CaptAwesome Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 After getting this email yesterday after me asking if we were taking a break or breaking up: "We are taking a break for now. I am not saying it is forever but at least until you get back in January. I wouldn't change anything about you, CaptAwesome. You need to stop thinking that there is something that you could change that would help the situation. I basically got a form of cold feet and just need some time by myself. I love you and care about you and I am sorry about how this all played out." I feel so angry and hurt inside. I want to call her and calmly tell her that she is being selfish and inconsiderate of my feelings. I want to tell her how much it hurts to be put on the back burner after something that tested our relationship happened. I want to ask her why, if I am so wonderful in her eyes how can she do this to me? I want to let her know that I would rather just break up and get on with it instead of dealing with not really knowing how we will be 4 months from now. I want to put the burden of a failed relationship directly on her feet to make her feel the hurt that I'm feeling right now. BUT I WON'T, I'm going to try and find a counselor to talk to. I will keep myself under control. I will keep my accusations, emotions, fear and love inside until I can see this more clearly. I will stay strong and not act out of anger. I will reassess this in 2 weeks. Feel free to comment or tell everyone else what you would like to say to your ex.
templeofmax Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Man, I am 4 months post breakup and I wished as he had said that to me. Ride it out. DON't CONTACT HER!!!! Let her time to miss you. She will. 1
Author CaptAwesome Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 Man, I am 4 months post breakup and I wished as he had said that to me. Ride it out. DON't CONTACT HER!!!! Let her time to miss you. She will. It so F'ing hard though. Especially when you're feeling hurt and angry and loaded with questions. BUT I WILL STAY STRONG!
Author CaptAwesome Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 No Contact. Don't say ANYTHING. Well I know the worst that could happen is she completely goes away. Do I want that? No. BUT how can someone just love you and throw you to the side like that and say, "Hey we aren't broken up but I'm not talking to you either." Other than replies to my emails last week she hasn't tried to initiate contact with me yet. I even asked her if she isn't opposed to contacting each other how would she like that to happen. NO REPLY, so in my mind she's just saying, "I don't want to talk to you in any form so I can get the F over you". So the way I feel about it is we should just get it over with.
Simon Phoenix Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Well I know the worst that could happen is she completely goes away. Do I want that? No. BUT how can someone just love you and throw you to the side like that and say, "Hey we aren't broken up but I'm not talking to you either." Other than replies to my emails last week she hasn't tried to initiate contact with me yet. I even asked her if she isn't opposed to contacting each other how would she like that to happen. NO REPLY, so in my mind she's just saying, "I don't want to talk to you in any form so I can get the F over you". So the way I feel about it is we should just get it over with. Get what over with? The relationship is over. If she doesn't want to talk to you, everything you say will be a waste of time, effort, and sanity. Just settle down and give her what she wants. That will have more of an effect than any last-ditch useless effort will have.
Author CaptAwesome Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 Get what over with? Just break up instead of her saying, "Let's take a break and see where we are in 4 months."
Simon Phoenix Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Just break up instead of her saying, "Let's take a break and see where we are in 4 months." She did break up with you. You are broken up. It's over dude. The sooner you accept that and proceed from that, the better off you'll be in every aspect of your life.
OzHeartache Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Just break up instead of her saying, "Let's take a break and see where we are in 4 months." Mate, Let me tell you My Ex said the same thing, Although deep down I knew it wasn't looking good I kinda stayed in Limbo for about 6-8 weeks till I couldn't take it anymore and forced the issue, and then she told me it was over ! I think she knew all along and just didn't have the guts or want to hurt me What Im saying is listen to these people, They all said the same thing to me and although its not what you want to hear, Go NC and get on with your life "If" she comes back and wants to try great!, If not, Then your well on your way to recovery and your next (most probavly better) relationship Sucks hard mate, Im still hurting, I got dumped again after 6 weeks with the next one that I was sure was a perfect match for me due to her having "no spark"................ Ive gone immediate NC as much as it hurts because it felt so great being with her but you cant make someone want to be with you no matter how much you want it...........we just have to keep going
lil hoodlum Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Don't let her jerk you around like this. Respect yourself because she is not showing you the respect you deserve. It is real simple, You are either in a relationship or you are not in a relationship. There are know "breaks" just break ups.
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