Dazzee Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 We've talked everyday for 4 years. I miss her beyond belief, she dumped me and I left our apartment. She didn't contact me and didn't return to our apartment, instead opting to go to her friends place and stay there for a while. She doesn't want to deal with any of our break up and is staying with them because they're "fun time" people who are loud obnoxious and never talk in a serious manner, and also doesn't want to return home and be alone and not have a distraction. I don't understand. We were best friends as well as deeply in love. It seems as though she is running away from her problems and doesn't want to deal with anything, just opting to distract herself instead. So, does she miss me at all? She cried all the time and was anxious for at least 4 days (I don't know about after this it's been a week now), I've contacted her but I stopped 3 days ago. She hasn't contacted me. It really hurts. There is no way on earth I could ever have fathomed that she would not miss me, but she works 39 hours a week and is staying with them "having fun". I just don't know.
supaflyz Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 It definitely sucks man, but somehow you have to find the strength to overcome the problem lying ahead of you. I don't know how some people could do that either from talking everyday to nothing..... 1
templeofmax Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Of course she misses you and probably loves you. Unless she is a freaking robot. However,that doesn't mean she wants you, at least not at this time. Leave her be. 3
Author Dazzee Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 Thank you guys, I'm trying to stay NC, it's just... I'm so alone. She was my life and I'd kill for her to contact me, just to know she cares... Or she misses me... Anything. She isn't trying to go 'no contact', I think. So by not contacting me it seems she has no motive other than to push me away and try forget about me.
theonlyjuan Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Not everyone deals with things the same way. She might be one of those who act like the last few years never happened, she might also act like you dont exist, it's just a way of coping. I think I am doing the same to my ex but I do think about her. She probably thinks that I don't. When I feel I am 100% there and ready, I will make contact and if she wants to talk we can. The first few months are especially too early to re-open contact. So don't expect her to get in contact anytime soon, until she is getting over your and moving on herself Give her space and time, she will get in contact one day. Don't live your life for that moment though. You have to live your life and move on. If she never contacts you again, she was not worth your time! I don't know how anyone could be that cold and heartless 1
templeofmax Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Thank you guys, I'm trying to stay NC, it's just... I'm so alone. She was my life and I'd kill for her to contact me, just to know she cares... Or she misses me... Anything. She isn't trying to go 'no contact', I think. So by not contacting me it seems she has no motive other than to push me away and try forget about me. 4 months on for me and I sometimes think that too. Our pics are still on her FB though! She seems to have the time of her life so it makes me wonder sometimes. HOWEVER, it is really hard to forget somebody so soon, and the missing badly probably comes after a while for SOME people. Depend on the relationship and the breakup. Try to not focus on what she is thinking, but on yourself. 1
templeofmax Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Not everyone deals with things the same way. She might be one of those who act like the last few years never happened, she might also act like you dont exist, it's just a way of coping. I think I am doing the same to my ex but I do think about her. She probably thinks that I don't. When I feel I am 100% there and ready, I will make contact and if she wants to talk we can. The first few months are especially too early to re-open contact. So don't expect her to get in contact anytime soon, until she is getting over your and moving on herself Give her space and time, she will get in contact one day. Don't live your life for that moment though. You have to live your life and move on. If she never contacts you again, she was not worth your time! I don't know how anyone could be that cold and heartless What good is it when they are moving on? 1
Author Dazzee Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 I don't want to move on, I want to better myself and take care of myself but I still want to be with her. That is the sad truth in this all. Nothing can change my mind on the matter really. I want more than anything else to be with her. She is my first love and I could find others, but I know no one could ever give me what this girl has given me (a lot of people here of more experiance or that havent felt love this deep will disagree but it's the whole hearted truth). I only hope she doesn't move on, or move into some rebound. I really hope she feels something close to what I do. In the past she has begged Me not to leave Her, to which I came to my senses after calming and apologize profusely. I know I could never have left her. I thought she felt the same about me. I still think she does, it's just over shadowed by hurt and resentment. I hope she contacts.
theonlyjuan Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 You need to do the same. It can all get a bit childish like " I'm not contacting him first " Just do your own thing and try not to worry what she is up to 1
Author Dazzee Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 You need to do the same. It can all get a bit childish like " I'm not contacting him first " Just do your own thing and try not to worry what she is up to Ill try. I'm just stuck thinking about her constantly since it happened. Either ill talk to my friends or my mum about her, and only that, or ill think about her constantly, or then come here and post about it for help or read other similar stories or google for help. I'm so broken and miss her so much I just can't think about anything else... Nothing distracts me.
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