runforafall Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 First date with lass from dating site last night. We had a couple of drinks and she seemed keen to grab some food when I suggested it, which we did. Good fun conversation throughout, and I thought things was going well, so I leant in for a kiss when we headed off in different directions at the end and I got the dreaded cheek turn. Text a little while later saying hope you got home safely, had fun, let me know if you'd like to do it again etc and she replied pretty quickly saying she had had fun too and it would be good to meet up again. Although we had great convo and laughed a lot, I didn't really pick up any signs that she was romantically interested (though I'm rubbish at stuff like that at the best of times). I'm wondering if I should continue to pursue this or not, or whether the likelihood is that she is that she is not romantically interested but mentioned the meeting up stuff again because she was drunk or because she had fun (in a platonic way) and wants to do it again (in a platonic way). Thoughts?
Philosoraptor Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Maybe she wasn't comfortable kissing on the first date? She still wants to go out again, so be patient and continue getting to know her. If the moment feels right, give it another shot. 3
Skyraider829 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 First date with lass from dating site last night. We had a couple of drinks and she seemed keen to grab some food when I suggested it, which we did. Good fun conversation throughout, and I thought things was going well, so I leant in for a kiss when we headed off in different directions at the end and I got the dreaded cheek turn. Text a little while later saying hope you got home safely, had fun, let me know if you'd like to do it again etc and she replied pretty quickly saying she had had fun too and it would be good to meet up again. Although we had great convo and laughed a lot, I didn't really pick up any signs that she was romantically interested (though I'm rubbish at stuff like that at the best of times). I'm wondering if I should continue to pursue this or not, or whether the likelihood is that she is that she is not romantically interested but mentioned the meeting up stuff again because she was drunk or because she had fun (in a platonic way) and wants to do it again (in a platonic way). Thoughts? Would you care for a platonic relationship with her? It could be that you are romantically interested and she is platonically interested. In that case, it could be kind of a cat-and-mouse game. Why not pursuit it? Are you desperate to get romantically involved with her? Its best to typically start out as friends and let it escalate from there on.
FitChick Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Some people are not comfortable kissing someone on a first date. A hug and/or peck on the cheek is fine. Wait and see if she goes out with you again. Don't invest a lot of money but maybe do something during the day, like well dressing or sheep dog trials. Any end of summer festivals in local parks that might be free? Try to hold her hand or arm while you walk to gauge interest. If still no spark, then ask her if she has any girlfriends she could fix you up with since she obviously isn't feeling chemistry. You have nothing to lose. 1
TB Rhine Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Eeeeeek... the dreaded same-day "I had a good time, hope you did too" text. You ALWAYS wait a day or two, man; in fact, preferably you let her be the one to re-initiate contact (though, admittedly, some women just WILL NOT do this - it's like a point of honor with them or something). Hate to say it, but my read at this point is that she's not feeling it; the comment about getting together again was made out of politeness. I predict you won't be able to make another date with her, though she won't ever actually say "no." It'll just keep somehow not working out.
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