Flower1993 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Basically, i knew of my ex since we had alot mutual friends. Started talking n social networks at the start of this year. People who knew of him warned me that hes a player n all that. So i was very straightforward with him from the beginning n I'm not one to be just some fling I wanted to be in a relationship that was gona go somewhere. He and I were not looking for the same thing so i told him we should not be in contact so we ddnt but after two weeks he got into contact n said he wanted to be with me. It wqs fine but I wanted to break up with him after a month (i know short) since it was my first relationship n I just couldn't trust him but after like over a month he got in contact n said he will do everything for us, so gave him one last chance. But start of summer he was busy with work n i just felt he wasnt giving what I wanted n still till then i couldn't trust him so he initiated th break up n i agreed to it since i wasn't gona make someone who told me "he wasnt ready for a relationship to begin with" so basically he was the one who wanted to be with me but then suddenly says oh yeah lets break up (after a month getting back together). I cut all contact from social media n deleted his number n all the messages n he said he'll delete my number. Then My friends told me they heard he was seing someone already a week after we broke up. Then saw him in a party and was bring civil n said hi and all I ignored him throughout the night. But like he gave me water n sat next to me (was drunk) n when i spilt my water n me he wiped it off for me and i started crying n told him to go n he told my friend to look after me n went n outside te club he as giving me his coat but i just walked away. I think he just pitied me. Also i'm kickin myself for crying infront of him ugh!
JDPT Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 You were intoxicated, and you are someone he cares about and decided to look after you. Doesn't necessarily mean much, he probably didn't want to see you stumbling around or probably worst and wanted you to get home ok. It's something that you would do for someone who you don't know, I would. I can only suggest to minimize your alcohol intake and start moving forward with your life. 2
Author Flower1993 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 You were intoxicated, and you are someone he cares about and decided to look after you. Doesn't necessarily mean much, he probably didn't want to see you stumbling around or probably worst and wanted you to get home ok. It's something that you would do for someone who you don't know, I would. I can only suggest to minimize your alcohol intake and start moving forward with your life. Hiya, I had my friends to look after me also but just at that point I was just laying n the wall sitting he came over. Like before in the dancefloor he tapped me n the shoulder and was saying this guy (who we both know has a lil thing for me) is here n almost mocking us like it was wtf moment but i just laughed along.
JDPT Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 I believe you amplify the mundane. I know what you are saying, I view it as an encounter at a club, clearly you two were intoxicated and things happen. Try not to focus on the little things, find something with a little more substance that you can analyze, dissect and arrive at a concrete solution. Look deep within yourself and figure out what it is that you look for in a guy. You have established and you don't like players, what else are you looking for in a man? don't focus on the superficial but mostly on what's inside which really matter. How will you like to be treat? You need to start setting standards and boundaries for yourself, that will be a good start at attracting men who are worthy of you.
Author Flower1993 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 I believe you amplify the mundane. I know what you are saying, I view it as an encounter at a club, clearly you two were intoxicated and things happen. Try not to focus on the little things, find something with a little more substance that you can analyze, dissect and arrive at a concrete solution. Look deep within yourself and figure out what it is that you look for in a guy. You have established and you don't like players, what else are you looking for in a man? don't focus on the superficial but mostly on what's inside which really matter. How will you like to be treat? You need to start setting standards and boundaries for yourself, that will be a good start at attracting men who are worthy of you. Hey thanks for ur input! I know we won't get back together n I don't want to either since in the long run hes not what i want. Everyone did say I could do better but I felt like I should just see what happens eith him n take it as an experience. I was pretty proud of myself for bein civil with him but its still too weird for me whereas hes already over it. Thats y trying to be friendly with ur ex early leads to what happened to me as I guess i'm not over it and he was the one who instigated the breakup (so he was over it awhile ago). I want a guy who isn't a commitment phob n is consistent with me! They all say they'll try but actions speak louder then words which I had told him numerous times but he couldn't handle alll of this need a real man! If he can't handle me during the worst then he certainly dont deserve me at my best!
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