bc321 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Hi, This is eating me up at the minute, please help!!! I was in a relationship for 3 years after having to leave my wife and my kids, she had an affair and I made the age old mistake of staying for 12 months for the sake of the children. 6 months later an old GF got in touch and we started dating, I originally left her because I was too scared to ask her to marry me, but always knew she was the "one", and she said the same about me. Something I have always regretted and beaten myself up about far too much. We were blissfully happy for 2 years, but my ex wife did everything in her power to make me unhappy, mostly putting us all through hell by trying to stop me seeing my kids. It took 2 years in court to get proper access during which time my new partner was incredibly supportive. We lived together with her 2 kids for 2 years and had mine every other weekend. We broke up over a year ago but remained really close, the only difference seemed to be that I wasn't living there, we were still sleeping together albeit infrequently until october last year. She now has a new "friend" but won't tell me if it is more. My kids love her to bits and hers do me, and they think of each other as brothers and sisters. She has said and done some things that I just don't get: - Her kids been telling her that they want us to get married - Telling me to watch certain movie, which was an incredible love story - Texting me asking how I'm doing, then going really cold - Arranging for us all to get together, then taking her kids to see their dad, then taking them to meet new "friend" and his kids all within a 2hr period etc etc. This despite her telling me she has no feelings for me, but knowing I do for her!!! How do I go NC without really hurting the kids? I feel like I need to tell her I'm doing it and why because of just disappearing first time round, without any explanation and I don't want to regret it again. I still love her and the kids, but every time I see them it is like a knife through my heart, as it reminds me of everything I wanted, but lost. PLEASE HELP!!!
Soat Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Hate to say this but you learned a valuable lesson about involving kids in a relationship . With that said the kids are not yours and she isn't your kids biological parent. So be strong and just do NC. Write her a nice and short note saying its to let you move on etc if you feel the need. Just keep it to 3 sentences otherwise you're gonna say things you will regret later. Good luck
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