lover4721 Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 (edited) So I just met this girl yesterday, we watched movies and went on a walk. This was late at night so we couldn't do much. Anyhow, I am wanting to see her again and actually make plans and meet in the afternoon. So she definitely likes me, and even deleted her 'okcupid' app on her phone and doesn't go on, just proving to me that she isn't searching for anyone else. She did go on last night, warning me that her friend is on checking out our messages, so warned me to don't get mad. I won't... but it was a conflict she had when she saw me online (showing my friend our messages) and started yelling. We met the other day and it went well! Lasted from 7:30PM to about 4 AM, yesterday. So we talked and such, and she still calls me names like dear and sweet heart, but I kinda feel like she wasn't interested. She was at firs, she gave me this gift (bracelet) at first, and then went on a walk but after that barely looked at me. She gave me a huge hug upon leaving and kept looking down. Is she afraid of showing affection? So I couldn't give her a kiss, until I was on the same height as her and I did but it was quick. Then it seemed like she got insanely happy and telling me to text her when I got home. I feel as if she is scared of getting hurt. She was abused in the past, and all of her life, had an abusive relationship with her father since she was two. I feel as if she doesn't want to get intimate. I know she likes me... she has the same bracelet I do that she made. She talks about me. She randomly texts me with quotes. But now after we met, I feel as if she isn't really trying to advance this, like she did when we didn't meet. How do I ask her about her feelings? She says sometimes she doesn't feel like she will be what I want, and that she thinks I'm going to leave. So I think she isn't wanting to get close. I was going to call her last night about this, and she called me, but I didn't answer it and then she was with her friend. I told her to call me because I had a question, and she said alright sweet heart. She got home right away after work and called me. She was probably excited being that her friend asked to see the conversation. So yeah! Do I ask her if her feelings remain? Like if she is still afraid of getting hurt? Does it seem she is trying to hide her affection because she is starting to trust someone, and doesn't want to get hurt? I don't want to tell her my feelings, I want to take her out and show her. But she is powered by me telling her my feelings. I feel like I will come on too strong and she might not like that. Her and I are TOO similar. We will both hide our feelings, and over-think these things. We were both waiting for each other to message. So I feel like this is not going to go anywhere unless I show her and tell her how I feel. She has guy friends, and also some guy asking to hangout, but she said 'no' because she wanted to meet me. Edited August 19, 2013 by lover4721
stillafool Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Please tell her how you feel. It does sound like she likes you but as you said is afraid of being hurt or rejected. Sometimes girls wait for the guy to reveal his feelings first and ask for an exclusive relationship. It shows her Mother taught her right. It is wonderful that you want to take her out and show her how you feel. That will sweep her off her feet. I wish you two the best. 1
Author lover4721 Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 (edited) Please tell her how you feel. It does sound like she likes you but as you said is afraid of being hurt or rejected. Sometimes girls wait for the guy to reveal his feelings first and ask for an exclusive relationship. It shows her Mother taught her right. It is wonderful that you want to take her out and show her how you feel. That will sweep her off her feet. I wish you two the best. But will telling her make her feel like I am being needy? I've heard some guys say 'Game is over when you tell her your feelings.' She definitely says she doesn't want anyone else, because she is done with guys who just treat her like crap. So what do I do? Just tell her how I feel and then ask if she is willing to make this relationship exclusive? I don't want to make it seem like I am being needy by telling her all of this. I would love to ask in person instead, or do something more original than any other ordinary guy, but I am going the same pace as her and I know she would want me to ask her now. Edited August 19, 2013 by lover4721
stillafool Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 How long have the two of you been seeing each other and how old are you?
phineas Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Personally I wouldn't date someone who is "afraid of getting hurt". I've done it before & it always turned out to be a big waste of time on my part because I ended up being a BF without benefits. They are either ready to date or they aren't.
