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I am married (12 years together) and we have been trying for a baby for over a year. It's become stressful and has put a lot of pressure on us as a couple. I have started having an affair with a guy in work. I don't want any comments about the fact that I'm married and shouldn't be sleeping around, I get that and know I'm a total ****. My question is this. It's my fertile days, I had sex with my husband Saturday and then had sex with my other fella on Sunday. We were both a little tipsy and even though he had condoms he didn't use them and pulled out (twice!). He has asked me to get the morning after pill but what if this is the month my husbands little guys succeeded? In my head I know I should get the MAP but I'm just wondering what the chances would be that the twice we had sex and he pulled out would result in a pregnancy?

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It's unlikely. If you and husband have been trying for over a year, surely he's had his semen tested. Easiest first evaluation. That's trusting that you actually understand ovulation and sperm life. Many in fact, do not.

Sarabi Established Member

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It's unlikely.

 

But not impossible...:confused:

I don't care what anyone says or how difficult they think it is. When you are desperate and want something too much it can elude you. If you are not menopausal or had a hysterectomy and are sexually active and having unprotected sex then you can get pregnant. However small, there is always a chance.

Anyway. I am either in a very bad mood or the world has gone completely mad. I was speaking with another friend about this a couple of months ago("I can't afford another baby but me and my husband are not using contraception...")...I don't understand how these supposedly mature, adult people are putting penises into vaginas then asking how they got pregnant or where babies come from :mad:

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I am married (12 years together) and we have been trying for a baby for over a year. It's become stressful and has put a lot of pressure on us as a couple. I have started having an affair with a guy in work. I don't want any comments about the fact that I'm married and shouldn't be sleeping around, I get that and know I'm a total ****. My question is this. It's my fertile days, I had sex with my husband Saturday and then had sex with my other fella on Sunday. We were both a little tipsy and even though he had condoms he didn't use them and pulled out (twice!). He has asked me to get the morning after pill but what if this is the month my husbands little guys succeeded? In my head I know I should get the MAP but I'm just wondering what the chances would be that the twice we had sex and he pulled out would result in a pregnancy?

 

Well. Far be it from me to tell you how you should behave but whatever else is happening madam I hope that you're generally looking after yourself...i.e. Your sexual health and pre-conception health

:o...

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I am married (12 years together) and we have been trying for a baby for over a year. It's become stressful and has put a lot of pressure on us as a couple. I have started having an affair with a guy in work. I don't want any comments about the fact that I'm married and shouldn't be sleeping around, I get that and know I'm a total ****. My question is this. It's my fertile days, I had sex with my husband Saturday and then had sex with my other fella on Sunday. We were both a little tipsy and even though he had condoms he didn't use them and pulled out (twice!). He has asked me to get the morning after pill but what if this is the month my husbands little guys succeeded? In my head I know I should get the MAP but I'm just wondering what the chances would be that the twice we had sex and he pulled out would result in a pregnancy?

 

Take the pill NOW. You are running out of time for it's effectiveness.

 

I am not following you on pulling out twice. You had sex twice, he pulled out twice and came twice? If yes, did he pee in between? If no, sperm was still there and yes you can get pregnant..trust me on that one.

 

And, this is sick..sex with your husband on Saturday, sex with another man on Sunday, wanting a baby with your husband.......sorry, I had to say it.

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I am married (12 years together) and we have been trying for a baby for over a year. It's become stressful and has put a lot of pressure on us as a couple. I have started having an affair with a guy in work. I don't want any comments about the fact that I'm married and shouldn't be sleeping around, I get that and know I'm a total ****. My question is this. It's my fertile days, I had sex with my husband Saturday and then had sex with my other fella on Sunday. We were both a little tipsy and even though he had condoms he didn't use them and pulled out (twice!). He has asked me to get the morning after pill but what if this is the month my husbands little guys succeeded? In my head I know I should get the MAP but I'm just wondering what the chances would be that the twice we had sex and he pulled out would result in a pregnancy?

 

Think how you would be feeling and ask yourself this, "what if the baby is the other fella's?" now try to see what approach you would take.. with yourself and your H!

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Wow this is some Jerry Springer sh*t!

 

How do you not understand how sex works? Anything is possible. Women get pregnant whilst on BC. I've heard of some couples that can't get pregnant together then end up with a different partner and BAM!

