Kawas7 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Hey guys ill try go keep this simple. Before the summer started end of mayish my gf out of nowhere wanted space, im not stupid so i knew something was up so we broke up. We have been dating for 2 years, we fight alot here an there but we were always fine after, we broke up ofacourse i stayed around an she told me she just needed space to figure out what she really wants which was bs because 2 weeks in i finally get it out of her that shes been seeing another guy even before we broke up like 3 days she started talking to her so called "old friend". An this is were all the lies started, she finally told me about it an what she did with him, this went on for a month she would tell me she wasent with him but she was or that she was going to sleep but she was really seeing him this went on for a straight month an she said he was just a friend? yeah okay what friend comes over that late at night. Her excuse was that since shes single she didnt have to tell me anything but lying is lying an we were still talking. It got to the point where i couldnt beleave one word she said i actually drove past her house while he was there an caught her in her lie, she freaked out knowing she got caught. I still saw her here an there an hung out with her, an i could tell she was distant an different, one day she told me that she found out the kid actually had a gf an she seemed bummed an told me that she wanted to be together again an try again. So me being a fool in love believed her a week went by an one night i got this bad feeling that she wasent telling me the truth because she went to bed early. So i drove by an caught her again, ive sank that low to have to drive by her house to get the truth. After that i was so hurt i told her that ill be happy to talk to her when shes not confused anymore, gave her stuff back an stopping talking to her. It wasent even a day till she started freaking out because i wasent answering said all this hurtful **** kept calling an calling then calls me 5 in the morning crying an crying. Even after that everything she said to me she poured her heart out to me the next night she was with him an i was just so shocked again, an it went down the same cycle until i really cut it off she came back. Now since then all that we were trying i was doing everything i could we were good she stopped seeing him an then i finally asked her out again. We were good for 2 weeks amazing an then one day after a bad night because we fought she was being sketchy, then stoped txting me wouldnt answer calls for hours an i already knew something was up. She finally calls me back saying she was sleeping an left her phone upstairs..but before this she had an app called follow friend which she used to see her parents in florida an she added me one day well that day she deleted me off her friends so if i looked i couldnt see where she was. So again she lied to me an went to go see him WHILE we were actually dating again. This all was taking place all summer, literally my summer was ruined still is. We broke up after that an now she says she just dosent want a relationship right now. We talk everyday i see her once in awhile we still have sex an promised eachother that we wouldnt get with anybody else just us. An so far its been fine but i cant take it anymore i cant even be normal around her because i constantly bring all this stuff up over an over again an she gets pissed. Shes like changed totally, im here suffering pouring my heart out to her everyday writing these long txts to her telling her how much she means to me an dosent give me anything back. Everyday im upset trying to deal with this an shes out drinking with her friends never wants to spend time with me everything her excuse is were broken up if u cant handle what were doing right now seeing eachother an hanging out occiasinally then leave. Ive been waitinf for this girl for months now, i love her so much i never felt this way about any girl before so many amazing memories with her just everything. Im just in limbo because she said she wanted to settle down have all this future stuff with me we talked about it all this an now she dosent want a relationship? she stills wants everything with me she says but just dosent want a relationship right now an its just annoying. People keep telling me to let go but when im with her everything is good, i keep asking her why she dosent want one anymore an she says she dosent wanna deal with the bull**** anymore an that im good for a week or two an im not good again? idk whenever i see her now shes fine, dosent even seem like its affecting her shes happy. Shes a bitch an hides her feelings an says she dosent care but she really does because if i was seeing or talking to anyone else she would say she didnt care but she would. I feel like im getting played so hard an no matter how many times i try to bring **** up she gets pissed off an says we cant have a normal convo anymore but im just so sick of the back an forth. Things actually have been fine to be honest but i want a relationship period, its always been hard she says she has a hard time opening up? shes had many bad relationships an i guess u can say daddy issues when i first met her but shes good with him now but i never feel like she cares. I know im all over the place an theres so much more to this but this is just what ive been thinking about so far. I mean if u loved someone? an they were