todreaminblue Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 (edited) hey lover 4721, this is where i will probably differ from what other posters will post but i will give you my thoughts to think about too....... when you have been abused even if you have therapy it colors your perception and sometimes no matter how much therapy you have had or currently under.......those colors remain ....when you have had trust issues that have been sliced to bits........it is hard to get intimate with others.....and women who have been abused, it is always going to take them a bit longer to open up to trust.....that is therapy 101......that you accept that you have to really know someone to trust them...when that person who abused them is soemone who they have known really well liek a parent for example or authority figure who si entrusted with theri care....do you see that someone who has been abused by the very person who has a duty of care towards them...do you see the colors........it is a betrayal in trust of a very high degree....way up there........ so this is my advice you have to expect its going to take a while for her to trust you, that there will be some hurdles, that thrapy might not fix her completely and neither will you.....you can make her happy, you can be that guy who loves her........you can be the one the restores her trust because you are trust worthy but it wont be easy.....and if you dont think you can deal with it....step aside...its early days......it woudl eb better to admit it might be too much for you...its not your fault if you cant deal with it... its going to take some time for her maybe a bit of therapy down the track if she hasnt had any...to give her coping strategies that help her to face the hurdles in dating and relationships....because its a bit of a mystery and pretty scary for anyone dating male ro female, let alone someone who has been abused..........and if you are a patient guy who has a slow hand.......who is serious about pursuing her.....it can work....with honesty and a bit of give and take you need to be that right guy for her...you have to be pretty understanding and patient.....and she needs to be the right girl for you she has to want to give it a go.......i wish you the best....deb Edited August 20, 2013 by todreaminblue
Author lover4721 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 I just messaged her hours ago and she seemed excited to show me what she bought, as if she took the pictures for me. It was the second thing she said to me, so I think she was thinking about me. But unless I'm being paranoid and my brain is just overthinking and making things up, she doesn't even seem to want to text me or even call me. Before, she would have this desire to call me or see me. Now I'm lucky if she even replies back. She hasn't... How long have the two of you been seeing each other and how old are you? We have been friends and talking for about 3+ weeks. Personally I wouldn't date someone who is "afraid of getting hurt". I've done it before & it always turned out to be a big waste of time on my part because I ended up being a BF without benefits. They are either ready to date or they aren't. Well I haven't really asked if she would get more into a committed relationship with me, but I know she is ready. hey lover 4721, this is where i will probably differ from what other posters will post but i will give you my thoughts to think about too....... when you have been abused even if you have therapy it colors your perception and sometimes no matter how much therapy you have had or currently under.......those colors remain ....when you have had trust issues that have been sliced to bits........it is hard to get intimate with others.....and women who have been abused, it is always going to take them a bit longer to open up to trust.....that is therapy 101......that you accept that you have to really know someone to trust them...when that person who abused them is soemone who they have known really well liek a parent for example or authority figure who si entrusted with theri care....do you see that someone who has been abused by the very person who has a duty of care towards them...do you see the colors........it is a betrayal in trust of a very high degree....way up there........ so this is my advice you have to expect its going to take a while for her to trust you, that there will be some hurdles, that thrapy might not fix her completely and neither will you.....you can make her happy, you can be that guy who loves her........you can be the one the restores her trust because you are trust worthy but it wont be easy.....and if you dont think you can deal with it....step aside...its early days......it woudl eb better to admit it might be too much for you...its not your fault if you cant deal with it... its going to take some time for her maybe a bit of therapy down the track if she hasnt had any...to give her coping strategies that help her to face the hurdles in dating and relationships....because its a bit of a mystery and pretty scary for anyone dating male ro female, let alone someone who has been abused..........and if you are a patient guy who has a slow hand.......who is serious about pursuing her.....it can work....with honesty and a bit of give and take you need to be that right guy for her...you have to be pretty understanding and patient.....and she needs to be the right girl for you she has to want to give it a go.......i wish you the best....deb
todreaminblue Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 I just messaged her hours ago and she seemed excited to show me what she bought, as if she took the pictures for me. It was the second thing she said to me, so I think she was thinking about me. But unless I'm being paranoid and my brain is just overthinking and making things up, she doesn't even seem to want to text me or even call me. Before, she would have this desire to call me or see me. Now I'm lucky if she even replies back. She hasn't... We have been friends and talking for about 3+ weeks. Well I haven't really asked if she would get more into a committed relationship with me, but I know she is ready. just give her time, take it slow, she seems in my opinion, from what you have written..... is interested in you sometimes people dont call or text for a variety of reasons..it doesnt have to be a negative if they havent called or texted..keep the channels open and take one day at a time ask her how her days going out of the blue....mayeb she is just waiting to hear from you..if she is excited when she does talk to you or a little shy even it is a good sign...........i wish you well....deb
Author lover4721 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 (edited) just give her time, take it slow, she seems in my opinion, from what you have written..... is interested in you sometimes people dont call or text for a variety of reasons..it doesnt have to be a negative if they havent called or texted..keep the channels open and take one day at a time ask her how her days going out of the blue....mayeb she is just waiting to hear from you..if she is excited when she does talk to you or a little shy even it is a good sign...........i wish you well....deb I think she is interested too, but I can't be too sure since she didn't seem to get close or even look at me when we were together. Until the end, then she was laying up on my side and enjoying my back massage I was giving her. The thing is... part of me wants to tell her, and the other part of me is scared to even know her feelings because if it doesn't match mine, then it would be the first women I ever met that didn't have feelings for me. ALL my women friends say "How will she not like you?" because they all like me. And her status says "Bottom line, if someone wants to be with you, they will make every effort to tell you and show you." This was a while ago... so it seems like she wants someone to really show and tell her, but why does it seem like she doesn't even want to talk? Edited August 20, 2013 by lover4721
Author lover4721 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 I asked to talk and kinda just got an excuse. "Maybe later, I'm sleeping over Maria's dear, and stilll out with her." At least she called me dear. But I just told her I wanted to tell her something and ask about her feelings, but maybe later.
