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MMY

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ComingInHot Established Member

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MMY, do you still check out her online media sites?

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MMY Established Member

MMY

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CominginHot.... I did in the beginning but no anymore, I deleted FB and phone number.

Praying4Peace Established Member

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I agree you're still in a fog. Anyone can get over someone else with NC. However why do ppl think that taking feelings from one person automatically transfers it back to the first? Life those egg timer things where the sand in one side automatically dumps into the other one?

 

You still will be left with a marriage and a W who doesn't get you once you realize/forget/get over your AP.

 

If you found out right now that AP could care less about you, I'll bet you'd be waaaay into your W? Is this true? If so it's just a need for validation.

 

MMY you are totally normal. Both of these relationships are lacking what you need 100%. Part of the emptiness is in you.

 

With MW you have the connection but would it last? Or create more problems in the long run?

 

With W will it be like 20 years ago again if you try really hard? Will she ever understand you? Her affections aren't on a remote control to be dictated by your ever changing view of her.

 

You are having trouble bc neither is doing it for you.

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MMY

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P4P, good to see ya back. I hope things are going well for you. As I tried to explain yesterday, It was just a question posted and everyone has taken that I am wanting ExAP to contact me and pickup right where we left off which is not true.

 

You know my story and I look forward to your answers.

 

I think everyone also thinks that I am a fence straddler that I can't make my own mind up.. Again not true. I have been allowed by my wife to stay and I have chosen to stay. We are working on things and they are going in a positive direction.

Thanks

It-is-what-it-is. Established Member

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As I tried to explain yesterday, It was just a question posted and everyone has taken that I am wanting ExAP to contact me and pickup right where we left off which is not true.

 

You know my story and I look forward to your answers.

 

I think everyone also thinks that I am a fence straddler that I can't make my own mind up.. Again not true. I have been allowed by my wife to stay and I have chosen to stay. We are working on things and they are going in a positive direction.

Thanks

 

For the first time, I see you saying something that gives me hope for you (not that it matters what I think). I would like you to be more open to digging into your thought processes when you make those statements, instead of being offended. (Again, not that it matters, what I think) because, I think having anonymous posters call you out can be used as a way to self check and grow. Things you are not hearing from your wife who has given you a fairly easy time of it so far...based on your posts.

 

I stand by the breaking the addiction post and think you are a dry drunk. Again, not that it matters what I think.

 

I think you can get help here, but it isn't going to be from people who agree with you at every step and don't push your buttons.

 

Good luck.

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MMY Established Member

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I am the type that can agree to disagree and I feel I can learn a little something from everyone. My only frustration comes from (prob my fault) people reading too much into a post. But again, a lot of times I don't word things very well.

 

It Is What It Is... I listen and might not and will not agree with everyone here but I do listen.

 

I have realized that I am in the minority her being a guy. I laughed at a movie with Mel Gibson that I saw the other day about "What Women Want" and thought to myself, I am finding out on LS. haha Have a Great Friday!

dichotomy Established Member

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I am confused a bit by your post.

 

Let me try to answer what I think you are looking to hear. I think your AP left the door open a crack. I think her NC is only till she divorces (if she is doing this as I read from your post). So HER NC may not be "forever", but that's just a guess.

 

Now let me ask you some questions.

 

Your are trying to reconcile you marriage right ? Did your betrayed wife ask/demand that you have forever NC with this OM/MW? Did you agree ?

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MMY Established Member

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Yes and Yes. so I will put a period at the end of this post.

 

Thanks to all. I still believe my post was worded wrong but hey, we made it to Friday!

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Yes and Yes. so I will put a period at the end of this post.

 

Thanks to all. I still believe my post was worded wrong but hey, we made it to Friday!

 

MMY, you can contact administrators and ask them to close a post if you are ready for it to be closed. That's what I would recommend here. Those who answered the question you meant to ask all pretty much said what Dichotomy said in the last post.

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