Orije Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 SO I am dating this girl who i have been with for a few months now and we are very close to each other and like each other alot. The thing is I began hearing more about some guy and I didn't really know the details on him, but i was fine with it. Some time goes by and i began to hear more about this guy and she talks about him. So i confront her and ask about this guy and she says he is a good guy from her past and he is returning home and will move in near her an i thought to myself wtf? Like i promised to not talk/flirt with other girls as long as i am dating her and she agreed the same because she hates cheaters. So im like maybe this is just a good friend. More time goes by and she says how he is a marriage partner and its fate and she says she is joking about it but brings it up every so often and it really does bother me and i told her about it. She told me the guy literally loves her and likes her alot and she said she likes him like emotionally attached but she doesnt "like like like like him" (that is what she said actually) like she likes me. So do you think i am over reacting about this and just ruining our relationship by being jealous of this good friend of hers or what? need some advice. I heard ignoring her for a bit cause she likes me alot will make her wanna connect with me more or miss me more but i am not sure?
Stefanie Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 To me it sounds like she's bringing it up a lot. As someone who cares a lot about monogamy, I'd hate to hear that. Now obviously, you're sick of hearing about and getting suspicious. I think you should ask her how she'd feel if you were doing the same thing. I'm certain she'd be more than annoyed. We all have a past, but most of us know to not let it come crawling into our present lives. I had very strong feelings for my ex, but I wouldn't let anyone I'm dating now hear about it. It's a 'don't ask, don't tell' sort of thing. Her bringing it up only causes drama and I'd hate to be around that. The fact that she makes it sounds like she has some feelings for him sounds to me like she wants you to react. Girls love being 'fought for' and making their man jealous. If anything was really happening between them, she wouldn't talk about him with you unless she's a drama queen or stupid. So, I think she's looking for attention and trouble and you need to talk to her about it.
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