notaneatfreak Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 A guy I had been seeing for the last month who used to text me everyday (his initiative) just asked me to respect his privacy and delete his number from my phone and no longer contact him. The problem is now my best friend and his best friend are dating because we set them up. He said that he is going through personal problems he does not wish to discuss with me. He said this to me all in text. He could not even call me. His personal problems are that he works in three difference cities and works a lot. He then this morning told me to delete his number. Thing is my friend told me to text him once a day to see how he was. Now that I did he asked me to delete his number so the entire plan backfired. I am so hurt and confused by this. He would always come and see me, take me out on dates, swoon me, then all of a sudden he drops off the face of the planet. I need some help here please!
pteromom Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 I don't think there is anything you can do but respect his wishes and delete his number. I'm sorry this happened to you. Only he knows what the heck happened, but if I had to guess, I'd guess that he is seeing someone else. 4
Balzac Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Respect that he's got current problems. Don't try to guess what the problems are. Don't ask your friends what to do / the guy was abundantly clear and you disrespected him. Get a clue.
RogerWallace111 Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Respect that he's got current problems. Don't try to guess what the problems are. Don't ask your friends what to do / the guy was abundantly clear and you disrespected him. Get a clue. what? 6
Balzac Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Thing is my friend told me to text him once a day to see how he was. Now that I did he asked me to delete his number so the entire plan backfired. Yup. 1
RogerWallace111 Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Im sure he did this without warning and did not tell her to leave him alone (i hope!) You really can not place the blame on her Yeah I read her daily text thing as being what brought on the "delete my number". But if she was asked, then proceeded to text him daily, then was asked again, that would be one thing. I'm pretty sure her post doesn't indicate that in any way, though. 2
Balzac Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 He said that he is going through personal problems he does not wish to discuss with me. He said this to me all in text. He could not even call me. I'm just taking OP at her word. I've got no facts how many times she texted the dude after he notified her. I just know that when one person tells another about problems - best to listen and respect the source. She plotted her course of action and now feels hurt. Feeling hurt isn't about right or wrong. People under stress eliminate stressors.
Author notaneatfreak Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 well - ya. i am with the person at the bottom. he didn't say leave me alone. my friend is now still seeing his friend. freaking horrible feeling. so he said in another text " you can't respect my space? please respect this and delete my number from your phone." if a guy can't take an apology over a text or in a voicemail then the relationship is probably not gonna work anyways right? and, p.s. the argument was over the cultural clashing of girlfriend/boyfriend and what it mean. omg.
Author notaneatfreak Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 I did not reply to him often however when he made me mad I think that may have freaked him a little. Note to self - don't send stupid mad texts. Now I am realizing I was in love.
Author notaneatfreak Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 i am sorry but to whoever advised me Respect that he's got current problems. Don't try to guess what the problems are. Don't ask your friends what to do / the guy was abundantly clear and you disrespected him. Get a clue. ..... um WTF lol
BradJacobs Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 i am sorry but to whoever advised me Respect that he's got current problems. Don't try to guess what the problems are. Don't ask your friends what to do / the guy was abundantly clear and you disrespected him. Get a clue. ..... um WTF lol Just because you don't like the feedback doesn't mean it's wrong. The fact that he sent you a text indicating you couldn't respect his need for spaces infers you disrespected his need for said space. So the lesson here would be to listen to your partner in the future rather than your friend. 1
Noproblem Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Well, it's sad but that's life. Learn and move on!
SugarLips72 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 I know this totally sucks but you really have no choice but to respect his privacy. It is odd he told you not to contact him anymore for privacy issues I am guessing he has another relationship going somewhere. I doubt he was being totally honest with you. He is probably a coward anyways and a liar. Good luck. 1
nescafe1982 Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 Yeah, no need to continue chasing someone who does not want to be caught! We don't have the full story here but it's pretty clear that he's not into it. Who cares what his reason it?
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