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Hi forumers, I'm new so I don't expect to much advice/opinions until I contribute, but I suppose breakups are one of the major reasons for joining. I'll be un-PC in my post, but it's purely to represent the situation for what it is, and not how I wish it could be portrayed.

 

By most standards, my girlfriend was perfect, eyes only for me, a heart for nurturing children not great in looks but still has a cute look. Several hardships have happened (deaths, medical, jobs) etc and I feel we were both there for each other.Both of us in early 20's and back and forth periods of living with parent / solo.

 

I knew she loved me and all I knew was that I cared. As time went by I started to feel social pressure for marriage. In discussion a month ago she said that didn't matter, stay together, I don't have to feel pressured to have a decision. I've been feeling a guilt deep inside for just over a month now, often made worse by trying to conceal the problem until I was sure of what I felt.

 

After 1 last (enjoyable) day out, I ended it and answered her why's as somber and honest as possible. This probably makes me stupid, but all I know is continuing a relationship to make someone else happy is wrong (im not a gift to women), id always feel like I'm just pretendingand that how dare I stay if I only think i'll dump her later.

 

I'm getting the usual social jabs women do to dissociate and comfort each other now (to be expected), I think the best I can do now is how to avoid creating the same situation in future.

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Were you not in love with her? Did you love her?

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Not in a passionate way, no. The relationship was hugs/kisses/chats and movies for a year, then had 8-9 foreplay nights afterwards, pretty close but not quite the full thing.

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