Charlie79 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Ok here is quick version...my gf and I have been together just over a year and a half. She is my absolute dream woman but she ended things with me just before Christmas after arguing about her ex. (she Still lived with her. They were together 6 years and engaged but she broke up with then when she met me) I got sick of being made to feel second best. Anyways she went completely cold on me but stayed in contact and we got back together in feb. anyways things were going ok but i started to feel resentful and scared she would just do this again as soon as we hit trouble. I started to back off and wanted space. This sent her into a spin anxiety stress blah blah. And she was in process of selling her house. I basically let her down when she needed me. Anyways we still talked but I started to get confused whether she was the one from me and I was mean to her. I flirted with a friend of mine and she got sent the text by accident. I was down and looking for ego boost I guess. We were seeing each other and I was trying to do all u could by showing her she could trust me...but I could sense she was backing away from me and it was making me anxious and this would make me be a bit mean and wasn't there for her emotionally. So anyways she called me up after saying she wanted me time that day and said she didn't want to lead me on and she just feels numb towards me. Said she feels nothing and wouldn't care if I was with anyone else. Said she didn't love me anymore and had felt like that for a week. We have always had that physical attraction so I was like what you don't fancy me?! She was like I don't fancy anyone I don't want to be with anyone my counseller thinks I need to be single and sort myself out first. At first she said she wanted to be friends but she then took to ignoring me and now saying she is less stressed and would prefer it if I didn't contact her. Now I admit I didn't treat her right..I was confused and a mess and have since woken up and started counselling for first time in my life. She is so stubborn and angry with me but I know she has said she has never loved anyone like me and we are so compatible I just don't want to give up on her but I'm at a loss at what else i can do? The fact I have no patience and quite obsessive don't help. If she wasn't depressed etc I would walk way and accept it but I know she isn't in her right frame of mind and is just running. I don't know.
Ireallydontknow Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Just give her space. I don't like how some of these therapists give out relationship advice. I think a lot of people use therapy for the wrong reasons.
Author Charlie79 Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 Thanks for your reply. I think this is my only option. I'm gonma try and get myself sorted back at gym etc and maybe contact her in a month and see?
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