MrTurk Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 At work women are constantly talking about situations that they need to hide from their husband so he "doesnt get mad". Its almost a daily basis....any place I go during work....if there are women there...one of them is talking about how they need to or already did hide an incident from their man. Now my reasoning for bringing this up isnt about the incidents....its about why they are so afraid to tell their husbands about what happened. Is this the norm for most women that are married?? Do women as a whole really hide that much stuff from their man?? With the fear of it causing a big enough blow-up....that the better choice is to hide it, and not tell him at all?? I got divorced and we never had issues where she couldnt tell me something that happened. Do some people really hide so much stuff from their SO that they dont even know the real person??? .
todreaminblue Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 the only time i would with my ex was, when i didnt want to bother him or upset him or when he was tired or when i didnt feel he was receptive, he would actually knwo when i had something on my mind, and i would say its ok, ill tell you later ok its nothing major, eventually when i felt the time was right I would tell him whether i was worried about his reaction or not... I never discussed it with others, if my partner didnt know what was wrong with me, no one else would.......my partner was always the first to know however long it took me to tell ...i would keep it to myself... i think that some women might do that a lot not tell for the reason that they dont want theri partner to take on burdens of something that they could deal with or might upset them hearing about that burden...so the woman deals with it quietly on her own...not all men want to deal with issues a woman has during her day that upsets her,maybe the women feel that way... its a possibility at least .....my father always told me to stand on my own two feet.....learn how to solve my own problems i made my bed now i lie in it sort of attitude....and i normally always have....its inbuilt into me to soldier on..but..i am opening up a little more to others lately saying how i feel out here in reality and i have found i feel lighter........ when i am with a partner if it is soemthing i cant handle might take me a little while but i would tell, because they already knowme and that i am not saying something.......dont understand why women woudl talk about it to others bewfore their husbands though..debe
MissBee Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 I've never been married, but when I've kept stuff from my guy it is never anything serious or important, but little stuff that I don't want to argue about, for example: my last boyfriend was very protective of me. I live in the city and I live on a strip with stores, restaurants, stuff that's open late, but he hated when I'd leave the house after midnight to run to the store and would ask me not to. Before we dated I did it all the time and was fine, and I knew he didn't like it so I wouldn't do it sometimes so as not to worry him, but there were times when I wanted to get something which was a 2 minute walk away and I'd not tell him about it because I didn't want to argue with him about it. I only "hide" stuff like that that's not that serious and if I was asked about it I wouldn't lie. But I don't hide important things and certainly don't date people I feel I need to lie to all the time so they don't get mad. Are these women talking about petty stuff or serious stuff? My aunt for example, whenever she went on a shopping spree she would leave the bags in the trunk if my uncle was up and about, then waited until he was asleep/gone/occupied to bring her purchases inside. She wasn't bankrupting them, she had her own job too and was using "her paycheck", but my uncle felt she didn't need more clothes or more shoes, so she would buy them and avoid the argument by not letting him see her new purchases. 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Stuff like what? I sometimes don't tell my man things. Some things are just stupid to fight about and aren't worth mentioning.
Phoe Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 agree with above posters, knowing what kinds of things are being hidden is important. I'd personally find it really alarming that there seems to be a trend/pattern where women are regularly hiding things from their husbands. Doesn't seem right at all.
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