beejsea2 Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 Yes people like that do exist. My ex was telling me that he loved me, we went out to dinner and a movie. That weekend while I was gone at work, he moved out and said that we weren't good together and that he didn't love me. Have no clue where he is... The only time I heard from him was when he called wanting money..even than he didn't talk to me but left a message on the answering machine.
Scott S Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 Originally posted by beejsea2 The only time I heard from him was when he called wanting money... Now that's what Ann Landers would have called chutzpah!
Author bbwcfan Posted November 12, 2004 Author Posted November 12, 2004 Yeah, it is BS. She was never like this. Like I said, I hope this is a phase. You know? But she has been slowly pushing me away... and now we are in NO CONTACT and I am worried she won't ever call me ever again.. 4.5 years.. I was her only one. Wtf. Only one by CHOICE, too.
Author bbwcfan Posted November 12, 2004 Author Posted November 12, 2004 She claimed she had too much stress in life right now (as if we all don't) and that being single is way less stressful and more fun and that I need to grow and that oh, by the way, fate will bring us back together. It sucks because I WANT to move on but no one COMPARES to how I feel about her.
Weird Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 Your ex sounds sorta similar to mine. Sorta changed her tune (well what she was telling me) within a week or two and crap like that. Oh and she can't handle a relationship and the rest of the stuff in her life. She's a weird one because she says a lot of stuff to me that is easily BS and everyone who sees it or is updated on the situation agrees. Just give it time son. If you two are meant to be together you will someday. In time you may start realizing that you dont want to be with your ex the way she is now. I realized that with my ex.
Author bbwcfan Posted November 13, 2004 Author Posted November 13, 2004 Her: hey Me: hi Her: find a new girlfriend yet? Me: yes, Nate.. we're so good together. yes. my best friend. Her: hot Me: yeah, great **** Her: how's school going? Me: Fantastic, programming the GUI to hack into the government Her: enticing Me: hack the planet Her: you dont need computers for that Her: what do you have against the government and the planet? Me: Is there something you want? Me: the govt? Me: They control the masses with their perscription drugs and lab mices Me: ;-) Her: mices? Me: Yes. Me: how's the single life? ;-) Me: giddy-up action Her: well your attitude sounds very much like the masses, are you on percription drugs? Me: yeah I am, I stole them from your medicine cabinet Her: i dunno i dont concentrate on it Me: So why are you talking to me, anyway? Her: why not? Me: I thought I was an a**h*** Me: And I don't deserve you, etc Her: you hear what you want Me: Have you found someone better yet? Me: I hope so Her: have you grown up any? Me: Yeah Me: Actually, I have Me: I'm 6'2" if that says anything ;-) Her: attempting to attack the govenment? Me: It was a joke Her: clever Me: Don't be so serious Her: im not Me: Oh sweet, Sunday, Giants vs Cardinals Her: i bet youre really excited Me: I am. Giants are 5-3.. best year in a long time. Her: you should be at least Me: I am Her: good :-) Me: I got a 93% on my CSE310 algorithms exam Me: I am absolutely dominating this semester. Me: DOMINATING. Me: Firstttt bloodddd Me: Well, I was overwhelmed by you way too much to focus on myself, or my own interests. I looked too much into appreciating you to really bring who I am into the relationship.AKA, I was a pussy. **** that. No more. Her: dont know if i agree with you on that Me: ? Me: If you felt underappreciated, by all means, never speak to me again. It is wasting my time. Her: i didnt Me: Good. Her: its the first part of your statement i didnt like Her: i think its bull**** Me: Eh, **** happens. Her: i couldnt agree more Me: Why do you believe it is bull**** Her: i believe **** happens Her: thats all Me: ? Her: who knows Me: Alright, this is going nowhere Me: You got bored with me Me: *YAWN* Her: what do you mean? Me: With me, with the relationship. Fell out of love. :-) Her: nope, cant say that was it Me: What was it then? Her: believe what you want though, you do anyways Her: im definitely bored with this conversation Me: Alright Her: alright what? Me: Alright, you're bored, great Me: I don't need to be strung along like some puppet expecting that glorious day we can be back together again. I gave you all I could. Sure, I made mistakes, and yes, I realize them, but if it was not good enough for you, **** off, and have a wonderful life. Her: later 2 hours later, she came back online. I initiated the conversation, asking if we can go out to dinner sometime, perhaps, just to hang out. She said, well, if you can be mature about this. Telling me we need to be friends, and go out sometime, to dinner or something, just as friends. I was being nice. Acting like a friend. Talking only about stuff like movies, etc. She seemed distant, yet talked to me. I told her I love you, bye, as she got offline (won't say it again. Not until SHE does.) Anyway.. any advice?
Weird Posted November 14, 2004 Posted November 14, 2004 sounds sorta like a convo i had with my ex last year when we broke up..i gave the same sarcasm you did and she gave the same replies your ex did. the "believe what you want" type stuff
Weird Posted November 14, 2004 Posted November 14, 2004 we stopped talking for a year and then she apologized to me a couple months ago for treating me like a bastard early last year. Now we sorta talk to each other but it isn't like the conversation is anything exciting since she has issues in weirdness.