Author lover4721 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 Dude... You need to take off the "Captain Save A Ho" suit, quit trying to "rescue" women and stop chasing "fixer uppers". Hurt People... hurt people. There will not be a happy ending for you. Go find someone who is healthy, has something to offer and who can add to your life. I am not finding those women lol. I am not in search for those types of women. She isn't a fixer upper. She isn't broken or crazy, but hurt from the past and I'm not sure. Sorry, I just lost all thoughts I guess. I'm going to tell her this too and see what she thinks I guess. Thanks guys.
Author lover4721 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 (edited) You just did. Yes she is. She basically TOLD YOU she isn't going to be what you want, she is going to make your life a living hell and asking telling you that you are an idiot if you attempt to date her. Take her at word and run for the hills. Well she literally just told me all of this last week, a huge long random mental breakdown message explaining everything. I stumbled across her... but it's not like I am in search for someone who needs someone to be her mental stability. And she was afraid of herself not being what I want, because her Dad always told her she wasn't good enough and things about looking like her Mom, so he dragged her to the gym. She isn't depressed but was hurt in the future. I just feel like that is not allowing us to get together. I even told her I was played with and I am expecting myself to get hurt, and she said it wasn't fair and she wouldn't be able to be with someone who didn't give his all to the relationship because he was scared of getting hurt. So now... I feel like she is afraid of getting hurt, and not giving our relationship it's all. I told her I wanted to talk about it, and she said "Okay sure! When I get out of the city I will tell you." And I also said I wanted to schedule a date, and she said "Lol alright :)" Nothing yet... and probably not going to receive a text either. IF she doesn't text me around this time or early in the morning, then I am done. She is obviously not looking for someone else because she would have taken the dumb bracelet off she made, and would probably be on OkCupid, but isn't. However, ever since I am wanting to advance this relationship, I am texting her first... asking to meet up first... etc. And she loves all of that. She even mentioned about me not doing that. She just needs that attention. That is why she told me about her father... and when I make her 'mental breakdown' days into good days by messaging her. She is trying to trigger my 'come help me' emotions. We are so similar, and I can bet you $100 that she is scared of telling me her feelings, just like she was waiting for me to message her first. So... if nothing comes up, I guess I'll just let it go. If she is interested and done making me chase after her to prove myself to her, then I'll see where her and I are. I learned a lot from this relationship! I am just getting very tired of these relationships just ending cold... damn annoying. EDIT! She said "You still awake?" 2:43AM. Not sure about replying. I kinda just want to leave this relationship as is and not really go into my feelings at this time. Edited August 20, 2013 by lover4721
Author lover4721 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 (edited) I couldn't help but notice you purposely didn't answer the "how old are you two?" question, but I'm betting that you two are very young. Here's a piece of advice that will serve you well thorughout your adult life. If a woman has 'daddy' issues, run. I'll say it again. If a woman has 'daddy' issues, run. You've now been officially warned. Haha not purposely. She just turned 19 in March, and I am turning 21 in November. So why run? I know all about father issues... did a report on it in Developmental Psychology. I just never received that piece of advice before and wondering why lol. If I am to leave... I am doing the same thing every guy has done to her, and I don't feel comfortable with that. She is expecting me to leave and here I am, going to be doing it. It doesn't make me feel like a man. I feel like I lost all of my manhood by taking your advice and running lol. Edited August 20, 2013 by lover4721
Author lover4721 Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 (edited) So she said when we were together, it didn't feel like when we would talk on phone and through messaging. She said because it was a bit uncomfortable at first, and when I opened up, she was to exhausted which I guess explains why she didn't even look at me or anything... So she said she would love to go on another date. lol. I just think someone else is consuming her time... she was with her best friend and some guy she likes, and his friend... well I think she added his friend on all of these social networks and commenting on his pictures. So now for this date... I'm going to be extremely damn nervous. I guess I was this funny guy through messaging, talkative, and in person I was quiet at first and laid back and then opened up but she was too exhausted. So we talked and she said all of these things like she doesn't want to really jump into anything because it isn't fair to me if there is not a connection... I mean she