Is he playing it cool?

[izzy]

Hi everyone!

 

I was just wondering if anyone could give me any advice and tips.

On Saturday night, my friends and I were out in this bar that we frequently go to.

There is this new security guy, who's been there for a few weeks, who my friends and I have seen him looking at me.

 

Anyway, on Saturday night one of my friends said I should go and talk to him and even though I'd had alot to drink I was still too shy. While I was at the bar, my friend had been talking to him (very school days!) When I got back, she said he'd given me his number so we were just getting on with our night when he came over to me and said to give him a text tomorrow, that way he'd have my number and he'd phone me.

 

So I did all of this, but I have delivery reports on my phone and didn't get one til Monday morning but I still haven't heard anything from him.

 

What does everyone think? I know it hasn't been that long and he does have a day job too but I can't help getting parnoid!

 

Also, it is a bar where I and one of my friends used to work, so he's seen us talking most the staff and managers in there. I don't know that much about him but I'm hoping too, he looks in his early thirties and I'm used to guys the same age as me which is 22-25, so do older guys think differently?

 

Have I given him enough time or am I just too impatient? Will he playing it cool? It wouldn't make sense for him to give his number out and not do anything though, or would it? He knows that he'll see me again in this bar too.

 

Can anyone give me any advice?

 

Thanks, Izzy x

[bluechocolate]

when he came over to me and said to give him a text tomorrow, that way he'd have my number and he'd phone me.

 

If he was seriously interested in you he would have asked you for your number & called you the very next day. This business of telling you to text him ....... not a good sign in my book.

 

If you like going to this place then it's probably best to just keep things on a cordial friendly level with the door-staff. I've no doubt he sees pretty young things all night. I wonder how many of them he's told to text him?

[zara]

This is going to sound like we are raining on your parade but i wouldn't waste another second even thinking about it. Bouncers are notorious players, not all - i have some good friends who i know are decent guys - but generally Bluechocolate is right. If i give my number to someone they should call me back within the day or else they aren't taking me seriously.

 

SAy hi and be codial to this guy but he's very used to having young girls fall at his feet. If you really want to make an impression, play it cool. Although if i were you i'd move on to the next.