Dazed_Confused1989 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Hi all. Hypothetically speaking, if an afternoon first date goes extremely well and the connection is there, is it right to kiss your partner? The kicker is the afternoon part for me. It's throwing me off. I feel like the answer is "do what feels right" but would like some other opinions. Thanks!
Lani Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Daytime kisses are even more sweet and intimate if you ask me. Go for it 1
Skyraider829 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Hi all. Hypothetically speaking, if an afternoon first date goes extremely well and the connection is there, is it right to kiss your partner? The kicker is the afternoon part for me. It's throwing me off. I feel like the answer is "do what feels right" but would like some other opinions. Thanks! Hypothetically speaking, I find that calling the person you are dating your quote-unquote "partner" is only theoretical and not practical. The word partner, to me, relates more so to exclusivity - that is, an official relationship. I would use the word "date" instead. I have no idea. It depends. I personally wouldn't. If I read her signals right and she gave me hints that she wanted a kiss, I would kiss her cheek. Its affectionate but not romantically intimate. If it goes further with more dates and successful ones at that, with her showing more interest in goochy-koochy stuff, then yeah a kiss on the lips is in order. After a first date I would opt for a hug, at most a kiss on the cheek. Although to be upfront and truthful, I would prefer it if the girl kissed me on the cheek. 1
Philosoraptor Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Why the overabundant amount of thinking? Just do what feels appropriate at the time. I kissed my now fiancee the first time (in the afternoon) within 2 hours of meeting her at a park. It just felt right and I just trusted my feelings. The more you think, the more you'll psych yourself out or stress over nothing. 1
Skyraider829 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Why the overabundant amount of thinking? Just do what feels appropriate at the time. I kissed my now fiancee the first time (in the afternoon) within 2 hours of meeting her at a park. It just felt right and I just trusted my feelings. The more you think, the more you'll psych yourself out or stress over nothing. That's cool. Well, you can't apply to much rationality towards love.
ThomasD Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 I don't see what "afternoon" has to do with it, unless you're thinking of putting on a display in the middle of a rush-hour traffic jam. The cultural "rule" I learned (about half a century ago) is that it was acceptable - but not required - for a guy to try for an embrace and kiss at the end of the first date. And the girl was free to accept the overture, respectfully and courteously decline, or deflect it (e.g., take a kiss on the cheek or forehead rather than lips, hug with her hands between your bodies, etc). And the guy was DEFINITELY obligated to accept and respect whatever limits she placed on the gesture. (Depending on how you define "date" I've had somewhere between 2 and about half a dozen "first dates". Only once was there a kiss, but it was a REAL kiss, and she has been my wife for over 39 years now.)
abby_tx Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 If you're wavering between the two, choose NOT to kiss her. Guys that are super forward on first dates can sorta turn me off. Unless we had incredible conversation and really got to know each other. Then it might be okay. 1
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