your bestfriend u say? Why would u do this to them if u wanted all that why wouldnt u be in a relationship with them an work it out, everyday im always like is she really home or doing something thats how bad the trust is now even though i messed up in the beginning. Like today she was so excited to see me before she goes on vacation but its like off an on. Just so sick of it all i dont wanna loose her but i dont wanna deal with the games i put 100 in she puts in 50 she thinks showing she cares is seeing me once in awhile an that being all i miss u etc etc to me one day makes everything better idk sorry for the long read. Im just so hurt shes everything to me, an i wanted everything with her this is just too much. Oh an she invited me to a concert well too a rave in late sept...like i dont wanna be this side person i said yes to going but now thats during the year an i dont need to be keep doing this. Btw were both 20 shes turning 21 1 month before me an its annoying because now shes gunna be doing all this ****. She says to me she dosent want to be single or be with anyone else she just dosent want a relationship. After this long an everything i give her everything care about her be there for her support her just everything even when her parents dont im always there for her an now she dosent want a relationship an i dont wanna drag this into my year because if she really loved me she would be with me right? Sorry for rambling on i feel like **** all the time like that she wouldnt stop seeing this guy for me that what he was better then me? She even told me she had caught feelings for him an **** an we get into these bad fights she loves to push my buttons an hurt me an say oh hes better then u in everyway? its like shes a giant bitch with a good heart but all this is just ridcoulous she didnt mean that but the way she is now i just dont kno what to do
soccerrprp Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Kawas7, You two are not meant to be together. I don't know how many people, after some period of dating, are surprised that the other is having second guesses or wants to break-up after revealing that conflict was a common component of their relationship. Your thirds sentence says you two fought a lot. RED FLAG. You call her a bitch with a good heart??????What??!! No such thing! You have been describing someone who is not committed to you or is making any real attempts to show you that you are her priority...what is there to figure out? She's not really that into you anymore. Try to move on... 2
truth_seeker Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 It's one thing to be married and have your fights... it's another to be dating and fighting. Sounds to me she wants an excuse to break up with you. She picks a fight, you take the bait, and you say something she can use against you. Stay away from women like this. They will bring you no joy; only heartache and headaches. 2
Author Kawas7 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 Kawas7, You two are not meant to be together. I don't know how many people, after some period of dating, are surprised that the other is having second guesses or wants to break-up after revealing that conflict was a common component of their relationship. Your thirds sentence says you two fought a lot. RED FLAG. You call her a bitch with a good heart??????What??!! No such thing! You have been describing someone who is not committed to you or is making any real attempts to show you that you are her priority...what is there to figure out? She's not really that into you anymore. Try to move on... So shes playing me? It just sucks im blind, weve been through so much an even now lately the past few weeks we talk everyday were actually good an trust me i say all this stuff to her, like shes strinling me along just everything. I talked to her tonight an she was just saying alot of stuff and i told her that your not really into me an shes like i still am really into you. When were together its perfect we have so many ups an downs but it wasent always like that the fighting an insecurties its like that now i just cant beleave she dosent want a relationship an even now im telling her how much im gunna leave i say sure an u can tell she gets upset an dosent want me to..but i dont wanna play that game i have to leave for good for her to come back im not into highschool anymore thats what i feels like. She says she knew what she wanted an now she just dosent want a relationship or whenever she figures it out idk whats gunna happen
anthony8x Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 (edited) Kawas, you better feel ****ing privileged, I made this account just so I could respond to your post. I had a situation almost identical to the one you are in happen to me. Except when she told me she wanted me back after it didn't work out with her new boy toy I told her to pound salt. I haven't looked back since and we dated for 2 years and I loved her to death. Do you know why she is saying she doesn't want a relationship? She is saying that because she doesn't want a relationship with YOU. She does want one, she just doesn't want you. The writing is on the wall and she couldn't be more clear. She dumped you just to go out on a limb and date another guy. It backfires on her because the dude is actually playing her so she tries to save face by getting back with you. You're her little security blanket. She isn't crying because she is worried about