Kimmie80 Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Just wanted to get some advice and see what you guys think I should do.... I was seeing this guy for 2 months. We hit it off great and everything was perfect! I believe him when he told me he cares about me. He would tell me on a daily basis. Well now, he is gone. I jumped to conclusions about him that were not true due to my self-esteem and insecurity issues. He said he is hurt that I would look at him that way and that he is sorry, but he has to walk away. I messaged him 3 emails expressing my sincere apology, expressing how sorry I am and why I reacted. ANd that I miss him so much and I cannot believe I acted like that. He knows my ex had an affair and that I have never truly been able to get over that. He emailed me back saying that he does forgive me, but everything happens for a reason. He said he is sure our paths will cross again. NOt sure if thats his way of letting me go gently or if it means he is not closing the door completely. Either way, I never responded back. I gave up fighting for him. He knows how sorry I am and how much I want him back. It now has been 32 days of NC. Question is, should I write him an email checking in with him? Part of me thinks he just walked away not giving a **** and another part of me thinks he just does not know what to say. He is still too angry and it might be awkward because of the pain that I am in. What do you guys think?
Appleness Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Don't check in on him. It won't make him change his mind. Chalk this up to a lesson learn and just move on. It's unfortunate and I know it sounds harsh but no matter how perfect it was, it was really only 2 months that you lost. If it was your insecurities that caused you to falter, work on that before you get into another relationship so that it doesn't mess you up again when you meet another decent guy. Make sure you can be happy all by yourself and that you are emotionally healthy regardless of what they think of you. Life is like this sometimes. You have these fleeting moments with people and sometimes things just don't work out and they exit your life as quickly as they entered it. But you should always be content with yourself because it's the only person you can really trust to stick around. Good luck!
Author Kimmie80 Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 Thanks for the advice. It makes sense. I was just having a bad day. It sounds so silly that I'm stressing out over such a short relationship. I think its because it was so perfect and it all changed in a matter of seconds. No time to see things coming or get prepared. Im working on myself now. Trying to build up my self esteem and any other issues that may get in the way
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