SMALLTOWNBLUES Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Hello, So it's been about 2 1/2 months that I've been going through this crazy breakup with my ex, who was cheating on me with a (former) friend. A month out of the breakup, she was texting me late night about how much she missed me, said she loved me and that she couldnt stand the new guy and wished it had never happened. Meanwhile, I'm hearing from other people that she is nuts about him. So then she goes back and forth between being mean to me and sweet. I found out the new guy dumped her cos she is crazy when she argues. Turns out she'd just been texting me for attention. She told me they were not on speaking terms but I realized that this was not her design. She was pining for him and since he rejected her I guess she wanted him more. Anyways, she saw me out at the bar and she was on a date with the new guys coworker. Guess she's dating him to make the new guy jealous. I get a text from her at 3 am (she had unblocked my phone number to send this text) saying I looked good and she had wanted to talk to me that night. Then she said she wanted to be friends. I DO NOT WANT TO GET BACK WITH HER, but I have been so heartbroken and sad since this breakup. I miss her, but its the pedestal placed her, not the lying, manipulative, cheating her who says cruel things and then flirts with me when she doesnt get attention. Long story short, I saw the new guy out a week ago and he tried to talk to me. I just told him that I knew she was playing games with both of us and I showed him all of her texts to me. She had been texting me sweet stuff but I guess she talked with him and he told her I showed him her texts. She is also mad b/c she spent the night with me and we got naked but didnt do anything but when I told this to new guy, I was insinuated enough to where he thinks we had sex. I guess why I'm writing is, for some reason I feel bad. I think I shouldnt, but I guess that by planting that seed in his head and having him yell at her, I feel like a liar. (she denied ever sleeping over, so I guess it's even). I guess I just feel bad that she hates me and also that I stooped to lying essentially. I've tried to maintain integrity throughout this. Am I a total ass for this? Is my white lie a big deal? It's the only one I've told in this whole breakup. She on the other hand has told many. Should I tell the new guy we didnt have sex? I plan to never speak to her again. She's messing with my head. Have had a couple of dates but no one I really like yet. just had to get it off my chest. Her last text said I WILL HATE YOU FOREVER FOR THIS. Part of me is like, F**K that crazy B*tch and part of me feels bad.
Balzac Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Feel bad? Feel for your ballz and know that you did the right thing. 1
Ireallydontknow Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Actually you did something awesome. You showed the new guy what a lying two faced b**** she is. Thus, killing her ego even more, and giving her less of a pool of ego boosting men to run to. This is not a bad idea. I've thought about doing something like this myself, except I don't speak to my ex yet. I have a feeling in a couple months I'll hear from her. I know how she gets. 1
Balzac Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Should I tell the new guy we didnt have sex? Nah let her explain it all. Let her experience the blowback of her manipulations. Let him bang her if he wants. You've got the outcome you needed.
Author SMALLTOWNBLUES Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 Just wanted to make sure I was not in the wrong. Trying to exit with integrity, felt a little petty but it was what I felt needed to happen so she would not get to screw with me anymore. She looks at it like me trying to sabotage her chances with him and in a way, it was. But sending someone texts that can make them think there is some hope and running back and forth for attention when she's not getting it from that guy is messed up.
aliveagain Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 If this helped balance the scale a bit, who cares, just as long as it helps you get her cheating ass out of your life. She's not your problem anymore, be thankful.
Balzac Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 She is also mad b/c she spent the night with me and we got naked but didnt do anything That took rrstraint on your part. Seducing you is part of her manipulation. Beware. It's tough to resist.
2sure Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 You know, she totally deserved it. But because you value your personal integrity...it's something you need to take care of, not for anyone else but yourself. Tell the guy she got naked with you but you didn't bang her. That's good enough.
supaflyz Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 what a crazy woman! You dn't need her in your life.
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