losing you. She was crying because she is afraid to be alone and she doesn't want to feel used. You my friend are just getting caught in the crossfire and you're a poor sap that keeps falling into the trap. I chased around my ex that dumped me for another guy for two months trying to get her back. She told me that she didn't want a relationship then she dates some guy, he dumps her for his ex, and she tries to get back with me. At that point I realized I was only the consolation prize and there is no way in hell I would just be the consolation prize. You need to open your eyes and leave this girl. Just stop responding tell her you are done. **** her crying because she isn't crying for you. If she really wanted you she would date you. There would be no bull****. Stop being her doormat! Go out and meet other girls and go on dates. It won't immediately fix the problem but you will eventually get over her. You really need to get her out of your life because it is toxic. Just remember the old saying, "out of sight, out of mind." The quicker you can stop seeing her or talking to her the faster you will be able to heal and get over her. Trust me man she won't be the last girl in your life. I know you love her and it pains you to leave her but there is nothing left. Even if you do get back with her things will never be the same and it won't work out because I can guarantee she will just do it again with something better comes along. It just sucks you had to take 2 years to find all this out. Look on the bright side at least you two weren't married. If you were she would not only have taken your heart but half of your **** with it! So man up grow a pair and drop her faster than a hooker drops her panties. Start listening to some heavy angry metal music to lift your spirits! Edited August 20, 2013 by anthony8x 3
Mrlonelyone Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Yeah. This woman sounds like a real winner. So far you have given her everything she could want right now and on her terms. Let me break down this science for you. For at least three months up to two and sometimes three years of a relationship people are in a chemically induced state called limerence, a.k.a, the honeymoon. In this state we don't see our relationship partners for who they really are. Your Ex or soon to be Ex fell out of limerence with you and realized that she really didn't truly love you. You fell out of that state when you saw how manipulative and ugly your GF could be. The question for you is, do you want to be with someone who as you say is a B***h. So far you haven't described any redeeming qualities in her at all.
Author Kawas7 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 Kawas, you better feel ****ing privileged, I made this account just so I could respond to your post. I had a situation almost identical to the one you are in happen to me. Except when she told me she wanted me back after it didn't work out with her new boy toy I told her to pound salt. I haven't looked back since and we dated for 2 years and I loved her to death. Do you know why she is saying she doesn't want a relationship? She is saying that because she doesn't want a relationship with YOU. She does want one, she just doesn't want you. The writing is on the wall and she couldn't be more clear. She dumped you just to go out on a limb and date another guy. It backfires on her because the dude is actually playing her so she tries to save face by getting back with you. You're her little security blanket. She isn't crying because she is worried about losing you. She was crying because she is afraid to be alone and she doesn't want to feel used. You my friend are just getting caught in the crossfire and you're a poor sap that keeps falling into the trap. I chased around my ex that dumped me for another guy for two months trying to get her back. She told me that she didn't want a relationship then she dates some guy, he dumps her for his ex, and she tries to get back with me. At that point I realized I was only the consolation prize and there is no way in hell I would just be the consolation prize. You need to open your eyes and leave this girl. Just stop responding tell her you are done. **** her crying because she isn't crying for you. If she really wanted you she would date you. There would be no bull****. Stop being her doormat! Go out and meet other girls and go on dates. It won't immediately fix the problem but you will eventually get over her. You really need to get her out of your life because it is toxic. Just remember the old saying, "out of sight, out of mind." The quicker you can stop seeing her or talking to her the faster you will be able to heal and get over her. Trust me man she won't be the last girl in your life. I know you love her and it pains you to leave her but there is nothing left. Even if you do get back with her things will never be the same and it won't work out because I can guarantee she will just do it again with something better comes along. It just sucks you had to take 2 years to find all this out. Look on the bright side at least you two weren't married. If you were she would not only have taken your heart but half of your **** with it! So man up grow a pair and drop her faster than a hooker drops her panties. Start listening to some heavy angry metal music to lift your spirits! Thanks man! i aprreciate it seriously, yeah it ****ing blows that things are like this never thought it would be like this. All that **** that was going on was 2 months ago but i wanted to put a backround, everything your saying makes sense because thats the **** i say to her everyday. She says she is commited to be but she dosent want a relationship such bull****. Ive been seeing her lately an its been great, i dont know what to think were actually talking like we used to its been awhile an everything seems normal but in the back of my head im just like this is such bs. I told her if she even wanted to be in my life we made a promise not to get with anyone or anyof the **** or talking to anyone else..pretty much like being together. Its been fine but idk how long it will last
