smerfie Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 I'm in college and i have been flirting with one of the guys in my dorm. Well he came in drunk one night and we had sex. we hadn't been dating before we slept together. Well now the only time he calls me is to come pick him up when he is drunk or when he wants me to come to his room so we can eventually have sex. I think that he is using me. I found out that he has kids and that he isn't around them. which kind of bothers me. I like him and he does make sure i get to class on time, but i'm pretty sure he is just using me for sex. What should i do?
alicia24 Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 It sounds like he is using you for sex. Honey youre still in college, dont get involved with a dude that has kids. Those kids may have been conceived during other drunk booty calls. you dont want to be a victim. Find another hottie in your dorm that wants to hang out with YOU not just have sex with you. You are better than that.
loudeeley Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 if it's just sex and you're both entirely happy that it's just sex and that it's never going to be anything else, he's not using you. if it's just sex and you want more but he doesn't, he's using you. don't let him. if you want more, tell him and if he refuses to go out with you without being drunk or without having sex, stop having sex with him and stop seeing him. he will just hurt you.
Naive Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 I think he's using you. Does he ever take you out to dinner or call you over just so you can talk? Or does he ever call just to talk with you on the phone? If he's just calling when he needs you to drive him and then having sex with you I think he is killing two birds with one stone.
morrigan Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 This is a purely sexual relationship on his terms. If you don't have a problem with that, go ahead and enjoy yourself. Make sure he always uses condoms. If you had wanted an actual relationship with this guy, or if you just feel uncomfortable with the situation. Ignore his calls and avoid going anywhere near his room. The next time he makes a move on you, tell him you're not interested in having sex with him anymore. You don't have to offer any explanations.
red4kat Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 ich, I hate guys like that. Honney, I tell you this relationship is worth less than a broken penny. I've had quite a few losers like that in college myself. Whatever you do, don't get emotionally attached to this guy or think seriously of him. If you do want to start something serious, don't start it with sex. But it all depends on what you want and/or ready for.
Barby Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 Originally posted by naive_2001 I think he's using you. Does he ever take you out to dinner or call you over just so you can talk? Or does he ever call just to talk with you on the phone? If he's just calling when he needs you to drive him and then having sex with you I think he is killing two birds with one stone. Exactly! Originally posted by red4kat ich, I hate guys like that. Honney, I tell you this relationship is worth less than a broken penny. I've had quite a few losers like that in college myself. Whatever you do, don't get emotionally attached to this guy or think seriously of him. If you do want to start something serious, don't start it with sex. But it all depends on what you want and/or ready for. I agree that he isn't worth much if he's got kids that he isn't involved with being their responsible parent. And only calling you drunk when he wants to "hook up" If you're only wanting sex (which from your post it sounds like that's not the case) then hey have a ball, but if you're seeking more then cut your losses now and find someone who is into wanting more. If you do want to start something serious, don't start it with sex. Yeap
MelodyJ Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 designated driver and guaranteed lay, that's all it is to him. Kids he does'nt see or take care of, all this speaks for his character. If you can deal with it and want to use him for ex as well, go ahead, (is the sex that good if he is drunk every time?) just use protection, otherwise, you already know the answer.
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