 

Why are you risking this? Ur poor H could end up raising a child that isn't his. The A is fd up enough but doing that to someone is in humane.

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But not impossible...:confused:

I don't care what anyone says or how difficult they think it is. When you are desperate and want something too much it can elude you. If you are not menopausal or had a hysterectomy and are sexually active and having unprotected sex then you can get pregnant. However small, there is always a chance.

Anyway. I am either in a very bad mood or the world has gone completely mad. I was speaking with another friend about this a couple of months ago("I can't afford another baby but me and my husband are not using contraception...")...I don't understand how these supposedly mature, adult people are putting penises into vaginas then asking how they got pregnant or where babies come from :mad:

 

My MM agreed to have a baby with his "infertile" wife to appease her. Guess what? She got pregnant and he's dumbfounded. "I didnt think it would ever happen. I'm sorry"

 

Yes real shocker. U got Ur W pregnant while having sex based on her ovulation schedule. :/

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Balzac Established Member

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The bigger question is why did affair dude ask you take emergency pill?

Balzac Established Member

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ALL newly pregnant women are fully tested as a matter of protocol

 

Kill the fetus? Kill the newborn? Oh puhleez. Care to cite your peer reviewed source on that comment?

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I am married (12 years together) and we have been trying for a baby for over a year. It's become stressful and has put a lot of pressure on us as a couple. I have started having an affair with a guy in work. I don't want any comments about the fact that I'm married and shouldn't be sleeping around, I get that and know I'm a total ****. My question is this. It's my fertile days, I had sex with my husband Saturday and then had sex with my other fella on Sunday. We were both a little tipsy and even though he had condoms he didn't use them and pulled out (twice!). He has asked me to get the morning after pill but what if this is the month my husbands little guys succeeded? In my head I know I should get the MAP but I'm just wondering what the chances would be that the twice we had sex and he pulled out would result in a pregnancy?

 

 

 

This doesn't really seem like an OW/OM type of question. I'd suggest calling your doctor's office?

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Why on earth are you drinking while you are trying to conceive? Do some research on FASD. It's awful, any parent who would risk that for their child deserves to be hung in the town square. Why on earth are you trying to conceive when you don't have the emotional maturity to raise a child?

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I am married (12 years together) and we have been trying for a baby for over a year. It's become stressful and has put a lot of pressure on us as a couple. I have started having an affair with a guy in work. I don't want any comments about the fact that I'm married and shouldn't be sleeping around, I get that and know I'm a total ****. My question is this. It's my fertile days, I had sex with my husband Saturday and then had sex with my other fella on Sunday. We were both a little tipsy and even though he had condoms he didn't use them and pulled out (twice!). He has asked me to get the morning after pill but what if this is the month my husbands little guys succeeded? In my head I know I should get the MAP but I'm just wondering what the chances would be that the twice we had sex and he pulled out would result in a pregnancy?

 

You've taken a huge chance and also chosen to put yourself in a situation that could hurt many people, including a possible innocent baby.

 

Get a pregnancy test done. Go from there. If you are indeed pregnant, then you need to confess to your husband the truth about your affair and let the chips fall where they fall.

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Why on earth are you drinking while you are trying to conceive? Do some research on FASD. It's awful, any parent who would risk that for their child deserves to be hung in the town square. Why on earth are you trying to conceive when you don't have the emotional maturity to raise a child?

 

I wanted to say this too(about the drinking)...but thought the better of it :o...

But. As she says in her post she and her husband are under a lot of pressure. This affair and new man are probably escapes from the recent stresses of life...

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Trying to conceive for over a year is medical infertility. How any couple handles this is variable. OP asked questions and LSers have chimed in w thoughtful answers and suggestions.

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Sarabi Established Member

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Why on earth are you trying to conceive when you don't have the emotional maturity to raise a child?

 

The fact you have not become pregnant yet is a blessing as you are a mess and in no position to be a Mother right now-you need to do whats right and either/or fix your marriage, end or affair or go on birth control.

 

As for your question, what Goodbye said- call your doctor-

 

And therein lies the problem...

It is becoming increasingly apparent to me that MARRIAGE and HAVING CHILDREN are two of many very serious life altering events which, for the most part, people enter into far too lightly, with flimsy/selfish reasons and little regard for the consequences. Sorry if you disagree...