Author bbwcfan Posted November 14, 2004 Author Posted November 14, 2004 well, she got a new screen name.. I'm not on the list.. I take it that is a sign she doesn't want to talk to me.. lol
Author bbwcfan Posted November 15, 2004 Author Posted November 15, 2004 Now she is telling me she is really pissed off at me. I am tempted to block every screen name, etc, and never talk to her anymore. Sure, I love her, but she seems to be playing games. All she does now is go out and party and meet people and have fun and I don't see us getting back together anytime soon...
Weird Posted November 15, 2004 Posted November 15, 2004 do it. either block her or just ignore her. don't waste more time on her son.
Author bbwcfan Posted November 15, 2004 Author Posted November 15, 2004 I removed all of her screen names, and all contacts to her. THis sucks.. but there is nothing more I can do.
Weird Posted November 15, 2004 Posted November 15, 2004 mark down today as the day you decided to end contact...then see how long it takes for her to possibly contact you asking what's up. keep me updated bro
Author bbwcfan Posted November 15, 2004 Author Posted November 15, 2004 By no contact, you mean.. don't talk to her friends, her brother, or anyone? Just.. erase her screen names, etc? And move on???? She met some people at a party on Friday night and that was the night she decided she wanted a new screen name without me on it. So.. I have taken the steps and have erased all of her screen names and she hasn't called or anything but this girl is weird. Yeah, I'll keep posting on here and let you know. Today is day 1 of letting her go and not worrying what she is doing :-(. This is my only option.
Weird Posted November 15, 2004 Posted November 15, 2004 if you want to talk to her friends of family then go right ahead but I wouldn't. let her make the move if she wants to keep in contact with you. Don't sweat it though bro...it is tough at first but in due time you'll feel much beter and will wonder why you even wasted your "hurt" on her. I have been there and after I while I looked back and realized she wasn't worth me getting so upset about because she acted like a baby.
Author bbwcfan Posted November 15, 2004 Author Posted November 15, 2004 Yeah.. probably the hardest part is, me thinking I lost "the one". She loves everything I do.. video games, sports, etc.. and it is difficult trying to find other girls who share my interests. Where we clashed, is she is too damn egotistical. Everything I did, she criticized.. but yes, I think this is the best route. If she wants me, she can contact me..
Weird Posted November 15, 2004 Posted November 15, 2004 yeah just give it time. you may find your opinion of her will change and she won't seem as great as she does now. I see my ex in a diff way thna I did after the breakup. I thought she was so great and perfect and all that jazz and now after having all that time of not talking to her and seeing her now as the person she is (not being blinded by my feelings) I see she has some serious issues and is mega self-centered. I feel my ex has amazing potential to be such an incredible person but she doesnt seem to be taking advantage of that. Oh well, not my problem and in her case, it IS her loss if we never end up getting back together because I honestly believe she won't find a guy that can or will put up with her the way she is now.
Author bbwcfan Posted November 15, 2004 Author Posted November 15, 2004 Well.. the thing about her was, we pretty much WERE our lives. We shared so much time together for over 4 years... everyday.. then, all of a sudden, she got her job, started distancing.. MET NEW FRIENDS, went to parties.. and completely just broke it off saying she needs "a few months" and now, she makes it seem like she means forever. Hell, her new screen name is "Iloathedyou" and she only has all these new guys she met and friends from work on the list.
Weird Posted November 15, 2004 Posted November 15, 2004 weird. the job thing is killer. Makes chicks go crazy, IMO. They get so wrapped up in the new job thing (start of career) and forget the stuff that was there (ie you) before the career. Just give her time to actually grow up and see if she comes around. If she does then decide if you really want to be with her because again, you may find you don't. Based on what you have said, she isn't worth your time right now and I think if you step back and look at how she is, you'll see she is too immature for any quality relationship. She seems like she needs to grow up before she could even be considered as a viable long term adult partner. Your ex in some ways really does sound like mine and you sound like me in many ways and because of that, there are similarities in the situation.
Author bbwcfan Posted November 15, 2004 Author Posted November 15, 2004 Sounds about right. She turned from an anti-social bookworm allll into me, into a social party animal consumed with her material life. Maybe she'll come around.. who knows.. hey, do you have an AIM screen name so we can chat and stuff? Sounds like we do have similar situations.
MicahC Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 I was told the same thing, "I love you, but am not in love w/ you anymore" It was devastating for me to hear that. This woman is the best thing that has ever happend to me and my behavior destroyed a beautiful love. I hasn't got better in a month, still hurts everyday.
Author bbwcfan Posted November 16, 2004 Author Posted November 16, 2004 Hasn't gotten better for me.. except, one of her new friends, Marcia.. one of the work friends she slowly detached from me to always hang out with.. I ran across her weblog online and it pretty much outlines what my sweet little Rachel has been up to lately: booze parties, movie nights (including viewing porn), lots of "Rocky Horror Picture Show" sessions, something called playboy parties involving waking up with lots of bruising (wasn't explained well, probably drunk), etc. WOW!! you sure are doing well on your own, dumbass! Meanwhile, I am 3 semesters away from my bacholars in Computer Science.. with a 4.0 GPA. With me, it was nothing but love and a stable future.. and now she is planning (according to the weblog) on moving in with this Marcia in 9-10 months. What a nice lifestyle.
MicahC Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 I think I would lose all respect for that, but I'm sorta conservative. You might want to just cut your loses? Keep you head up and things will get better, time heals...I hope
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