polycube Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 well heres a weird one...i am a business man i own a business and i recently broke up with my ex of MANY YEARS, the other day i had a business meeting and i hate going to them alone. SO i put an ad on a dating site asking for someone to come with me, not sexual in any way and just to come with me to diner strictly business and id pay her some $$. it always looks best to come with company, and ive been too busy lately to meet other women. so i get a few responses..i pick the better one and cool we go out it was all cool i though nothing of it and when i go drop her off she says she does NOT want me to pay her, that she had alot of fun, and she would feel weird if we ever went out again knowing shes taking my $, and that she never done this and just wanted to meet someone new. NOW im no weirdo prostitute pickerupper, this was just for business meeting, and i never expected anything from this at all. but i though ok cool, i know this girl isnt a real escort and she told me she was looking for a date online and saw my ad and said hey why not its like a blind date she figured... SO I send her an email thanking her for being so co cool about the whole thing and that if she ever wants to do something to hit me up and we can go out. well she never replied to my email but i saw her online, asked her back out on a real date and she said YES!! she seemed very excited about going and all is good. so we go out we have fun shes very nice girl. when i go drop her off she tells me she wants to let me borrow a book, she runs upstairs and comes down with a book. she says I can give it to her next time we meet. I ask her if she would like to go out again and she says yes NOW we are extremem opposites in everything we really dont have much in common but hey whatever, what am i to loose. SO i get an email from her 3 daya later just talking small talk and how she thinks she ate too much that night. I call her up.. and she tells me shes in class that she will call me back later. she never does. I emailed her and still no response. weird i thought oh well again i never really had y hopes up as this is weird situation to begin with. so the other day i see her online, she says shes been extra extra busy and hasnt been able to hang out shes been working alot, i ask her if she would like to go out and she says she cant this weekend because of her job but that she can the following weekend. now this i find weird...should i even try to go after this..or is this just a waste of time...?? i mean she never contacts me but when i ask her ot she says yes always. she lends me stuff which is a way for us to meet again i see it. This is a strange situation for me as i have 1 been out of the game for too long, and 2 the orgin of this meetup is kinda weird..OPINIONS??
tiki Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 Hmmm, weird. Wait for her to contact you? But lemme ask you this, if you were to get serious with this woman, would you have hang-ups about her going with you as an 'escort'? I mean, honestly? Yeah, I say wait for her to contact you (if she has all of your contact info). If she wants you, she'll let you know.
Author polycube Posted November 9, 2004 Author Posted November 9, 2004 thing is an escort if its not a sexual thing at all,,is it really a bad thing?? its not like i picked her up in an escort web site it really was in a dating site. i know for a fact shes not an actual escort..
tattoomytoe Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 yeah, but she did it at least once that you know of, how do you know? but i say let her get back to you, why should you go chasing her when, as you say, you really could care less....although i doubt that, i think you care or you wouldn't take your time to ask us what we thought. but it's always nice to be desired by anyone really.
Author polycube Posted November 9, 2004 Author Posted November 9, 2004 i never said i wanted a long relationship i just got out of a long one...just been out of the game for too long. trying to regain my game
DJ_Dork Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 Well you said it yourself, you two are opposites in most things. When you look for a woman you need three things: 1. RESPECT - She is giving you somewhat respect. 2. RELIABLE - She's not reliable. 3. COMMONALITIES - She doesn't have anything in common with you. Calculation = No chance for relationship. Move on.
zara Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 Don't get too anxious over the situation! It seems as though you have met a woman who likes you and enjoys your company but happens to have a buy life. This is true of many independent women these days and just becasue she can't or won't drop everything to go on a date with you it doesn't mean that you can't get involved with her! You should be pleased that you have met a woman who behaves with a degree of maturity in that respect - i know too many grown women who would drop everything to go on a date with some guy and their whole life revolves around men, this woman seems to have a more balanced perspective. My BF called me Monday night to say he was going to call round but i was on my way to a different town. There was a time when i would have turned round and headed home so that i could be there, but these days i'm more level headed and said "Sorry honey, i'm busy, why don't you come over tomorrow?" Don't obsess over 'commanilites' either - my ex was TOTALLY obsessed with that idea, that two people in a relationship should have exactly the same interests and opinions. Whilst some level of shared values are important i believe that a mature and balanced relationship should involve people who are comfortable enough to respect, value and ENJOY the differences they have. To me, that's what makes my partner interesting, that we can learn new and interesting things from each other without merely being sycophants, nodding dogs to one another's opinions.
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