Each time you get rejected should you go for somebody less attractive the next time?

[AD1980]

If you are getting rejected by attractive people isnt it logical to keep going down in levels of attractivness of people you approach till one says yes?

[Knoxpwns]

If you are getting rejected by attractive people isnt it logical to keep going down in levels of attractivness of people you approach till one says yes?

 

This implies a direct correlation between attractiveness in both parties and their ability to hold a relationship.

 

I have seen some pretty ugly dudes with pretty good lookin' gals, and vice versa.

 

So, OP, would "going down in levels" (lol, like there is some 1-10 chart) increase your chances of being accepted? Possibly. It depends on of the girl is following the same mindset you are.

 

 

TL;DR - Lots of people find lots of different things attractive and not attractive. the idea that there is some caste system of good looks you have to follow is relatively inaccurate.

[nescafe1982]

If you are getting rejected by attractive people isnt it logical to keep going down in levels of attractivness of people you approach till one says yes?

 

That's what each one of my exes did.

 

Seriously though. Listen to Knowpwns.

[iris219]

You shouldn't purposely choose people you find unattractive. What's the point?

 

You should, however, in order to maximize your success, know who you are most likely to attract and go for those people.

[soccerrprp]

If you are getting rejected by attractive people isnt it logical to keep going down in levels of attractivness of people you approach till one says yes?

 

No. No. No.

 

Were you rejected b/c you weren't good enough looking? Is that what past people told you? I always go for the women I find attractive and completely ignore the whole "she's above your level/league" mumbo-jumbo.

 

How disturbingly depressing to consider such a tactic....

[StanMusial]

If you are getting rejected by attractive people isnt it logical to keep going down in levels of attractivness of people you approach till one says yes?

 

Dang. Most guys would run out of people to approach.

[Skyraider829]

If you are getting rejected by attractive people isnt it logical to keep going down in levels of attractivness of people you approach till one says yes?

 

You're basing your dating criteria on physical attractiveness and so it only seems reasonable to deduce that you should play it down more and more with successive rejections.

 

Dating is not deterministic in many ways. You could find a woman (despite your viewpoint) that is a total bombshell and think you are the best thing that came along since sliced bread. She might even ask you for a date. What's the likelihood? I have no idea, but some things like that do happen.

[ThaWholigan]

Don't be a fool. Approach who you are attracted to and stop attaching so much investment in each interaction.

[AD1980]

 

You should, however, in order to maximize your success, know who you are most likely to attract and go for those people.

 

If i knew who id most likely attract i wouldnt have so much trouble in the first place

 

Its hard to know who youd attract when you never have before

[sillyanswer]

If you are getting rejected by attractive people isnt it logical to keep going down in levels of attractivness of people you approach till one says yes?

 

Attraction isn't necessarily logical, so this sort of analysis might not yield the result you seek.

[xxoo]

If i knew who id most likely attract i wouldnt have so much trouble in the first place

 

Its hard to know who youd attract when you never have before

 

Flirt a little bit. See how she responds. If she responds well, flirt a little more.

[AD1980]

Flirt a little bit. See how she responds. If she responds well, flirt a little more.

 

Thats usually when women stop responding to me..they dont mind being friendly but when i try to turn it sexual you could tell they want no part of it

[carhill]

If you are getting rejected by attractive people isnt it logical to keep going down in levels of attractivness of people you approach till one says yes?

 

IMO, one should approach people who are attractive to one. If one's attractiveness standards are primarily based on appearance, that's what they are. If said standards afford them a narrow potential dating pool, that's what happens. Success is still possible, albeit at greater odds than with consideration for a wider variety of appearances and/or other standards of attractiveness.

[Philosopher]

Rather than approaching women you find less attractive, instead you could try and find out what mistakes you have made and learn from them, so you will have a better chance of success next time.

Secondly you could try to make yourself more attractive, for example work out in the gym, learn a new skill or start a new hobby.

[Phantom888]

No you should never downgrade. Also, don't turn anything sexual until you have established attraction and some trust. Don't flirt sexually unless you are sure there is some mutual feelings happening. You should be able to tell if a woman is somewhat interested. It's silly to approach a less attractive woman every time you get rejected. What's the point since you already find her unattractive? Are you trying to practice on ugly girls?

[AD1980]

Don't flirt sexually unless you are sure there is some mutual feelings happening. You should be able to tell if a woman is somewhat interested. It's silly to approach find her unattractive t

 

The feeling is usually never mutual to where i get signs of interest enough to comfortably flirt