FearingTEN Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 I have been doing COUNTLESS hours researching the case known as the "Rebound relationship" but with my situation, its still very confusing to me.. My story in a nutshell -Dated the girl of my dreams for 2 and a half years - A year into it, she began crushing over some other guy - She began talking and hanging with this other guy for sometime -This led to arguments and me being over protective -Following months become rough as she kept talking to him and got me angry everytime - Breaks up with me after countless arguments - She dates the guy 2 WEEKS LATER -Begged and pleaded her to take me back for about a month - Decided to go No Contact after she tells me to "Leave her alone" & that she "loves him" less then a week later I don't know if this a rebound or not, but whatever it is.. all I know is that I' m inlove with her. Any further advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 I have been doing COUNTLESS hours researching the case known as the "Rebound relationship" but with my situation, its still very confusing to me.. My story in a nutshell -Dated the girl of my dreams for 2 and a half years - A year into it, she began crushing over some other guy - She began talking and hanging with this other guy for sometime -This led to arguments and me being over protective -Following months become rough as she kept talking to him and got me angry everytime - Breaks up with me after countless arguments - She dates the guy 2 WEEKS LATER -Begged and pleaded her to take me back for about a month - Decided to go No Contact after she tells me to "Leave her alone" & that she "loves him" less then a week later I don't know if this a rebound or not, but whatever it is.. all I know is that I' m inlove with her. Any further advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. So your "dream" relationship is having your GF mack on some other guy a year after you guys started dating? What kind of relationship is that? You deserve better. As I said in your last thread you started, it honestly doesnt matter what type of "relationship" she is having. Obviously, if they were talking for a full year before she broke up with you, this wasnt some spur of the moment decision. She thought about this a LONG time before she actually did it. You begging and pleading does nothing right now except waste your time and make you look pretty weak. Move on man. Its not easy by any means, but it needs to be done. I know you dont like that answer, but I think deep down you know it too. 1
mercuryshadow Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 This may not be what you want to hear, but sometimes rebounds are not truly rebounds at all. Even fresh out of a relationship, there may be someone just around the corner that works for us; someone who is truly compatible. Each failed relationship teaches us something about ourselves. I'm not saying it is always the case, but sometimes we've learned enough about ourselves throughout a relationship that when it does end, and someone else comes along shortly thereafter, we have learned enough to know what works for us and what doesn't. At this point, I think you are dwelling too much on this girl's good qualities, and not enough on the reality of the situation and perhaps, your incompatibilities. Push yourself to learn from this situation and grow from it. I am not at all advocating what your ex did to you, I am sure it hurts a great deal. (I've been in a similar circumstance). But the reality is that if she could do this to you, she's not the one for you. Find someone who chooses to be loyal to you, and is compatible with you on whatever levels you find most important. Only once you let go of your ex will this be able to happen. Unless, of course, you go into another relationship with the sole intention of filling the void your ex left (which, by the way, is a scenario doomed in the long run).
Soat Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 I have been doing COUNTLESS hours researching the case known as the "Rebound relationship" but with my situation, its still very confusing to me.. My story in a nutshell -Dated the girl of my dreams for 2 and a half years - A year into it, she began crushing over some other guy - She began talking and hanging with this other guy for sometime -This led to arguments and me being over protective -Following months become rough as she kept talking to him and got me angry everytime - Breaks up with me after countless arguments - She dates the guy 2 WEEKS LATER -Begged and pleaded her to take me back for about a month - Decided to go No Contact after she tells me to "Leave her alone" & that she "loves him" less then a week later I don't know if this a rebound or not, but whatever it is.. all I know is that I' m inlove with her. Any further advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. Never beg and plead anyone to be with you (and it never works anyway). Have some pride. If someone doesn't want to be with you don't give them the satisfaction.
theonlyjuan Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 I have never used a girl for sex or anything but after a 6 year relationship, i got emotionally involved with another girl. It was about a few weeks after we broke up. Why? because she made me feel a bit better and it was better than being lonely. I was speaking to her during the last few weeks of my relationship. That all went tits up and a few weeks later I met my current ex. Within about a month I was in a relationship with her. I lied to myself and changed who I was to suit her. I was never honest about our relationship and would have carried on lying to myself even to this day. Only until recently I realised the relationship was not what I was making it out to be. You could say I have rebounded a few times, it's just how some people cope. If they still have issues that they haven't sorted and go into a relationship, it probably won't last that long. Can only lie to yourself for so long. If I told my ex that she was my rebound she wouldn't be too pleased. I am pretty certain that I was hers too, she had a lot of past ex issues. Just leave her to it, you need to get on with your own life now
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