Brown-Eyez Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 (edited) Ok I'm in Day 11 of NC after giving my all to a guy I had been dating for two intense months (after he decided, I think anyway, to dump me, after some immature behaviors on my part, & after my making amends I asked if we were ok and all he texted back was "maybe") so after some breadcrumbs texting on his part whenever I tried to be real with him, I let him know nicely that if he wanted me he knew how to find me...that was 11 days ago (sigh) so anyway now I'm thinking of texting him something light just to re-establish contact...is this a bad idea? Edited August 21, 2013 by Brown-Eyez
Soat Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Let it go. If he's interested he will,contact you.otherwise move on and focus on you! 1
pushforward Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Not worth your time if he isn't making any attempt on his part. Learn from your mistakes and move on. If he comes back, great. If not, you'll be that much further ahead. 1
Author Brown-Eyez Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 Not worth your time if he isn't making any attempt on his part. Learn from your mistakes and move on. If he comes back, great. If not, you'll be that much further ahead. Well I made it through another day and did not contact him, I don't want to be more pathetic than I already am... What I don't understand is the idea that if we don't get back together, that I will somehow be "that much further ahead" it just feels like a big loss to me
iouaname Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 I have never, no. Whether I responded to him reaching out to me or whether I reached out to him, it always made the situation much worse for me.
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 ^^^ Heed thy warning On the flip side, I can tell you that after 5 months of diligent NC, I am doing much better. Now, it has it's own set of struggles, but at least, if nothing else, I have some self respect due to self control!! 3
cavalier99 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 I did after 7 months hard core NC. If you consider a postive result being friendly with no emotional attachment. The only reason i even remotley considered it was because i was completly over it and was in a new RS and curiosity won. No adverse affects whatsoever. Unfortunatly i think you are looking for a different answer. Your only goal should be indifference. This is your holy grail. Cav
xXCountryXx Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I broke NC eventually as a test. i was the dumpee. Turns out our life situations had completely flipped. She was miserable and I was happy. Haven't had the urge to speak to her since.
Omei Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Breaking NC I did twice both times it went well but the same thing was said at the end no matter how great we got along I got "hope you're serious about friends but we will never be together, we can still do sex stuff tho" both times re applied. It hurted all over again like day 1. I will never break it ever again does NO GOOD none!!!
Author Brown-Eyez Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 I am resisting contacting him, by always just asking myself first "what's the point?" He was so strong & certain about me in the beginning, I know what he's like when he wanted me, he clearly does not want me now I am finally losing hope and no contact is becoming, not a waiting game to see when he'll reach out to me, but now slowly the long march away from expecting that we will be together again. I am a very unhappy person.
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