Nextlevel77 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Hello forum, I'm going to make a long story short. I wrote a longer post, but something happened when I tried to post and lost it. I met a girl online about five years ago. We chatted for a while and finally met. We hit it off great and continued to talk. Do to the fact that we lived in different states, we never became a couple do to the distance. We did continue to stay in contact and see each other from time to time over the years. She was only one state over(3 hours away). She works in the tv business and was in a small city and dreamed of getting a job in the big city where I was. Well she did that and now we have been in the same city for a while. The problem is that I have had the hardest time seeing her. The times we have been together was great though. We often talk about being together and what not, but I don't understand why it's so hard for her to spend time with me. I've tried to talk to her about it, but she never gives a straight answer and try to dodge the questions. She will even not talk to me for a week or two after I bring it up in hopes I would forget I ask about it. Keep in mind, we pretty much talk everyday, so I know that's what she is doing. We are very close and I have known her for a long time. I'll admit that it's hard for me to walk away. I've tried in the past but she always try her hardest to get me back. This is where I'm confused and don't know what to do. Like I said earlier, she is in the tv business and often talks about going to national tv one day. Is she trying to keep me at arms length and not want to commit because she feels like her career may take her to a different city? I got this feeling like she doesn't want to be around me too much, because she feels like we may get really serious and then she has to move for her job. Im speculating on this, but do to the her actions, it's what I'm coming up with. We are both in our 30's and I would think by now career shouldn't keep you from being with someone. I want to ask the forum what should I do from here? I'm at my breaking point and don't know what to do.
CherryT Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 She's not interested. You're probably a great online friend that she can talk to and be open with because you probably don't have a lot of mutual friends, but doesn't see a romantic connection. I'm in a LDR and we're hours away by plane. Nothing could keep us a part. Not distance not anything. In a LDR the biggest hurdle is who will move. She obviously doesn't have problems with that, but doesn't really care if you do or not. Distance isn't her reason. I don't think she's into you.
rocksteady85 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 (edited) Nevermind. I can read too. Edited August 20, 2013 by rocksteady85 I'm dumb.
Author Nextlevel77 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 She's not interested. You're probably a great online friend that she can talk to and be open with because you probably don't have a lot of mutual friends, but doesn't see a romantic connection. I'm in a LDR and we're hours away by plane. Nothing could keep us a part. Not distance not anything. In a LDR the biggest hurdle is who will move. She obviously doesn't have problems with that, but doesn't really care if you do or not. Distance isn't her reason. I don't think she's into you. I feel what you are saying. I felt like we were at that level until we lived in the same city. I guess it's time for me to let her go and move on. I never read that she wasn't into me until she moved here and she all of a sudden seemed to be distant. It caught me by surprise. I will never date someone again unless we are in the same area.
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