was obsessing over me for three weeks! Loss of connection? So anyhow. We are scheduling another date for either Friday, Saturday, OR Sunday. However... what if everyone on here is correct about her being too indecisive and I just get hurt and played in the long run? She is saying she was busy which is understandable I guess, because the day I left, she had no sleep for days and had to catch up. But it seemed like she wasn't sending me quotes, texts, or anything and I told her that and it was because of being busy? She said her feelings didn't change, but she doesn't want to jump into this exclusive relationship without confirming her feelings. So I guess I was this different guy in person, which is because she was all fine and such, and then kinda just died. She had no emotions. I wrap my arm around her and she asks me what I am doing! Edited August 21, 2013 by lover4721
Skyraider829 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 So she said when we were together, it didn't feel like when we would talk on phone and through messaging. She said because it was a bit uncomfortable at first, and when I opened up, she was to exhausted which I guess explains why she didn't even look at me or anything... What's a relationship worth if you are not together in person? I just think someone else is consuming her time... she was with her best friend and some guy she likes, and his friend... well I think she added his friend on all of these social networks and commenting on his pictures. I do not mean to sound pessimistic, but that could be. If she is really indecisive, and you are looking for a solid, or at least quasi-solid relationship with her - you might as well walk the other direction. One person's certainty and the other's uncertainty is bound to make for some interesting scenarios. So now for this date... I'm going to be extremely damn nervous. I can't blame you. Just don't think much of it and be collected. So we talked and she said all of these things like she doesn't want to really jump into anything because it isn't fair to me if there is not a connection... I mean she was obsessing over me for three weeks! Loss of connection? Boy, that sounds like definitive flakiness... So anyhow. We are scheduling another date for either Friday, Saturday, OR Sunday. However... what if everyone on here is correct about her being too indecisive and I just get hurt and played in the long run? I have been reading your thread over the past couple of days and I really won't say since I'm only giving opinions but I am fairly sure that obsessive indecision on her part will not play out effectively in a relationship setting. Unless she squares up a bit, that is. Don't let yourself get hurt if she does pull some asanine crap off. She said her feelings didn't change, but she doesn't want to jump into this exclusive relationship without confirming her feelings. That could be something good, but I suppose time will tell, right? So I guess I was this different guy in person, which is because she was all fine and such, and then kinda just died. She had no emotions. I wrap my arm around her and she asks me what I am doing! Heh, that sure is shallow of her. I would have just dropped it after that. But despite all of that, still - best of luck on it.
Author lover4721 Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 What's a relationship worth if you are not together in person? I do not mean to sound pessimistic, but that could be. If she is really indecisive, and you are looking for a solid, or at least quasi-solid relationship with her - you might as well walk the other direction. One person's certainty and the other's uncertainty is bound to make for some interesting scenarios. I can't blame you. Just don't think much of it and be collected. Boy, that sounds like definitive flakiness... I have been reading your thread over the past couple of days and I really won't say since I'm only giving opinions but I am fairly sure that obsessive indecision on her part will not play out effectively in a relationship setting. Unless she squares up a bit, that is. Don't let yourself get hurt if she does pull some asanine crap off. That could be something good, but I suppose time will tell, right? Heh, that sure is shallow of her. I would have just dropped it after that. But despite all of that, still - best of luck on it. We will be together in person lol. I don't do the online dating or distant relationship thing. When I was younger, (almost 21 now) I used to always be at my ex' (girlfriend) house. I think she will always be uncertain but I can't jump to conclusions like that. :/ I'd love to meet her again, no doubt... but I don't want to get too attached just to find out she is more indecisive and then I'm the one getting hurt in the long run. She isn't on the dating site so she isn't looking for someone on there, so that's good. A few times she would go on there because she didn't think I 'liked' her, but then when I said yes I am interested, she got off. I will let myself get hurt lol I allow myself to be hurt easily, with being attached to people I barely even know. She didn't even show any emotion at all that night. This will be the first girl I've ever met and been rejected to. I have known many that have liked me, and just had this obsession and wanting for me.
