cici713 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 I have a bit of baggage, and a lot has to do with a past relationship. I haven't dated much since then because I know I needed to work on me. I've met a really great guy who I really like. But I feel some of my past is holding me back a bit. This guy opened up to me about his last relationship so I did the same. Now I'm worried I shared too much and my baggage is going to get in the way. He mentioned everybody had baggage and I told him yeah but you move on and learn from it. Can your past, baggage, etc ruin a potential relationship?
todreaminblue Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 unfortunately baggage is something that cant be avoided......you have to trust if he is ok with it and told you so , you have to trust that he is and now move on......a fledgling relationship doesn't need to have the suitcases open at every opportunity they need to be closed and pushed away from affecting the relationship that is new and concentrate on that one now...buy a new suitcase for you are going somewhere new and unknown to you yet...a mystery tour......that doesnt have to end at an old destination and it needs to be empty now to fill with good memories and new trials and challenges new smiles a new love......every single person deserves that chance at a new destination........ in saying that........i need a very strong understanding man who can stand to open my suitcases....before i shut them....and to know that i am not a product of what happened to me.......or what i have done or seen or where i have been but i have learned and grown and survived ...i am never any ones victim never will be.........he has to understand i am different for a reason and love me anyway.......its asking a lot of a man to understand and accept my history and for him to know there are things that even though i can shut a suitcase, it has had an affect that is long lasting..i do have coping strategies firmly in place. so for me.... my history is one that makes it suitable for only a pretty strong hearted guy to stay with me after i tell them....and that....always makes em sad i have to tell knowing theres a chance they will walk away...what can i do ...lie....nah not worth it........but... i never give up hope you know....one day maybe even for me...ill find someone who can throw those suitcases overboard for me hopefully while going to africa to make some awesome memories...........you never know huh? smilin atcha good luck with you and yours...trust your partner knows now and shut those suitcases for the both of you to go travelling somewhere different...happy trekkin.......and i wish you the best....debxx 1
Author cici713 Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 Thank you. You couldn't have put it into perspective any better. It is a great way to look at it. 1
todreaminblue Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Thank you. You couldn't have put it into perspective any better. It is a great way to look at it. you are welcome i am glad i could give you my perspective and that it is helpful to you.......good luck cici.....i wish you the best with your new relationship and future together....deb
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