Tiptop Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Hello everyone, I'm an American living in S. Korea and have been dating a girl for the past two years (Met August, 2011). She was 21 when we met and is about to turn 24. After three months, she broke up with me because in Korea the 3 month mark is a big one and usually means a longer commitment. At the time, it broke my heart, since I still wanted to date. So, she realized she missed me and we got back together. Fast forward to this year. She got a working-holiday visa for Canada and was gearing up to move there at the end of March. We were gonna give the long-distance thing a shot. All is going well and I went out to see her in Canada during my summer break. Two weeks together. Then, after leaving her facebook chat page open, I see messages exchanged with a guy. I look further, read it all, and realize she was having an affair for TWO MONTHS behind my back....IN KOREA (not Canada). This was the last two months before she left to go abroad. I was shocked. Really behind my back. With me one night, him the next. She would tell me she was "tired" after work and going home, then turn around and message him, asking if she could "come over to his place." They had unprotected sex, snuck off to another city for a weekend together...all of this without me knowing. I had no reason to suspect. My girl is SUPER apologetic and we do love each other. The time we had together in Canada, before discovering this, was the best of our two years together. I'm struggling now with second chances and forgiving her....or dealing with the end of this relationship. She promises she will never do it again. You've heard this all before, but I'd be interested in hearing some opinions from random strangers. Thanks.
JDPT Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 It goes to tell you that she wasn't so traditional after all. I quiet honestly believe there isn't anything to think about here, she deceived you, told you she was going somewhere when in reality she was meeting with her lover, that's called premeditated. She can apologize from here to the other side of the world but that still does not change the fact that she was in bed with another man and had unprotected sex at that. I think you have a clear concept as to what it is you need to do here.
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