Skyraider829 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 I think she will always be uncertain but I can't jump to conclusions like that. :/ I'd love to meet her again, no doubt... but I don't want to get too attached just to find out she is more indecisive and then I'm the one getting hurt in the long run. She isn't on the dating site so she isn't looking for someone on there, so that's good. A few times she would go on there because she didn't think I 'liked' her, but then when I said yes I am interested, she got off. Is she hard to read? Indecision and unreadability have got to go hand-in-hand. True point - jumping to conclusions a priori will probably just lead to mistakes and irrational assumption which will lead to improper action in various circumstances, et cetera. I would think its wise to stay somewhat distant so like you say, you don't get hurt. Try to keep your shield up a little more when it comes to these things. I hope you don't get rejected, but if she can't make up her mind then what's that going to lead to? No relationship. Being "on gain and off again" ad infinitum is a lousy way to be boyfriend and girlfriend.
clia Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 I think you need to majorly put on the brakes. You've only known this girl a few weeks and only met her in person a few days ago. Frankly, I don't find anything at all weird about her not wanting to talk about feelings yet. It's way too soon! Why are you two already bringing all of this heaviness and drama into such a fledgling relationship? Why not just get together and have fun and leave the heavy stuff for later? IMO, you are definitely going to scare her off if you proceed at this pace. Slow down! 2
Skyraider829 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 I think you need to majorly put on the brakes. You've only known this girl a few weeks and only met her in person a few days ago. Frankly, I don't find anything at all weird about her not wanting to talk about feelings yet. It's way too soon! Why are you two already bringing all of this heaviness and drama into such a fledgling relationship? Why not just get together and have fun and leave the heavy stuff for later? IMO, you are definitely going to scare her off if you proceed at this pace. Slow down! I second this opinion. 1
Author lover4721 Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 (edited) I think you need to majorly put on the brakes. You've only known this girl a few weeks and only met her in person a few days ago. Frankly, I don't find anything at all weird about her not wanting to talk about feelings yet. It's way too soon! Why are you two already bringing all of this heaviness and drama into such a fledgling relationship? Why not just get together and have fun and leave the heavy stuff for later? IMO, you are definitely going to scare her off if you proceed at this pace. Slow down! I third this opinion haha. I did not want to express my feelings to her... I promise. BUT, she is the person that wants someone to express their feelings. She said she wants to meet up so then we can be more. I am in no way to rush things. It took me three weeks to meet her. lol. If I wanted to rush things, I would have met up with her much more sooner. But she gave me the impression that she wanted to turn this into more than friends right away and I felt like maybe she is waiting for me to say my feelings. Someone on here said to go at her pace, and I thought that was a good piece of advice. I promise with everything I can, I am in deep regret for expressing my feelings to her. I just thought that it was needed since she wasn't showing any affection. So now my question still remains in my head from last night, what do I do to kinda make this the opposite? Kinda just pull back and slow down and just see if she is interested into meeting again? To be honest, I was fearing that I was losing her because she might have thought I wasn't interested because she has those quotes that say "If someone is interested, they will make every effort to tell you and show you." So I was like "Oh well maybe she is waiting for me to say something." But I definitely screwed up and I know this from last night when we were talking about her feelings. At first, it felt like she was just throwing me off the edge, but then when we talked - I felt like those feelings I had, weren't even there...? It was fear of losing her to NOT telling her my feelings. Like feelings are there, but not too strong feelings because when we met, she was silent. So what do I do now? And thanks for all of your caring replies! Edited August 21, 2013 by lover4721
Skyraider829 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 I third this opinion haha. I square this quote and will take the thread to the cubic root of opinions. And then find the logarithm. Don't take action based on impressions. You need to have a more concrete signal if you get my drift here. Impressions aren't quite enough and are subjective. So now my question still remains in my head from last night, what do I do to kinda make this the opposite? Kinda just pull back and slow down and just see if she is interested into meeting again? Yes - retreat from this. Don't go into romantic mode with this at all. Act a little distant. Send her a text asking if she'd like to meet again and that's it. Don't elaborate. Keep it concise and clear and by all means, don't wrap crap up in red tape. If she starts to wonder why you aren't actively pursuing, then you can let her know that you decided its best to ease into this gradually for both her sake and yours. To be honest, I was fearing that I was losing her because she might have thought I wasn't interested because she has those quotes that say "If someone is interested, they will make every effort to tell you and show you." So I was like "Oh well maybe she is waiting for me to say something." I am tempted to say she made a mistake by texting you such things. She got ahead of herself with this I think. Maybe that's why she is retracing her steps and standing off.
