lastking Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Just broke up last month with my girlfriend of 9 years. I am trying to recover from the pain but its hard. How did you recover from a break up and move on? Share your ideas....Thanks!!
Heysimon Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 New girlfriend helps alot?? Nine years is a long time, you are deeply imbedded in her. She will go thru what I call the freedom phase where she behaves like a 14yr old whose parents are gone for the weekend.. if you go NC on her its like her parents didnt come back from the weekend and it will make her start thinking.... give it a month at least... 1
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Just broke up last month with my girlfriend of 9 years. I am trying to recover from the pain but its hard. How did you recover from a break up and move on? Share your ideas....Thanks!! If it helps, My ex of 8 years dumped me LAST MAY and I'm still getting over it! Thats why I'm here. Not only is there no "formula" for how long it will take, everyone is different. but 8-9 years together is a VERY long time, and a month is miniscule in comparison. In no way can you expect yourself to recover that quickly. What I CAN tell you is that a year from now you might still be "recovering", but certainly not from the painful place you're in now. I have not ONCE EVER contacted my ex in any way, shape or form for the better part of that time (last august). I do not like or do social media, and that helps because I do not know what she's doing, seeing, etc.. Its been 100% NO CONTACT and although I still think of her- often, it doesn't have the same painful stabbing pain from over a year ago. She's just slowly fading away to oblivion. Give yourself time, allow time to grieve, and I mean GRIEVE! 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Just broke up last month with my girlfriend of 9 years. I am trying to recover from the pain but its hard. How did you recover from a break up and move on? Share your ideas....Thanks!! It takes people very different increments of time to get over a relationship. Some people can get over it in a week, while other stew in it and never fully get over a relationship. I hope you are not the later of this because it can ruin a life honestly. What sounds good is since you wrote this, you are WANTING to get better so that is a plus. You are coming off 9 years. Thats a pretty long time, so I can sympathize with you because this cant be easy. Whats good to realize is that there usually isn't "the one" like most movies and TV would have you believe. If there was, sites like this wouldn't exist. Heartbreak happens ALL the time, and sadly, it is not different for you either BUT there are always other people who will match up with you personally and emotionally WAY more than your ex will. Hard to really think about this early, but it is true. If you have friends, go to them for comfort, to complain, to share emotions, etc. STAY BUSY!!!! That is the most important rule. I thought about mine 24/7 and NOTHING got done EVER. I didnt heal, I didnt move forward, and life SUCKED. I honestly (and this is personal and I havent said this on here) was thinking about ending it. Thats AWFUL to think about. Life is really short King....honestly, it is. Don't forget that. When you are laying in bed (hopefully MANY years from now) and you are about to expire, you dont want to have any sort of regrets. This is a bump in the road that is really hard, but you learn from it, you grow from it, and you become a better person. Thats also hard for MANY users on here, but its true. I've seen you on here before King and I think youre a good person so dont let this ruin you. Stay busy, stay no contact, move forward, and heal. Time heals all wounds, and its still pretty early for you, but you can and will do this. .....this turned out to be long. I apologize 1
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