Mystery2Me Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 (edited) Greetings LS! Finalized my divorce today....freedom ROCKS!!!!! Today is my day and I am very proud to say that with the support of my lovely parents, family and friends....I chose ME. Read my thread if you are unfamiliar with my unfortunately common betrayed spouse story, beacause from this point forward NOT another word, thought or byte about the exhusband. We team-Mystery celebrated a healthy exchange of love with a champange brunch at my favorite French bistro after court, and high-tea with fancy petite fours. Thank you to so many here that lifted and encouraged me thru it all. Today I laughed more than I cried:lmao:, and drank a wee bit more than I should....and rocked a sexy couture summer white dress!!!! Praying I am that life does continue to blossom and peace finds me everyday. For the newbies I know how very painful even 60 seconds of the roller-coaster can be to endure, but ride it ANYWAY....peace will come if you let it. Hold on to the TRUTH, not the smoke-n-mirrors, and let go. ~Choosing Happiness-Mystery:) Edited August 19, 2013 by Mystery2Me 14
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Author Mystery2Me Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 Thank you, darling. You are all most there Rev!!!! 2
revitup Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 M2M, I am down to "days" now! You,Mystery2Me, have amazed me with the amount of class and style demonstrated in your journey.It is uplifting and inspirational. Many people say what they would do in the face of adversity and fear,you have shown us all, what those words truly mean. Cinnabelle and M2M have many happy days ahead. Enjoy your freedom and New Life. REVITUP 2
Author Mystery2Me Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 (edited) Thank you so very much Rev!!! A complicated dance it has been to maintain my dignity while dealing with a scoundrel. My friend you know all too well, the price of remaining focused and rising above the WW spouse's antics and madness. What I know for sure is that LOVE real LOVE should not wound one, difficult it may be....but never woundful. And having that knowledge we MUST choose to make healthy love choices, for me that has included God, sweet Cinnabelle, Loveshack, Family, and Friends. Know that crossing the finish line is a beautiful and emotional ending to our marathon, and peace awaits you. ~Take care and May God Bless-Mystery Edited August 20, 2013 by Mystery2Me 4
MsOptimist Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 I'm so happy that it's finalized and you can put all of these pieces behind you! Very glad to hear that you laughed more than cried yesterday, I think my court date played out similarly. Now you just have to look forward to the peace, love, and kindness that awaits. You're taking care of yourself, and all the rest will follow suit in due time.
Author Mystery2Me Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 Thank you MsO! Peace sounds so nice and it is the most important, and has been the most precious reward. Just to know that everyday when I rise, all will be well in the end.... even if things do not go the way I want. Enjoy it all and take very good care of yourself. ~Cheers-Mystery
littlejaz Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 I can't wait until I get to where you are. Been going through my divorce for 1 1/2 years now. I look so forward to the day it is final. I have read through some of your previous posts and you are an inspiration. I am lucky in one way, STBX doesn't contact me. Our only contact is through our lawyers. 1
Author Mystery2Me Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 (edited) LittleJaz Thanks! No contact saved me, have NOT spoken to him in over a year. Continue to take care of yourself as best you can and do not apologize for being selfish. Edited August 20, 2013 by Mystery2Me 1
Author Mystery2Me Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 Good Sunday Afternoon LS, Hope everyone has enjoyed another September week, and most importantly with peace. Today is a bit blue for me, do not get me wrong I am thankful to be divorced and more so to be rid of the negative force in my life. My blueness is just well, the depth of hurt caused senseless behavior. Yes, today is a why me day!!!!! I am angry about the work I still must do to repair the shattered pieces and the exhaustion it will cause. I understand that I deserve a healthy loving relationship and can only do so, if I confront the truth. Wow I am thankful that I did not waste energy interacting with that person after the bomb was dropped...because mercy do I need the energy now. Life is good I really do know that and I am thankful for all of my blessings. Praying I am that soon my heart will fully experience what mind knows so very well....The Best Is Yet To Come!!! ~Cheers to healing- Mystery 1
HokeyReligions Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Ah, that's YOU breathing! Its so good to hear of such a delightful and healthy new beginning. Congrats on your new life:) 1
RonaldS Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 M2M...congratulations on getting everything finalized. I just finalized this last Thursday. I was already to take a big deep breath in and enjoy the freedom, but my XW threw a curve at me right after our hearing, and that made things messy for a few days. But, I washed myself of it, and today was a good day. Relaxed all day, and ended up meeting a beautiful woman at the coffee shop who I talked to for awhile and then we agreed to meet up for drinks sometime. Will I go out with her? Probably not. Or maybe. At this point, I don't really care if I do or don't.....I just enjoy that I still have it, I guess. I'm sure you'll have some blue days. No way around that. But you go forward and eventually it all just becomes a hazy memory. I really don't even think about my XW anymore. Yes, we just finalized, but we've been apart for years and life moved on a long time ago. You'll get there. Just take the blue days and embrace them. They're part of your narrative now, and they make you richer in thought, feeling and experience. Enjoy your freedom! 2
carhill Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Finalized my divorce today....freedom ROCKS!!!!! Congrats! I recall that day well. We dropped off the final filings, stopped by the funeral home to pick up my mom's ashes and I took my exW to lunch. The next day we received the 'marriage dissolved on xxx date' documents in the mail. Love that efficiency! Death and divorce, all in one day. Hope the rest of your life is a joyful one! 1
revitup Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 (edited) Good Sunday Afternoon LS, Hope everyone has enjoyed another September week, and most importantly with peace. Today is a bit blue for me, do not get me wrong I am thankful to be divorced and more so to be rid of the negative force in my life. My blueness is just well, the depth of hurt caused senseless behavior. Yes, today is a why me day!!!!! I am angry about the work I still must do to repair the shattered pieces and the exhaustion it will cause. I understand that I deserve a healthy loving relationship and can only do so, if I confront the truth. Wow I am thankful that I did not waste energy interacting with that person after the bomb was dropped...because mercy do I need the energy now. Life is good I really do know that and I am thankful for all of my blessings. Praying I am that soon my heart will fully experience what mind knows so very well....The Best Is Yet To Come!!! ~Cheers to healing- Mystery M2M, I'm glad to see someone else FELT this way over the weekend....Rev did too.It was a little sick feeling in my stomach,I really don't know why.Well at least not until M2M posted this.All good now though. Thank you. REVITUP Edited September 9, 2013 by revitup Cause trippi like it when Rev edits 1
Author Mystery2Me Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 Thanks you all for your uplifting posts, I greatly appreicate the wisdom and support. I have noticed that when my life becomes hectic and stressful with everyday demands (work, house, errands....), those are the times when being single is really frustrating and lonely. Again, I do not want that person back, but I would cherish the support of a partner and a soft place to fall. My friends , family, and Cinnabelle:D are amazing with helping, and those are the bright spots in my life. Everyone please have the very best day you can and be very kind to yourselves! ~Choosing Happiness-Mystery 2
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