Author lover4721 Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 (edited) I square this quote and will take the thread to the cubic root of opinions. And then find the logarithm. Don't take action based on impressions. You need to have a more concrete signal if you get my drift here. Impressions aren't quite enough and are subjective. Yes - retreat from this. Don't go into romantic mode with this at all. Act a little distant. Send her a text asking if she'd like to meet again and that's it. Don't elaborate. Keep it concise and clear and by all means, don't wrap crap up in red tape. If she starts to wonder why you aren't actively pursuing, then you can let her know that you decided its best to ease into this gradually for both her sake and yours. I am tempted to say she made a mistake by texting you such things. She got ahead of herself with this I think. Maybe that's why she is retracing her steps and standing off. Well things kinda just got odd. She is on OkCupid. So maybe she has gone to look if I went on, OR maybe showing her friend our conversation. Maybe looking for someone else, I'm not sure. My heart just stopped a little bit lol. Yes, she kinda gave me the signal that she was ready when we met, but I guess she isn't ready anymore! I'm honestly not too sure. Now she is online and that gives me another mixed signal and the anxiety of loss. Edited August 21, 2013 by lover4721
Skyraider829 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Well things kinda just got odd. She is on OkCupid. So maybe she has gone to look if I went on, OR maybe showing her friend our conversation. Uh-oh. My guess is as good as yours about that. Maybe looking for someone else, I'm not sure. Has she spoken to you at all? Or has she left you hanging? Yes, she kinda gave me the signal that she was ready when we met, but I guess she isn't ready anymore! I'm honestly not too sure. Now she is online and that gives me another mixed signal and the anxiety of loss. If she's going to do that, you might as well drop this and go cold turkey. If she calls up or tries to contact you, then tell her that you aren't into the whole "mixed signals, indecision, yes or no or maybe" relations and leave it at that.
Author lover4721 Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 (edited) Uh-oh. My guess is as good as yours about that. Has she spoken to you at all? Or has she left you hanging? If she's going to do that, you might as well drop this and go cold turkey. If she calls up or tries to contact you, then tell her that you aren't into the whole "mixed signals, indecision, yes or no or maybe" relations and leave it at that. Nah I just told her because she doesn't show any feelings, I can not trust them and she said "K". This was about 24 hours ago. I guess I kinda left her hanging to see if she would show her feelings for me and text me something, but nope. So I don't play games like this and I don't want to text her like everything is alright. And now she is sharing this picture about 'a strong man can handle a strong woman' saying "yes, so I need a strong man!" And another quote 'forget what hurt you but don't forget what it taught you.' I don't know whether to message her about Friday or not. And deleted my posts she made about me on FB, tagging me in a quote. Ha. Not good. I screwed up. Edited August 22, 2013 by lover4721
Skyraider829 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Nah I just told her because she doesn't show any feelings, I can not trust them and she said "K". This was about 24 hours ago. I guess I kinda left her hanging to see if she would show her feelings for me and text me something, but nope. So I don't play games like this and I don't want to text her like everything is alright. And now she is sharing this picture about 'a strong man can handle a strong woman' saying "yes, so I need a strong man!" And another quote 'forget what hurt you but don't forget what it taught you.' I don't know whether to message her about Friday or not. And deleted my posts she made about me on FB, tagging me in a quote. Ha. Not good. I screwed up. OMG, tell her to quit with the quotes and the symbolic communication, gee whiz... I suppose if she doesn't text you back then maybe she is realizing that she jumped into the game before considering the potentialities and is now working in reverse. She deleted posts about you on Facebook; Well that's signifying something isn't it? How about calling her and meeting with her in the future and inquiring why she decided to jump on the band wagon before she even knew what it was about? No offense, but its seems like she is driven by emotional impulse, then sets aside rationality until after the fact. Not wise thinking in the slightest. How're you handling all this? Hopefully you aren't sulking too much.
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