Author lanamarie313 Posted September 5, 2013 Author Posted September 5, 2013 I don't think he's been totally unreadable. You were seeing him months ago, he admitted it appeared to be going towards something serious and he wasn't ready for it. You guys didn't talk for months, perhaps he just wanted to give you the painting, since he admitted that it was something he had wanted to do months ago. It doesn't mean he wants something more with you... especially since he's still not reaching out on a regular basis, and upon giving you the painting he was quick and distant. I don't think this is a situation to ask him about at all. Just put the painting in your garage, be civil in class, and that's that. I agree, I don't think he's trying to say that he wants something more now. But I still don't understand his text AFTER the quick and distant gift delivery. On the one hand, it seems like an excuse to send me a text. On the other hand, he makes no sense so it could be absolutely nothing.
FitChick Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 (edited) He likes you as a friend. He is probably a virgin. It could develop into something more but I'd suggest dating other guys in the meantime. If he is "artistic" there is a possibility he's gay but in the closet. Edited September 5, 2013 by FitChick
GG3 Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 I was thinking asperger's also. He sounds socially weird.
Author lanamarie313 Posted September 5, 2013 Author Posted September 5, 2013 I was thinking asperger's also. He sounds socially weird. Ok, so it's not just me...he IS socially weird? I thought maybe I was being too sensitive, or reading into things too much (I tend to do that). I've never met someone so confusing before. I don't know much about asperger's, but it seems far fetched. He seems normal 1 on 1, in person. It's the rest of the time that he's impossible to figure out.
Moe'sTavern Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Ok, so it's not just me...he IS socially weird? I thought maybe I was being too sensitive, or reading into things too much (I tend to do that). I've never met someone so confusing before. I don't know much about asperger's, but it seems far fetched. He seems normal 1 on 1, in person. It's the rest of the time that he's impossible to figure out. I'm not sure why your even wracking your brain over this. Just date other guys and divert your attention elsewhere.
Author lanamarie313 Posted September 5, 2013 Author Posted September 5, 2013 I'm not sure why your even wracking your brain over this. Just date other guys and divert your attention elsewhere. I'm not really sure either. He was just very different from other guys when we were in person, 1 on 1. And then all of this happened. I'm trying to date others and divert my attention, but every single time I start to kind of forget him, he sends another text or contacts me and I get confused all over again.
Moe'sTavern Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 I'm not really sure either. He was just very different from other guys when we were in person, 1 on 1. And then all of this happened. I'm trying to date others and divert my attention, but every single time I start to kind of forget him, he sends another text or contacts me and I get confused all over again. Do you want to maintain a friendship with him?
Author lanamarie313 Posted September 5, 2013 Author Posted September 5, 2013 Do you want to maintain a friendship with him? Sure, I'm open to that.
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 There's nothing "special" about your situation or circumstance that makes it different than the droves of other posts that are just about identical to this situation in every important way. The guy isn't interested in you for the long-term... the guy doesn't want a relationship with you, you're not "it" And yet, like the million of other guys who do this around the world every day in their super "unique" and "individual" circumstances of their own because one likes green and the other likes blue...they still pursue you, why? because of a number of reasons and that varies, but it doesn't really change the end result...he might be desperate, he has some kind of "relationship" developed with you already so it's not high risk, he knows your emotions are there and interest...therefore that makes it easy for him to pursue you knowing he'll receive some reciprocation...just like women need attention from men (that they are interested in and some that are not) men typically have much less options, so a girl that is really interested in them...regardless of whether their own interest in her is quite low, it's not something they can afford to let go of, you still serve a purpose. You don't need to be the ultimate love of his love and this doesn't "have to go somewhere" or lead to anything, there's nothing to be "confused"...because nothing has changed, he's just told you how far things will go ahead of time...now if you convince yourself that this has a chance because you really like the guy then go lie to yourself and hope for more...he's awkward so he'll do awkward things and he'll play hot and cold like most guys because for them it's limited motivation and interested so why would they be hot all the time...stop focusing on this guy, it's over before it began, be glad you didn't get in deeper because if he'd lied to you or said nothing like a lot of guys do then he'd have just left you later on giving you some excuse....guys don't need "a chance" to determine whether they see you as relationship material or not, it is or it isn't...time changes nothing, their options and circumstances do though if that's what you want to bet on.
GG3 Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Ok, so it's not just me...he IS socially weird? I thought maybe I was being too sensitive, or reading into things too much (I tend to do that). I've never met someone so confusing before. I don't know much about asperger's, but it seems far fetched. He seems normal 1 on 1, in person. It's the rest of the time that he's impossible to figure out. The birthday gift sounds strange. You guys didn't even talk for two months so why did he feel the need to get you a gift and then act weird about giving it to you? It sounds like he doesn't even get what friendship is. Friends actually talk to each other!
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 The birthday gift sounds strange. You guys didn't even talk for two months so why did he feel the need to get you a gift and then act weird about giving it to you? It sounds like he doesn't even get what friendship is. Friends actually talk to each other! That's because it's not a legitimate "friendship"...c'mon people, quit kidding yourself, get out of fantasy land...let the wheels spin in that head of yours, I know you got em. It's not about "friendship", it's called stringing-along and it comes in all shapes and sizes and it doesn't always include sex in the immediate future, especially when you're dealing with a guy who doesn't know how to make it happen anyway. Stop being mice following a peanut butter trail wondering where it goes, when you can lift your head up and look beyond, at the end and see the mouse trap for crying out loud. Instead of stepping in the damn thing than screaming "oh my god it hurts, the deception, the horror!" by then its too damn late...obviously.
GG3 Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 I wasn't following a trail NJ. I wasn't saying he wants her. Get some reading comprehension skills dumb***.
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