periwinkle08 Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Hi everyone I have been in an LDR online for a year now. We are literally from different parts of the world, as in East meets West. We are both consenting adults and are both working in our respective countries. We have seen each other on Skype and are both connected on yahoo messenger and facebook. We talk on a daily basis inspite of the time zone differences. Anyway, my dilemma with my SO is that he professes that he doesn't have a cellphone. He actually does have one but he says it is provided by the company he works for and it can only be used for emergencies. Furthermore, I have asked him about it to further our communication instead of just chatting on our designated time several times, but he always defend himself that he cant afford it, esp the rates of calling internationally. I offered that he can give me his landline and I have found a way to call him on his phone for free, without any call charges, but he wouldn't give it. I actually have feelings for him but this niggling doubt about his having no phone keeps me always suspicious that he has something to hide that he doesn't want me to know somehow. Please I would like an advice on how to go about this. Thank you for your help.
FitChick Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 I wouldn't get too emotionally invested in someone I had never met. He probably has a girlfriend or wife.
justwhoiam Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 He doesn't want you to get that close to him. So leave him alone for good.
Author periwinkle08 Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 hi...thanks for replying guys...but he is planning to meet me next year.he will come here in my country to meet me. until now he hasnt told me his phone number and i confronted him with it.he told me why would he plan to meet me if he has something to hide? i really do have feelings for him...but im beginning to realize he might be using me...
justwhoiam Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 but he is planning to meet me next year.he will come here in my country to meet me. So what? You're not allowed to invade his own space. You can't get too close to his private life. If he comes visit you, he will let you know whatever he wants about his private life. Possibly nothing. It's not that you're going to see his place, meet his friends and see if he has any skeleton in his closet, and he could keep you in the dark about his real job, family, etc. he told me why would he plan to meet me if he has something to hide? Tell him that you're going there in two months to meet him and see if he s--ts his pants. Ask him his home address. i really do have feelings for him...but im beginning to realize he might be using me... If he's not willing to share the above information but willing to come visit you, that's highly suspicious and, yes, probably using you.
Author periwinkle08 Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 thank you for that hard knock on the head. i deserve that. I am going to break up with him tom
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