Ozrainey Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Dating rules. I have no idea! I'm female, 40 and somehow single after losing my partner to a road accident many years ago. I've been chatting with an old school friend on Facebook recently, he's single, so am I, so it makes sense to flirt a little. We've exchanged numbers but only text. He hasn't called and I'm certainly not going to push him for that. Should I text him, haven't heard from him in a few days or just leave it? Also, he lives a few hours away but has asked if I would be keen to meet up for a weekend away ... I guess he's meaning a shagging weekend. Again, he and I are free agents, so why not but I don't want him to think I'm that type of girl. Dating should be easy right? Thanks for reading everyone.
Star Gazer Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 What are you looking for with him? A fling? A relationship? Also, he lives a few hours away but has asked if I would be keen to meet up for a weekend away ... I guess he's meaning a shagging weekend. Again, he and I are free agents, so why not but I don't want him to think I'm that type of girl. If you don't want him to think you're the type of girl to go away for a shagging weekend, don't go away with him. You certainly shouldn't go away with him if he can't even be bothered to pick up the phone and call. 2
happykat Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Nothing wrong with texting "how are you doing?" or something like that... if he doesn't respond, drop it. 1
Author Ozrainey Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 Thanks for the messages/thoughts. Yes I do want a relationship but, I gues, I feel I deserve a little 'fun' too. Cheers again everyone.
thefooloftheyear Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 I agree with the others...if you are unsure of his intentions, then just dont do it(trip)...Part of me wants to say that he really doesnt seem much into you (because hes distant), but some guys are aloof..I know I generally feel stupid just texting for the sake of "keeping in touch" with nothing much to say, but will be receptive to the other parties texts and appreciate it. For me its usually because of crap in my business/professional life..I know its probably not right, but (shrug)? Is he a busy guy(career/business)?? Hope for the best TFY
forgetmenot75 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 If he doesn't pursue you: he's just not that into you. Do not waste your time on anyone who's not interesting in contacting you. Men are simple creatures: he wants you, he looks for you. If he doesn't want you, he won't. They won't tell you they don't like you though, they expect you'll pick up the clues.
salparadise Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 There is nothing wrong with initiating and letting him know you're interested, but you need to be clear in your own mind about what you want. If you're dtf and that's all you expect then go for it, but with no further expectation. If you're wanting a relationship you'd better keep your knees together and see if he's willing to invest. My guess is that he's hoping you'll go for the shagging weekend with no strings attached. Despite what some may think, men are not at all simple and no two are exactly alike. Having sex early on doesn't necessarily preclude a relationship, and holding out doesn't guarantee that he'll turn into prince charming. Do what's right for you. If you're going to feel used if he hits and quits then don't let that happen. If you've got the itch and don't care about outcome then go for it. There are no universal rules, only the ones you decide are right for you. 4
curlygirl40 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 There is nothing wrong with initiating and letting him know you're interested, but you need to be clear in your own mind about what you want. If you're dtf and that's all you expect then go for it, but with no further expectation. If you're wanting a relationship you'd better keep your knees together and see if he's willing to invest. My guess is that he's hoping you'll go for the shagging weekend with no strings attached. Despite what some may think, men are not at all simple and no two are exactly alike. Having sex early on doesn't necessarily preclude a relationship, and holding out doesn't guarantee that he'll turn into prince charming. Do what's right for you. If you're going to feel used if he hits and quits then don't let that happen. If you've got the itch and don't care about outcome then go for it. There are no universal rules, only the ones you decide are right for you. This!!! You absolutely deserve to have some fun. But if you're looking for more than fun from this guy, meeting him for a fun weekend without establishing any kind of relationship is not the way. Good luck!
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