no longer ready to be in one. I'm not ready to share with someone. I need to heal. I hope that I didn't mean for us to end.. I didn't plan on this. Maybe one day we will cross paths again.. Who knows.. I just want you to grow from this, heal with time, and trust faith that there's a path for you.You don't need to prove to me you're a good man because I already know that.. And you don't need to prove anything to yourself if you already know that." so what are your thoughts on this.

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Sounds like she doesn't want to give you false hope. If only some of the other members here were given the same.

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Sounds like she doesn't want to give you false hope. If only some of the other members here were given the same.

 

given the same? what do you mean by that?

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given the same? what do you mean by that?

Given the same treatment. The same respect in being honest enough to not keep you holding on.

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She has a good head on her shoulders. And is simply not sugar coating anything telling you exactly how she really feels. If I were you I would take her words to heart and start your healing process.

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Yep, I would take her words at face value, go NC and move forward. She didn't leave much gray area there.

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Would you say there's any chance for us in the future??

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Would you say there's any chance for us in the future??

 

I don't have a crystal ball, but if I were you, I would act as if this is her final decision and move on with the thought that she's gone for good.

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It's over. NC and move on. Sounds like a great woman that she didn't play games or give you some BS line about "being friends" etc.

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It's over. NC and move on. Sounds like a great woman that she didn't play games or give you some BS line about "being friends" etc.

 

she did say that. we can still be friends, but not now, until things between us are platonic.

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standard breakup speech. she is moving on, dont sit around waiting, she isn't coming back.

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standard breakup speech. she is moving on, dont sit around waiting, she isn't coming back.

 

 

she came back before. i don't see why it can't happen again.

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she came back before. i don't see why it can't happen again.

 

I wouldn't count on that happening. In fact, the fact that she gave it a second try and wasn't satisfied might prevent a third try from taking place. Either way, if I were you I'd act like this decision was final. Would be the best strategy no matter what the end result is.

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So,she's now dumped you two times. And you're hoping for a third try?! Really!? Man up please. You're her doormat

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It's over. NC and move on. Sounds like a great woman that she didn't play games or give you some BS line about "being friends" etc.

 

I absolutely agree.

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she came back before. i don't see why it can't happen again.

 

it worked out so well then, right?

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