Littlebylittle Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 I became aware of distinct changes in our relationship about a year ago. Lots and lots of things that were strange and that when I read the signs of cheaters, mad it obvious to me that this may well be happening. He completely denies and denies that anything is going on but my gut still tells me that it is not true. he swears on members of my families lives that he has done nothing yet when the heat is off, he quickly turns to normal. If he accused me and I had done nothing, I would be very up set about it genuinely and probably for quite some time so this rapid reversion to every thing is ok and lovey dovey still sets alarm bells off. This is not a one off and I don't want to bore everyone with all the details over the last year but just got a t shirt out of the laundry basket and only one side of it faintly smells of perfume. Feel like I am gong nuts as I am not imagining it and it isn't his deodorant nor a perfume I recognise. Am I mad?
stillafool Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 We need details in order to help you. Perfume on his shirt could come from an innocent hug. Not cheating.
Coolit Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Agree, we need some details. Perfume smell could even be someone on the bus wearing too much. People on here have been betrayed therefore try woll say "always trust your gut" as for them, their gut was right. But, the real world doesn't work that way. Some people are paranoid. Some people have super jealousy issues and trust issues that arose from a fault in themselves. That being said, a cheater when confronted will lie. Deny, deny deny is the cheaters motto. So if you have something more concrete to lead you to believe he has cheated then do some digging without him knowing. If you know he is supposed to be somewhere at a certain time show up and surprise him. Check the money and see if everything is accounted for. Install a keylogger on your computer. Better yet if he uses a desktop computer use a harware keylogger. Put q voice activated recorder in his car. Hire a PI. The list of things you can do is limitless. You can do all this of course even if it is just a "gut" feeling. Just be ready to accept that sometimes, the gut can be wrong.
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