Also, I remember in another thread about marriage/having kids, a member said that she believed most women didn't know what to do with themselves so "oh...let me have a baby". I believe this to be true too-a lot of people don't know why they do it but will do it anyway. regardless of whether they are truly suitable or ready.

As regards emotional maturity...I believe some get married and get pregnant because they believe it will make them grow up. Or because its a right step to take. Perhaps they believe that by doing it, it will make things better in their lives(cement our relationship/draw us closer & that usual sentimental flimsy b0llock$ :rolleyes:). Which it might be but I don't believe that being married automatically makes you suitable for parenthood.

 

In this situation it looks like having a baby, even if it might be with another man...will take the pressure off the OP :confused:.

 

Anyway. You made some very good points and the current lack of pregnancy is a blessing...but as is typical, I'm sure this advice might go unheeded. After all, what is one more screwed up human being when the world is already full of them.

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And therein lies the problem...

It is becoming increasingly apparent to me that MARRIAGE and HAVING CHILDREN are two of many very serious life altering events which, for the most part, people enter into far too lightly, with flimsy/selfish reasons and little regard for the consequences. Sorry if you disagree...

Also, I remember in another thread about marriage/having kids, a member said that she believed most women didn't know what to do with themselves so "oh...let me have a baby". I believe this to be true too-a lot of people don't know why they do it but will do it anyway. regardless of whether they are truly suitable or ready.

As regards emotional maturity...I believe some get married and get pregnant because they believe it will make them grow up. Or because its a right step to take. Perhaps they believe that by doing it, it will make things better in their lives(cement our relationship/draw us closer & that usual sentimental flimsy b0llock$ :rolleyes:). Which it might be but I don't believe that being married automatically makes you suitable for parenthood.

 

In this situation it looks like having a baby, even if it might be with another man...will take the pressure off the OP :confused:.

 

Anyway. You made some very good points and the current lack of pregnancy is a blessing...but as is typical, I'm sure this advice might go unheeded. After all, what is one more screwed up human being when the world is already full of them.

 

 

My father had an affair with MOW who lived a few doors down. My half sister is a product of this union. It was difficult on everyone. My half sister is very resentful.

 

Ironically, my half sister had an affair and that also produced a child(can you say repetition compulsion?). She tried to pass the child off as her husbands. But the brother who is a doctor was suspicious and took my nephew for a DNA. The truth was revealed and the pain it caused the family was immense.

 

My nephew aws 4 years old when the truth came out. I heard his paternal grandmother went into deep depression. 8 months later, my half sister's husband died in a car accident. He was not yet 30.

 

I always felt the fact his son was not his changed him greatly. Perhaps he was not concentrating on the road because he was still shell shocked. I don't know.

 

But I do know that my half sister was so selfish, so evil she allowed my nephew to think the man he thought to be his father abandoned him when his father died. That they were just evil people. It was not till recently he learned the truth.

 

This situation is usually bred by selfish people who do not understand the lifelong consequences of their actions. hard to sympathize with one who is getting themselves into this situation.

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Take the pill, if you are pregnant and there is a 50% chance the child is OM's your life will become hell. Things have a way of surfacing like the need to know the fathers medical history because of an accident or surgery. I can tell you first hand because it happened to me, your soon to be ex husband will never forgive you for the humiliation you cause him and both your families. OM will want rights to his child. How f**ken stupid can one be, banging another man while you are trying to conceive with your husband, you deserve what ever comes your way.

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Take the morning after pill. Come clean with your partner - let him go so that he can have a family with someone that loves and respects him. Do whatever with this other guy. Stop trying to conceive.

 

Sort your **** out before bringing a child into this world. Learn the value of honesty, respect and integrity so that you can pass these attributes onto a child as their mother.

 

I recommend therapy.

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You are trying for a baby with your H, but at the same time you are shagging another man on the side?

 

And I thought I had problems.

 

Please stop this behavior. Get tested for everything, stop shagging OM, and focus on your M with your H. Else leave and have a baby with your OM just to stuff up his life as well.

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Please take the pill. Not only are you having an EMA you are risking a child in the middle of it. I don't understand why if you are not fully committed to your husband you would want to bring a child into that situation. I would not even be considering it till I ended my A and got my M back on track.

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I'm not going to judge you...jk I;m totally judging you!!!

 

In all seriousness, call Maury. God bless, and protect yourself.

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