Did my insecurities push her away??

[Kozmo]

so i've been reflecting on what went wrong in my relationship. i've come to realize that i may have driven my ex away by accusing her of cheating. so my is beautiful, funny and has a great personality. she's always at the club and has a lot of guy friends. i don't like going to the club with her because thats not my scene. then i was see pictures she was tagged in with her and other guys and it made me wonder. so i would accuse her over and over if shes cheating. every time we got into an argument about something, i would bring up is there another guy? she told me when we first started dating that all these guys want her, but she choose me out of all of them. i would get on her case about dude flirting with her on instagram, but she said yeah, but i don't respond. which is true. even after we broke up i accused her of jumping into another relationship because she blocked me everywhere from seeing her pictures and reading her updates. she told me that she has been nothing but loyal and honest with me. she said i could look through her phone and said "do you want me to cheat? will it make you move on??" now she's not in a relationship she feels jaded, and hates all men. i know i overthink things and jump to conclusions, but is this a major reason why she broke up with me???

[forgetmenot75]

Jezz...Who cares why she broke up with you?? Truth is she IS NOT LONGER INTERESTED. SHE DOES NOT CARE ANYMORE.

Why are you keep thinking about this?

[barky2]

so i've been reflecting on what went wrong in my relationship. i've come to realize that i may have driven my ex away by accusing her of cheating. so my is beautiful, funny and has a great personality. she's always at the club and has a lot of guy friends. i don't like going to the club with her because thats not my scene. then i was see pictures she was tagged in with her and other guys and it made me wonder. so i would accuse her over and over if shes cheating. every time we got into an argument about something, i would bring up is there another guy? she told me when we first started dating that all these guys want her, but she choose me out of all of them. i would get on her case about dude flirting with her on instagram, but she said yeah, but i don't respond. which is true. even after we broke up i accused her of jumping into another relationship because she blocked me everywhere from seeing her pictures and reading her updates. she told me that she has been nothing but loyal and honest with me. she said i could look through her phone and said "do you want me to cheat? will it make you move on??" now she's not in a relationship she feels jaded, and hates all men. i know i overthink things and jump to conclusions, but is this a major reason why she broke up with me???

 

Unfortunately.... yes.

 

If a woman is faithful, and has given you no reason to think otherwise...you don't pester them about what if's.

 

You have a simple converaation, " hey this is bothering me" and if she says no I'm not, then you leave it...its called trust.

 

Every time you question this girl you push her away and even further.

 

Your needy.

 

Get your man back.

 

Take some time to figure out how.

 

Go to the gym...if not already, ull be boasting with confidence and will suddenly care less if she is, or isn't.

 

You might get lucky, but it doesn't look good.

 

 

 

Barky

[Kozmo]

Jezz...Who cares why she broke up with you?? Truth is she IS NOT LONGER INTERESTED. SHE DOES NOT CARE ANYMORE.

Why are you keep thinking about this?

 

i care and she still cares about me too. i'm trying to learn from my mistakes.

[Kozmo]

Unfortunately.... yes.

 

If a woman is faithful, and has given you no reason to think otherwise...you don't pester them about what if's.

 

You have a simple converaation, " hey this is bothering me" and if she says no I'm not, then you leave it...its called trust.

 

Every time you question this girl you push her away and even further.

 

Your needy.

 

Get your man back.

 

Take some time to figure out how.

 

Go to the gym...if not already, ull be boasting with confidence and will suddenly care less if she is, or isn't.

 

You might get lucky, but it doesn't look good.

 

 

 

Barky

 

she told me that we both have trust issues.. she is really jealous when i'm still friends with a girl who i had history with. she said "love is easy to find, trust isn't." so i guess we both need to work on this problem before we reconnect, which she does want in the future.

[forgetmenot75]

i care and she still cares about me too. i'm trying to learn from my mistakes.

 

 

I'm sorry to tell you the only one who cares in this relationship is YOU.

she might care, yes, but he in not interested in having ANY KIND OF ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU right now. If she'd have cared, she'd be with you right now.

Is she with you?

[forgetmenot75]

If a man whom Im interested accuses me of cheating, one thousand times, I'd not care. Because I love him. she doesn't love you. I'm sorry

[Kozmo]

I'm sorry to tell you the only one who cares in this relationship is YOU.

she might care, yes, but he in not interested in having ANY KIND OF ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU right now. If she'd have cared, she'd be with you right now.

Is she with you?

 

we're not together right now. but after the break up we went on vacation even had sex. there were mixed signals, then things went downhill...now she wants space for a little while.

[Simon Phoenix]

we're not together right now. but after the break up we went on vacation even had sex. there were mixed signals, then things went downhill...now she wants space for a little while.

 

So stop meddling and give her space.

[forgetmenot75]

Space for herself equals "I don't want to be with you"

 

if you want to ignore the red flags, it's your choice.