Author Kawas7 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 Yeah. This woman sounds like a real winner. So far you have given her everything she could want right now and on her terms. Let me break down this science for you. For at least three months up to two and sometimes three years of a relationship people are in a chemically induced state called limerence, a.k.a, the honeymoon. In this state we don't see our relationship partners for who they really are. Your Ex or soon to be Ex fell out of limerence with you and realized that she really didn't truly love you. You fell out of that state when you saw how manipulative and ugly your GF could be. The question for you is, do you want to be with someone who as you say is a B***h. So far you haven't described any redeeming qualities in her at all. your right. She is a huge bitch ever since i met her she always had this sort of attitude i never cared she was just like that i knew bec all this guys ****ed her over an well then theres her ******* dad who hates my ****ing guts another problem. But shes amazing, shes gorgeous, smart has the chillest personality..were so comfterable with eachother its great. She was an amazing girlfriend for awhile an idk all this **** is just bull**** i remember all the good times an im like wtf happened i mean i wont put all the blame on her bec we fought hard an i said alot of **** an alot of **** has happened but still. When im with her it feels right might be a cliche thing to say but its true since i met her ive never had these feelings for a girl before never. There was alot of bull**** i had to deal with in the beginning but it was worth it an now things are shot
Author Kawas7 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 Kawas, you better feel ****ing privileged, I made this account just so I could respond to your post. I had a situation almost identical to the one you are in happen to me. Except when she told me she wanted me back after it didn't work out with her new boy toy I told her to pound salt. I haven't looked back since and we dated for 2 years and I loved her to death. Do you know why she is saying she doesn't want a relationship? She is saying that because she doesn't want a relationship with YOU. She does want one, she just doesn't want you. The writing is on the wall and she couldn't be more clear. She dumped you just to go out on a limb and date another guy. It backfires on her because the dude is actually playing her so she tries to save face by getting back with you. You're her little security blanket. She isn't crying because she is worried about losing you. She was crying because she is afraid to be alone and she doesn't want to feel used. You my friend are just getting caught in the crossfire and you're a poor sap that keeps falling into the trap. I chased around my ex that dumped me for another guy for two months trying to get her back. She told me that she didn't want a relationship then she dates some guy, he dumps her for his ex, and she tries to get back with me. At that point I realized I was only the consolation prize and there is no way in hell I would just be the consolation prize. You need to open your eyes and leave this girl. Just stop responding tell her you are done. **** her crying because she isn't crying for you. If she really wanted you she would date you. There would be no bull****. Stop being her doormat! Go out and meet other girls and go on dates. It won't immediately fix the problem but you will eventually get over her. You really need to get her out of your life because it is toxic. Just remember the old saying, "out of sight, out of mind." The quicker you can stop seeing her or talking to her the faster you will be able to heal and get over her. Trust me man she won't be the last girl in your life. I know you love her and it pains you to leave her but there is nothing left. Even if you do get back with her things will never be the same and it won't work out because I can guarantee she will just do it again with something better comes along. It just sucks you had to take 2 years to find all this out. Look on the bright side at least you two weren't married. If you were she would not only have taken your heart but half of your **** with it! So man up grow a pair and drop her faster than a hooker drops her panties. Start listening to some heavy angry metal music to lift your spirits! oh btw anthony wanted to add they werent dating..he was an old friend that she knew from back in the day, they just hung out which is bull**** she told me they did **** not all the time though im not stupid though but i guess it dosent matter wether shes dating the guy or just seeing him same ****, ****ing sucks to hear she caught feelings for another guy so quickly
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