welove Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 I was recently broken up with. My (now) ex said that he didn't want a relationship anymore but I mean so much to him so he wants me to stay in his life and be friends. After telling me this with a lot of emotion he just started talking to me about everything else in his life. Such as being stressed out about his job, and not having a lot of free time or money. And just generally what he's been doing, we ended up talking for an hour and a half. I just don't understand how a man can explain to me all the things he loves about me, and use the word LOVE (we had never said I love you, we were in between relationship status and that) and say that he wants to continue spending time with me constantly and invite me out for only a couple days later. About a month ago he said he really really liked me as more than a friend, but now he just wants to be friends and says he doesn't have those feelings for me. I'm just kind of lost.
It-is-what-it-is. Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 I was recently broken up with. My (now) ex said that he didn't want a relationship anymore but I mean so much to him so he wants me to stay in his life and be friends. After telling me this with a lot of emotion he just started talking to me about everything else in his life. Such as being stressed out about his job, and not having a lot of free time or money. And just generally what he's been doing, we ended up talking for an hour and a half. I just don't understand how a man can explain to me all the things he loves about me, and use the word LOVE (we had never said I love you, we were in between relationship status and that) and say that he wants to continue spending time with me constantly and invite me out for only a couple days later. About a month ago he said he really really liked me as more than a friend, but now he just wants to be friends and says he doesn't have those feelings for me. I'm just kind of lost. Well...he wants to just be friends...or friends with benefits... You have to decide if that's what you want. Up to you. You don't owe him anything and he isn't going to reverse his opinion. He's just not in to you. Sorry....find someone else. 2
Ireallydontknow Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Sounds like they want all the perks of having you in their life without the accountability of a commitment. You need to tell this guy it's all or nothing. It hurts like hell trust me, 10 day BU, 10 day NC, I felt so weak today. I broke down in tears. All I wanted to do was call my ex and talk to her. Instead I went for an awesome swim! Now I'm about to do my night time work out. Stay strong! Proceed with caution! 2
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